I need some advice..

[ycbm]

Several weeks ago, a poster was revered and crowned as Royalty because she didn't get reactive or touchy. I found that praise and carry-on a bit off, because it sounded like some posters were saying (in effect) if you listen to us and do what we say, you are fantastic.

I think you might be misjudging this one LL. If I'm right about the person you are talking about she deserves every bit of the praise she got for how she had managed her horse, and half the "great and good" on the forum, including me, told her to send the horse back or put it down.
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[DabDab]

R12 you're a new member here, I think, and I'd like to offer you a little unsolicited advice that you can obviously feel free to ignore.

Unless you can develop a slightly thicker skin and be a bit less touchy and reactive, you probably are not going to enjoy being on the forum.
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TBF, as a new poster who probably doesn't know one poster from another yet, to be told that you will receive advice from a specific poster who is an expert is probably a little bit intimidating. The joy of a forum afterall is that you can pick and choose from the advice presented.

I know it was good intentions and all, but probably didn't read that well and the OP was pretty open to suggestions up until that point.

 

[Chinchilla]

Ok, so I admit that might have been a bit of bad judgment on my part. But I absolutely will not give hoof advice because I lack the knowledge, and op did say he became "noticeably more forward" with hoof boots on, and even I'm not dim enough to miss that correlation. But the ester suggestion was meant as a kindness.
Incidentally, I freely acknowledge op shouldn't do everything I say; I said be open minded. That means question things. Question my suggestions, other posters', your farrier, livery friends etc....

(And yes I do see the irony in "don't do everything I say" and "do as I say when I say be open minded" ).