I have been dumped!

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NW1

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At the beginning of the year I asked around for a horse to help with one or two days a week, an old friend responded she has a nervous wreck of a cob just over from Ireland, beaten & in a real sorry state; she didn’t have enough time for him.
Perfect hey.... just ride and love him.
Things were going great in a nice routine, I built his confidence up, and riding to a decent level (he couldn’t even canter to start off with!) & most of all he learnt that affection cuddles &scratches were nice & enjoyable.
Her situation changed and she needed to sell him on, I was gutted but understood where she came from. Every time I asked there was no interest in him at all.
In the meantime.... I went down on a Saturday am & helped muck out her horses, but gradually as the weeks passed she’d get later and later and start saying she had to shoot off, leaving me to finish off the yard. I didn’t mind to start off with but it turned onto every week. One morning I went up there and I got a text (not early) saying she’s gone away for the weekend & could I do the horses?! Took the pee a little bit....
I didn’t spend much on the horse but the little bits I got him ALWAYS went missing or got broken.
Nothing had happened in regards to the sale & again all the time I asked ... nothing.
I was due to go down the other evening (as normal) & got a text just as I was about to leave my house saying
‘Sorry I forgot to tell you yesterday I sold him’
A bit gutted as I thought she may have had the decency to tell me as I’ve done so much work with him but I took it as she may have felt bad for doing it &didn’t know how to tell me or whatever...
I had loads of chats with her saying how I understood her situation & these things happen etc but she always said I would be able to help her as she buys young horses to bring on & sell so I would be able to help her with any other.
Now after this one text I got. I asked if he was still at the yard & got no response, the next day i said how it was a shame & did she still want my help but still nothing. Nothing at all.
I just don’t get why there is no response, or contact, I feel like I’ve been used a bit
*sigh* in a sad mood today....
 
I would be in a bad mood too, it does sound like you've been used a bit. What would she have done without you?! Doesn't really sound like she has time for horses!
 
That's so sad , what a self centred friend however you gave the horse the chance of a better life and you should take comfort from that.
Just move on look for someone else to help, you can't change people like that.
 
That is really sad and not very decent of your friend.

At least he was lucky enough to find you and it is down to you he has hopefully found a loving home where he can be cherished and enjoyed.
 
All the horsey people I know- we knew this person a long time ago & we were all a bit apprehensive of her then (a bit of a fickle approach to horses etc) BUT people grow up & do change... or so I thought.

I'm just a little deflated today :(
 
Goldenstar said:
That's so sad , what a self centred friend however you gave the horse the chance of a better life and you should take comfort from that.
Just move on look for someone else to help, you can't change people like that.
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This. Can't understand how you can "forget" to tell someone you sold the horse! You've been more than good about the whole thing. Not much of a friend, I'm afraid! Take care x
 
Like you all say - at least the little man has learnt to trust people again & can enjoy his life a bit more now.
 
Some people are just users. I know you will be gutted, but try & focus on the positive aspects not your so called friend. And you sound like the type of person that normal people would really appreciate, so I'm sure next time you will be snapped up by somebody deserving.
 
Sorry you have been 'used' by a so called 'friend' such a shame like you say though at least you have been able to show him what love and affection is, shame you couldn't get to speak to his new owners.

I wouldn't bother with her again.
 
Doesnt sounds like she has time for horses or friends unless she needs something. She sounds a lovely individual, not.

Poor you, after all that time you spent with him and the help offered and this 'friend' took you for granted and sorry to say this, used you. Now she has no use for you she isnt interested in talking.

Hopefully you will find someone else to help out who will truely appreciate the help you give.
 
I know how you feel, a couple of years ago i was in exact same situation as you. I was 14years old, shared a 14.2hh pony, who napped badly, i worked with him a lot and taught him not to, i broke in both of the ladies shetlands for her too, mucked out all the stables every time, poo picked the field, cleaned the tack, when her daughter turned up at the weekend to compete i went to groom for her, and no i didn't get paid for any of it, i paid for the 'privilage' to do all those things. Then one day lady said that at the weekend her daughter is taking one of the other horses instead of the pony and if i would like to take the pony to my first show. I was over the moon, went out to buy all the show gear for me and a new browband and a set of smart boots for the pony. I turn up at the yard 7am on sunday morning, the lady is loading the other horse onto lorry, sees me and says to me ''sorry, i forgot to text you last night, we sold him. but you can still come with us and help out here if you want'' so i do know how you feel :(
At least you gave the pony the condfidence to enjoy life again and he went to a lovely new home, and you can stop 'helping' the friend and find another share that won't take the p and use you :) big hugs ((()))
 
we all know a person like that im afraid :(. I once helped a girl by every morning turning her horse out who was very violent and difficult to handle just so that her parents didnt have to get up and take her to the yard, they then went on to buy her a trailer and had a car capable of towing 2 but not once did they take me to a show i always rode, i got to the point were i thought i dont do favors to get them back but im not being used as a mug some people will walk all over u if u let them it so rude :(

AJ x
 
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