I need a bit of help please

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Dogbetty141

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the horse i have is on loan and was due to go back to his owner in june, i have emailed her and asked for the dates when she will be picking him up so i can get myself all ready. Anyway she helps me out with money as i was stuck last year for money and she was happy with me looking after him. But this time i was adament that i would be giving him back as he dopes still cost me a lot but she has said that if it is the financial side that is stopping me she will foot the bill!! how can i say no but i feel so guilty! It should be me paying shouldnt it. please advise me what to do should i give him back or carry on and let her pay for him. I dont want to give him back but i dont want to let her pay for him completley but she is happy to do soo! help me please.

liz
 
Perhaps she is just happy for the horse to be in work, and looked after so well.

Discuss it further with her. Sounds like a very generous offer.
 
We have had our pony out on loan, but she is back with us now as outgrown. If this situation had arisen with the loaners (unlikely as they had more money than me!) I would have considered offering to help out. If the owner feels her horse is happy and settled with you then I can understand her offering to help with money. Do you know her well enough to tell her exactly how you feel? I would think she just wants her horse to continue being well looked after, particularly if she perhaps would have to look for another loan home for him if she had him back.
 
I wouldn't feel too bad. i own one that I never sit on, she was bought to be a companion to my other mare and to bring on, I pay the livery..my sharer contributes to costs and pays for the shoes and says she wonders what I get out of it. Quite simple, I have a built in companion if i ever need to move yards and a horse that is increasing in value and experience that might eventually be suitable for my son to ride.

Maybe your owner just has an attachment to this horse and wants to do the best by it. If she is happy with the care you are providing and willing to support you financially then you are both happy.
To ease your conscience, would it be possible to find somewhere cheaper or are you actually ready to give this horse up and move on? (in which case be honest with the owner)
 
I have two horses on sort of loan - the owner pays for shoes, worming, field rent and hay and I have a free run with the pair of them. As and when I can afford it I pay for new rugs etc. Luckily they are both very very good doers so only need a little chaff and garlic powder in the summer. I'm completely head over heels in love with the two of them and can't imagine life without them. If I were you I would double check what the owner wants make sure you're both clear on what you want from each other and stick with it. I'd only give up the horse if its because you don't want the horse anymore. It sounds to me as though the owner trusts you and is glad that you're caring for their horse. Maybe the owner doesn't have the time to put to the horse but still wants to be a part of his life and thats why they're still prepared to contribute towards the costs??????????? Keep us posted on what you decide. Good luck.
 
As long as the owner is happy, go with it. This isnt such an uncommon arrangement. There are any number of absent owners who take great pleasure in having a horse even though they dont take on the day to day care or even sit on it.

If she wasnt happy to support you then Im sure she wouldnt have offered.
 
I totally agree- I think iof she is happy to pay then fine.Perhaps an agreement that confirms this would be a good idea to make you feel better about her financial agreement.
You sound like you have a great owner involved and are lucky to be in this position. However she also knows she is lucky to have the horse looked after well.
It seems a win win for both parties.I would recommend some sort of letter confirming her offer thou!!Good luck
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I have my boy on loan, his owner is so pleased that he is back doing things rather than vegetating in a field. Im sure if I found i was struggling for cash she'd be happy to put towards his keep, as the only other option is to sell him and then she'd loose him for good.

Id have a good chat with her and if its just the money worry issue im sure an agreement can be made, that suits everyone, esp the horse.
 
The owner would have to pay for his keep if you did'nt have him so why not. At least she knows he is active and being looked after. She must be pleased that you are looking after him to make this offer. i'd except, if you can pay anything at all then offer, at least she would know your not taking the pee..
 
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