I need advice - PTS

Oberon

Oberon

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Time is running out for my old girl.

I really worried about the younger dog, Salem.

I don't want the old girl PTS at home, I'd rather take her to the vet's.

But Salem freaks out when she leaves the house without him and he won't understand when she doesn't come back.

I don't know what to do?

(This is my first time - which is why I'm so lost with it all)
 
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hugs for you, its never easy...if you dont want her pts at home, can you take your younger one with you so he is with her at the end and he may then understand she is gone and not coming back. i really feel for you and hope all goes as well as possible....
 
My friends mum has two and one was PTS at the vets 2 days ago. She took him home in a blanket and left the other dog to say goodbye to it. He stood over his friend for a while, but after a day i think he understood and left him be. They will mourn but if given the chance they seem to say their goodbyes. My friends mum then buried him in the garden but kept the blanket for his friend. Other friend slept on the blanket and then lost all interest. Today the blanket was removed. Seemed to work the best way, but all are different. Hope you are ok, it's a very hard thing for us to do :(
 
I am very sorry to hear this. In my experience, if a dog is able to see that his friend is dead, he is able to understand what has happened and he will be easier to manage than if she leaves with you and doesn't come back. The easier way to do this is a home visit, with the vet taking her back to the surgery for cremation. Alternatively, you could take them both to the vets, and pts in the car. You and Salem could then have some time with her before returning home.
 
I agree with Justanotherneddy, we did exactly the same thing with our old brown Dobe Leo. Fred was allowed to sniff his body and he just accepted he was gone and didnt pine even though Leo was his best friend.

Ive always done this with my dogs and horses and its surprisingly how they just accept they have gone. I can think of nothing worse when you are heartbroken yourself dealing with a dog/horse looking for their friend and getting very distressed.
 
Sorry to go off track here ...

Will all vets do a home visit to pts?
We have elderly GSP sisters and I too will be facing the dilemma of what to do when the time comes.
I have never considered asking the vet to come to the house but it does seem a good solution :(
 
Quirky, I have never had a problem getting my vet to come to the house but I would check with your vet to be on the safe side. Its so much better for the dog especially if they hate the vets surgery and at times like these the dogs needs come first.
 
So sorry you are facing this Oberon, its such a horrible condition. In my experience it does help if the remaining dog can see their friend after pts, they do seem to accept it better. Buffy was done at home, lying in her bed. Evie came in sniffed her all over, lay by her for a while and then pottered outside again. She definitely missed her over the following weeks but at least she wasn't searching for her. If you aren't planning on bringing Xara home again then I would do as suggested and take Salem with you in the car and let him see her after she is pts. Most vets are very good about such things and will do everything they can to make things easier for you.

Quirky, I have been with more than one practice over the years and all have been happy to come to the home to pts, but as Dg says its best to check with your own vets.
 
Being totally practical about it.

Can one of you take Salem out for a walk, then the other take the other to the vet?
 
We have a vet come to the stables once a month for a clinic day. Do you think he would be willing to do it?

That would be perfect for us all.

I've had a chat with hubby who says he will support my decision, but in his opinion she is still happy enough to bimble around the house and climb the stairs to go to bed - so he feels she isn't suffering or ready to go.

We walked to the shop with Salem just before and she tried to bully her way out of the house with us and pitted her will against hubby :D

They had a little stand off with her pushing her head underneath our door guard and him threatening to guillotine her if she didn't back off :D

She only backed off when I told her to move :p.

So it's true that she struggles to get up and does so slowly and she can't go for a proper walk any more - but it's just me panicking again :o I'll give her some more time.

Sorry for the false alarm :o.
 
God, it's a nightmare isn't it? We're so desperate not to let them suffer.........

She sounds as if she's got some life in her yet, Oberon xxxxxx
 
Thanks :).

I should really talk to hubby BEFORE I start panicking :rolleyes:.

He is very fond of her, but she has always been MY dog and she's always been rather cheerfully disinterested in him....so he isn't as emotional about her and can see things more clearly :o.
 
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