I just can’t motivate myself

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Have any of you ever felt the way I do at the moment? I just can’t motivate myself to ride at all. I used to ride at least 5 times a week and be out and about either hunting, box to the beach, pleasure rides, every weekend last year. Over the past few months I have started to ride less and less and now its once a week if that. I have 3 horses one is out on full loan and the other two are on fully livery and are kept fit by the grooms so by no way they are neglected in anyway. I feel so guilty that I hardly go up but I just can’t seem to fit riding into my life at the moment. I am not sure if it’s a confidence issue on my part as one of the horses did acted up an started to rear but she is good as gold now. Or I have got out of the swing of things and completely burnt myself out last year. Any action plans would be a great help to get back into riding.
 
I know how you feel.I was a active rider until 1989 and then left UK,got married in 91,had 3 kids and years later family moved back to the UK,I got my gorgeous cobby horse in 2005 unbroken,then when he had been backed my friend rode him,was a bit hard as had no mouth,anyway I got on and before I could say ok,only one foot in the stirrup ,boom he was off and eventually I lost my balance and came off with a bang,and that was it,I sent him off he went to be professionally broken in and he is now as quiet as a mouse with very good brakes,BUT there is still a lack of confidence my end,so like you havent ridden in ages.Motivation needed,its time I bought him back into work.
Was going to do it today but its raining lol
Hope it all works for you.Maybe if you just took it slowly!!!!!!!
 
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Sometimes yeah....I have got worse since having our own yard- despite the fact they are on the doorstep I sometimes really cannot be arsed. I have 2 youngish ones that are doing well and I'm bringing them on (very:p) slowly and I could take OH's mare out jumping or whatever....I just lack motivation because I'm on my own so often.....

I always enjoy it when I do though......
 
I have felt like this sometimes

I have made myself ride and then loved it. next time I didn't feel like it I would remind myself how much I loved it once I actually got on.
 
Thats the key being on your own and need a boot up the bum to make you realise what your missing.I lack confidance right now and I AM going to make myself get on him. (hes as good as gold).
 
Thats the key being on your own and need a boot up the bum to make you realise what your missing.I lack confidance right now and I AM going to make myself get on him. (hes as good as gold).

yes it is :D and just remind yourself over and over of it

I know what you mean, my lad is good as gold too (just a bit excitable sometimes)
 
I think I know where you're coming from, as for a period last year, I put both mine onto full livery due to work commitments, but I still planned to ride every day, and strangely I found it harder to motivate myself to go up to the yard to ride when they were on full livery, compared to when I had one, or both of them on DIY.

I think it's because I enjoy the management side as much as the riding, and also, I'm the sort of person who operates best under a bit of pressure or when a deadline is looming - so in the same sort of way, knowing I have to be at the yard by 6.30am to muck out, make feeds and ride before work is easier for me to do and gives me a more satisfying feeling, than knowing they're already being done and it's not essential for me to go up.
 
I think everyone is right, though I am the opposite. Sometimes if I feel I have to get on a ride, I find i haven't got anything I want to do and don't enjoy it.

I wouldn't worry about it, I'm sure one day soon, the sun will be out the ground will be nice, and you'll be thinking 'I so badly want to get on my horse and run round like silly people'

I had a stage where I didn't ride or want to ride. I just didn't and it didnt mean I loved my horse any less. x
 
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