I knew things were going too well ?

[doodle]

Robin bronced me off and took off home. Landed and hit my head hard. Once I got back to yard realised I didn’t feel well. Untacked and rugged and felt very unwell. Didn’t realise how sore neck was till doctor poked the vertebrae and I almost hit the roof. Many xrays and I’m lucky and nothing broken. It was al going so well ?

 

[[59668]]

Oh I'm so sorry to hear this
I hope you are ok. Be sure to take extra note of how you are feeling re possible concussion over the next few days and take care of yourself.
Do you know why he bronced?

 

[doodle]

I’m not sure. I think he just boiled over. Cantering a stubble field, he got strong, I circled to get control. Back to trot. Cantered again and again he got strong and I couldn’t slow him. Circled again, got trot. Straightened up asked for canter and he bronced. I don’t usually circle to get him back. The canter was a bit hollow. I sat 3 or so but he dropped shoulder and there was nothing holding me up. He took off. Got to end of field and stopped then saw the road and set off home. Set off walking after ringing a couple of people to say he was heading home. Then came across a lovely lady leading him back down the road. I set off to walk home but managed to get back on on someone’s garden wall which I was surprised he let me. He walked home fine. I should have taken him in school when back but was feeling wobbly. I have struggled with confidence but he has been so good. Last couple of rides he was feeling well so I am hoping he was just keen and cross at me for circling.

 

[MereChristmas]

So sorry this happened.
Lots of horses seem to be silly at the moment.
Take care of yourself.

 

[Baywonder]

So sorry to hear about your fall @Kamikaze - I hope you feel better soon.

 

[COldNag]

Oh no Kamikaze, I hope you can rest up - take it easy for a few days.

 

[Rumtytum]

Really sorry Kamikaze, as you say it was all going so well. Just glad you haven’t broken anything but please be aware of how you are feeling (physically as well as emotionally).

 

[CanteringCarrot]

Well, hopefully he just had a case of being silly. Many of the horses at the yard and feeling a bit fresh at the moment. Mine even walked at a faster pace than usual on his hack and wasn't a total snail!

 

[Quigleyandme]

Oh dear. Well done you for getting back on him and riding him home and seeing to him although you were feeling lousy. My two were always a bit lit up when their coats were changing. I hope you feel better soon. X

 

[doodle]

Stupid thing is a month ago he got blood tests as was feeling flat! He has come in at night for almost a week so I am hoping he is just feeling very well. I of course feel guilty as once back in stable I was tough on him and didn’t let him move until I said so. And I didn’t give him his tea. And of course worrying he is sore somewhere. I am planning to get on tomorrow. I CANNOT let this affect my confidence.

 

[OlderNotWiser]

As others have said do be careful and watch out for concussion. You could have been describing word for word my daughter’s horse this week.
She too came off In a field after turning circles and her boy broncing several times! Don’t overthink it, hopefully it’s just a blip.

 

[Upthecreek]

I’m afraid it’s silly season. The quieter of my two was an absolute tit out hacking today and the other one was even worse. Glad I won the coin toss with my daughter or it would have been me deposited in a puddle when he spun because he decided he absolutely could not go past a log he has been past about 50 times, even with slightly less stupid horse going first ?

Tomorrow is another day. Keep a check on how you feel in case of concussion, but if you feel okay and want to ride it will probably be good for both of you.

 

[Bernster]

Yikes yes do watch out for concussion and take care of yourself. There does seem to be a lot of it about. My ever reliable safe as houses boy bronced me off 2 weeks back and it shook me up, as well as hurt my head! Take it easy.

 

[Flowerofthefen]

Sorry to hear this but the fact that you got back on and walked home speaks volumes about your confidence. Look after yourself x

 

[MrsMozartleto]

Is definitely silly season lass. The last flush of grass, the change in the air.

Please just take it very steady as concussion is no fun.

 

[Not_so_brave_anymore]

My grass is greener and lusher now than it ever was in the spring - my seaside donkey of a pony was prancing and snorting like an Arab yesterday.

Please be kind to yourself. It sounds like you've had confidence wobbles in the past, but you've obviously overcome them before, so don't let yourself start to believe that if you don't get back on and do the exact same ride again tomorrow then you "never will". That's not how confidence works, and you mustn't ride if you have an active concussion x

 

[willowblack]

That sounds awful, I hope you feel better soon!
There is certainly something in the air at the moment, the grass seems potent. Mine was a complete clown practising for our dressage test last night and just wanted to go everywhere at speed. I think I’ll put a neck strap on today ?

 

[elsielouise]

[QUOTE="Kamikaze, post: ...... And I didn’t give him his tea. And of course worrying he is sore somewhere. I am planning to get on tomorrow. I CANNOT let this affect my confidence.[/QUOTE]

I’m sorry you fell off but not giving him his tea is not really an appropriate response. IMO of course. If you are suddenly concerned the feed is the problem then a token feed would do, but disturbing his routine is more likely to bring you challenging behaviours than solve them.

 

[Red-1]

I’m sorry you fell off but not giving him his tea is not really an appropriate response. IMO of course. If you are suddenly concerned the feed is the problem then a token feed would do, but disturbing his routine is more likely to bring you challenging behaviours than solve them.

OP did say that she felt guilty for not doing that, which you have cropped out of your quote. She already acknowledged that was not right. It was just done when she was shaken and traumatised. I don't expect it will happen again.

I of course feel guilty as once back in stable I was tough on him and didn’t let him move until I said so. And I didn’t give him his tea. And of course worrying he is sore somewhere.

It was a list of things that had gone wrong, not a congratulatory post.

 

[elsielouise]

And you are telling me off because?

 

[Red-1]

And you are telling me off because?

I think it is obvious that OP feels rubbish already, I hate anyone to make her feel worse.

Not sure how you could say that I was telling you off (if your post was aimed at me), just pointing out that she had already acknowledged it was not the best, if you had missed it.

 

[elsielouise]

I think it is obvious that OP feels rubbish already, I hate anyone to make her feel worse.

Not sure how you could say that I was telling you off (if your post was aimed at me), just pointing out that she had already acknowledged it was not the best, if you had missed it.

Absolutely and completely reasonable to not wish anyone to make her feel worse. But it’s a forum. And the whole point is we do comment. i hadn’t missed the guilt part thank you.

I hate situations where someone is unable to disassociate their own feelings enough to make rationale decisions about the care of their animals. Guilt is not an acceptable response. Yes the OP had a rotten experience, yes she felt bad and no one would want that. But she did post she didn’t feed her horse after an event when its behaviour was not as required. Acknowledging guilt after an event doesn’t change or make that OK.

I could ask why post that part if the story if not prepared to have it acknowledged. But we don’t Know the OP opinion. Just yours. Third party.


And why does a third party feel the need to comment and ‘defend’. I was writing to the OP as genuinely interested in why the horse may not be fed. It is not unreasonable to suggest a token feed could have replaced a possibly high energy one.

This forum is often an excellent source of advice, opinions from many experienced owners and trainers that are really useful. But it also perpetuates some ideas or excuses on occasion that are just not in the best interests of the animals we all care for. It’s never OK to allow your emotions to get in the way of your actions around the management of your animals and if you really can’t regulate enough to do so then you shouldn’t ride.

 

[southerncomfort]

And we all make rational decisions after a nasty fall and a banged head do we?

 

[Red-1]

Absolutely and completely reasonable to not wish anyone to make her feel worse. But it’s a forum. And the whole point is we do comment. i hadn’t missed the guilt part thank you.

I hate situations where someone is unable to disassociate their own feelings enough to make rationale decisions about the care of their animals. Guilt is not an acceptable response. Yes the OP had a rotten experience, yes she felt bad and no one would want that. But she did post she didn’t feed her horse after an event when its behaviour was not as required. Acknowledging guilt after an event doesn’t change or make that OK.

I could ask why post that part if the story if not prepared to have it acknowledged. But we don’t Know the OP opinion. Just yours. Third party.


And why does a third party feel the need to comment and ‘defend’. I was writing to the OP as genuinely interested in why the horse may not be fed. It is not unreasonable to suggest a token feed could have replaced a possibly high energy one.

This forum is often an excellent source of advice, opinions from many experienced owners and trainers that are really useful. But it also perpetuates some ideas or excuses on occasion that are just not in the best interests of the animals we all care for. It’s never OK to allow your emotions to get in the way of your actions around the management of your animals and if you really can’t regulate enough to do so then you shouldn’t ride.

Ah, you had already realised that OP was already feeling rubbish and had listed not feeding as something she already felt guilty about. OK.

I also like that the forum is somewhere for discussion.

I guess a third party felt the need to 'defend' as another third party had jumped in to 'criticise'. Both are valid and permitted on this forum. Personally, I think OP's horse is treated like a king and I have no concern for his welfare (from what is written, I don't know OP in real life). I just prefer to be kind to someone who is having a rough time, and who had already acknowledged their mistake.

I am also sorry to report that, much as I try to always do the right thing, after a long career working with horses and owning them, occasionally I have done the wrong thing too. Overall, I think that my horses get a good deal, but I do wish that I was an owner perfect enough never to "allow your emotions to get in the way of your actions around the management of your animals" so I guess, by your standards, I "shouldn't ride."

Happily, this forum allows a range of opinions: people do make mistakes, people are not computers and do have emotions, people do sometimes feel bad about things they have done, people do learn.

My concern is not with the people who acknowledge their mistakes and want to do better.

 

[Winters100]

So sorry to hear this - it is horrid when they become silly. I hope that you are not too sore today.

Don't worry about the missed feed. There is not one person who has always made the right decision for their horses, and you were in pain and stressed. If missing one meal is the worst thing that happens to him then he is a lucky horse!

Good luck today and let us know how you get on x

 

[doodle]

I didn’t want this to turn nasty and it has. Yes he didn’t get his feed. I didn’t think missing one scoop of chaff would kill him. He still has ad lib hay as normal. I know I am crap and feeling it even more today. However his feed will stay reduced. Yes I should have fed him yesterday but was feeling ill and not thinking straight. I guess I should immediately sell him and not ride again.

 

[scats]

I hope you’re feeling better today, do be careful after a head bang though. Do you have a headache or anything today?

Try not to worry too much about what happened or why, just chalk it down to daft October behaviour (we’ve got a yard full of idiots at the moment!).

 

[NinjaPony]

It won't have hurt him to not have one feed. And you're quite right, if he's got too much energy, reducing his feed is a very sensible idea.

Be kind to yourself. You've had a nasty shock, and have been in pain. Please make sure you heal properly before getting back on board, having a bad experience because you are not 100% will not help your confidence.

If you feel up to it, could you take him out for an in hand walk--wearing a helmet and using a bridle with a lunge line--to 'work' him again without getting on board?

Hope you feel better soon.

 

[TheOldTrout]

So sorry to hear this, neck pain is the pits. How are you today? And how is Robin?

 

[Baywonder]

I didn’t want this to turn nasty and it has. Yes he didn’t get his feed. I didn’t think missing one scoop of chaff would kill him. He still has ad lib hay as normal. I know I am crap and feeling it even more today. However his feed will stay reduced. Yes I should have fed him yesterday but was feeling ill and not thinking straight. I guess I should immediately sell him and not ride again.

Please don't be so hard on yourself @Kamikaze Everyone, at some point in their life, says or does things they wish they hadn't later on. I know I certainly have. You had a really nasty fall yesterday, and first and foremost you must make sure you are okay, and if need be, go back to see a doctor.

I have read and commented on a lot of your threads, and I understand completely that you have had a lot of things to deal with. You have been doing really well with Robin lately, so your fall yesterday must have come totally out of the blue. As others have already said, their horses are acting a bit silly lately too. Try and chalk this one down to the joys of horse ownership, and remember that today is a new day for you and Robin.