I need help guys! Kind of long loaning problem...

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Sorry this is long but its been explained as detailed as possible - read on if your patient haha :) So basically I've been loaning my friends new Thoroughbred for 3 weeks now to assist with costs etc but we just haven't clicked. He isn't my kind of ride at all, although forward going and very well schooled, he isn't what I would call enjoyable for me to ride personally. I prefer a horse with quirks and a bit of spark and he just hasn't got any of this. He came very close to throwing me off in a jumping lesson last Thursday too, something which terrified me and I'm not normally an unconfident rider. He just went like tigger - on he spot, throwing his head around and backing up and into other horses in the lesson. Even when I've jumped him on his own he hasn't been nice, cat-leaping 1'9 cross leaving me clinging on for dear life round the school without stirrups!

I'm also starting college in September and went for my second induction today and the work load I'm receiving is somewhat frightful. I am also paying £20 a week for the privilege of riding a horse I don't enjoy. The girl I loan him off of is one of my best friends though and she can barely afford him without me and another loaner helping her out.

So guys, here is the crunch question - how do I tell her I want to stop loaning this horse without hurting her or ruining our friendship? I have to do it this week as I go on holiday next week and want to keep my confidence in tact. Any suggestions are greatfully recieved.

Cookies and Ben and Jerrys if you've gotten this far! :) x
 
I agree with all the other posters and if its just not for you then its a 'look after No.1' scenario.

If I were your friend I would understand completely.
 
explain - but give her notice so she can find someone else - I know its probably not money you want to spend but you would not be much of a friend if you left her in the lurch and from your post, you don't sound like that kind of person!
 
be honest with her:

say he's a great horse but over the weeks i've found out not the horse for me.

Blame yourself if you want a get out clause and say you don't feel confident enough with your jumping to bring him on further. This way you aren't blaming her precious horse and it might soften the blow.

You can also say that with college coming up you are worried about your work load and don't feel you can spend enough time with x

Perhaps offer to pay to put up a sharer advert for her in a local tack shop and offer to spread the word that she needs a sharer.
 
Be honest and say you don't click with him. But am puzzled about liking a horse with a quirk, that's what he sounded like to me, or perhaps he agrees with you, he doesn't click with you:D:D:D:D:D:D Fair Doo'ss:D:D:D:D
 
be honest and tell her......


its not your fault she can hardly afford him without you tbh and i hope shes not using that against you.
 
as the others have said tell her :) i have a horse who is out on loan and i would much rather know straightaway so i could find a new loaner- if you leave it it will soon be winter and then its really hard to find loaners. you also dont want your friend to think you are just giving up because its winter and you can't be arsed. :) i'd personally offer to keep paying for a few weeks and help with adverts to find someone new...say you know she's going to struggle money-wise but you just aren't enjoying the horse . if she's a friend she'll understand
 
Thanks for all of your help guys, I'm doing him two days again this week so I'm gonna make it my mission to tell her. Its not fair on her or her horse when he could be having someone who would be enjoying him riding him. I'll let you know how I get on. I'll be keeping the suggestion box open! Thanks again guys :). X
 
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