I have changed my mind!!! I feel so so bad!!

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I feel terribly guilty at this moment in time.

I had a very interested party (for two 12yo girls to share) in my horse advertised for full loan. They came to see my mare and fell in love with her. We then arranged another time for them to come and try her out hacking which was a couple of weeks ago and they again still adored her. We sat down and came up with a loan agreement and I talked them through what she gets fed and her daily routine etc. They then left and said they will be in contact when they had sorted transport out (I had said that I also wanted to go with the mare but my lorry had broken down which it has
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) so could I follow in the car, they said yes sure fine. These people live about 2 hrs away.

They keep ringing/e-mailing me suggesting dates/times that they could come with the trailer but I keep putting them off because I have since had a lady interested that lives literally up the road from me (6 mins!) She has been to see my horse and would love to have her.

My problem is I would much rather my horse went locally so I could keep an eye on her. I feel so bad and guilty though if I told the first interested party that I did not want to loan her to them anymore! I feel so awful!

Help!!
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Tbh at the moment you are being unfair on the girls, you need to tell them. At the end of the day she is your horse so you can give her to whichever home you want but let them know either way. Sorry if I sound a bit harsh but I have been in the situation of trying to loan a horse and it is maddening when people keep you waiting!!

ETS I in your situation would also want my horse closer to home - much easier to keep an eye that way!!
 
Don't feel awful, you are doing what is right for your horse, hopefully. You want to keep an eye on her, just as I would, and this is your opportunity.

I would be entirely honest with the girls but you must be entirely happy that this local woman is the right home before you definitely turn them down.

I don't see any point in lying. What goes around comes around, and you are only doing what is right for the welfare of your horse.
 
Don't feel bad at all! You have to what is best for you and your neddy. If I ever loaned out one of my horses I would want them as close as possible so that I could make sure all was well.

I'm sure the girls will be upset - but I can assure you that they will get over it as soon as they find another horse to ride.

Do not feel bad.
 
where do you think she would be better off? It depends on who has more experience. I would be incredibly selfish and keep her local, but then in means breaking two little girls' hearts! Cant you go and see where she would be kept before they have her? Atleast that would put you're mind at rest.
Good Luck... Rather you than me!
 
Don't feel too bad as at the end of the day she is your horse and you are concerned.

However I think as you are putting her out on loan she needs to go to the right home for her, not just the one that suits you most. Depending on what your horse is like I think you need to base your decision on that. If the girls are going to take her out and have some fun on her would it be fair to send her to a lady who may only use her as a happy hacker? I'm not saying that is the case but maybe just something to consider. Either way I think you should tell the girls as they are clearly fairly serious and excited about having her and it's not fair to keep them hanging on.
 
You have your horse's best interests at heart so go with whoever you feel most comfortable with. I would just call the others and say you're sorry but someone local has come forward, and you wish them luck in finding something.
 
It isn't so much the girls, it is the parents as well, I have been e-mailing them for weeks and weeks now and I can tell they are all so excited. I am dreading it but it is best to be honest.
 
i think its a shame on the girls if they have been gettin there hopes up for weeks, especially since there 12yo. i would be absolutly gutted if somethin like that happened to me now let alone when i was 12. but its ur decision in the end just hope u pick the right home. abby's mum is at the other end of the country from me and we just keep in touch through photos and things
 
TBH, I would much prefer my beast to go somewhere near to me, just in the case of any problems! Also, as great as the two girls may be, do they have horsey parents? I have always been one to say 'over 18's only' in my adverts, even though the beast is a pony.

Whatever you decide, let the girls know soon, they must be getting so upset.
 
Don't think that just because the horse is closer to you it will be the best home. I put my boy out on loan just 15 mins away from me. I went to see him every few weeks to check up on him but at some stage you have to back off and let the new people take over and you have to trust them. A few months later i just happend to be talking to some one and they kept their horse in the next field and told me to go and see him asap, which i did and 20 mins later i was back there with my horsebox taking him home. It turns out she only put hay out for him on the days i came to see him. I don't want to go into it too much,but the home seemed nice and the lady but i was well and truly fooled.
 
Have you already signed the load agreement? Even if you have not but have agreed verbally that they can loan the horse then you should honor your agreement IMO. If you didn't think they were going to be ok then why agree to loan it to them in the 1st place?
 
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