I have no idea what to do - is it time to give up?

You're not letting him down if you sell. But is there anyone with experience and a steady horse you could ride with for a bit? It might help. I have a 17.3 part elephant 5 yo who I backed then turned away while I was pregnant. Once the baby arrived I suddenly became overwhelmed with the "what ifs" despite 30 odd years experience. One day I was recounting a nasty incident with a tractor to an instructor friend, who knew all about the baby confidence thing herself. She came out with us and really pushed me to do new things with my boy, and it made a huge difference. I trust him much more again now and can see how good he is despite his youth.

You don't need to rush your decision...take your time and the right thing will become apparent :)
 
Well, I bit the bullet at the weekend and advertised for a sharer for B. I have no idea if I'll have any interest, but I'm steeling myself to sell him come spring. I discussed it briefly with my instructor on Saturday, and I would almost see her go "thank god for that!" I'll be so sad, but things really can't continue as they are :(
 
Casey76 said:
Well, I bit the bullet at the weekend and advertised for a sharer for B. I have no idea if I'll have any interest, but I'm steeling myself to sell him come spring. I discussed it briefly with my instructor on Saturday, and I would almost see her go "thank god for that!" I'll be so sad, but things really can't continue as they are :(
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I think you are making the right decision. Well done :)
 
Hi usually i would read all the replies before answering but I am at work ;)

I know how you feel, I had one that made me feel the same. Very similar story. I had him from 11 months old, I adore him, he is just so beautiful and sweet but I just did not get on with riding him. I think it was because he was so different to my heavy cob and because it was kinda stop start, due to stifle issues and growing issues. He did nothing wrong, he is easy to handle, I could go to shows on my own, he was super. I just never could get my full confidence on him. The day I made the decision that enough was enough, I felt so much better. I went out and bought Kevin and have not looked back. Kevin is not easy but I just have so much more confidence on him, I guess there is more to hang on to! Little Moses is now with a teenager on full loan and he seems happy, I saw him on Friday and she posts on FB, so i can keep in touch that way. I feel sad he has gone but like you I was paying for him to be ridden and it was not enough for him, in the end he had to come first. He is now the centre of a young girls universe, which is what he deserves and I have what I need and deserve, my Kev. I'm glad you have reach your decision, I am sure it will work out for you. It is meant to be fun.
 
Well done, that took a lot of courage to tell your instructor. And writing the advert is another significant step. Let the next few months unfold and see where you are come Spring - you might have a wonderful sharer in your lives that's slotted in perfectly or you may be sitting down to write another advert for him. Wherever you are, I hope you get there feeling less burdened than you have up til now. Good luck OP :)
 
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