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I need to vent about this, and It's going to probably sound sooo selfish!

We have a guy in the yard who has horses there, and who has the use od a local riding school horse box as he moves horses about for him. He is also allowed to use it for our yard. Now........he will only take the children on the yard places.....................what bugs me and a few others is that these children have parents who are minted (they get whatever they want) yet don't pay for fuel for this lorry when they go places, and their parents could take them places, but there are a few of us adults who don't have towing licenses or anything to tow with and are in our 20's co cant really ask our parents to take us places. We offered to pay him if he could give us a lift and he said no, he will only take the children places (we we think is weird that he wants to spend all his time with the children)

I know I sound ungrateful, but we offered to pay for him to take us somewhere, its not like we asked for a free lift, or lifts ALL the time. And if we mention to anyone else that we might be going somewhere (and we need to book the yard trailer) they will then go and book it before we can !

We are thinking of going to the local gymkhana next weekend, but as we cant get a lift we would have to hack the 4 miles there, which I would do but I have a recently barefoot horse who I do not want to have to subject to that. I hate being at that age where I cant ask parents for favours, but being too old to ask anyone else! I cant wait until I can afford to do my trailer test and have a car to tow with - but that will prob be when MY kids (once i get married and have them) are old enough to go to shows!
 
That is a shame it is a pain when there is transport but you cannot use it
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I would be careful however about insinuating that this man has anything other than helpful and kind reasons for taking the children places, comments like that can lead to trouble.....
 
The main thing I would want to know would be is he insured?
Apart from that he can really do what he wants. Maybe he finds children less hassle than adults (hard to imagine I know!).
 
Bex7 - those rumours are already going about unfortunately, some folk have wondered for a while as he drives the kids everywhere(to-from stables, to shops etc etc)

I admit I have wondered about insurance, as if he is only transporting the school horses he will be insured for that, and wont have that horse transportation license thingy either I bet (knowing what this riding school is like!). So if something did happen it would be bads these kids horses are expensive!

Looks like I will have to beg my dad to actually use the jeep for the reason he bought it!
 
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Bex7 - those rumours are already going about unfortunately,

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Maybe he prefers taking kids because they don't gossip as much.
 
Well, unless he has a license to take payment for transporting horses he would be breaking the law anyway.

Besides, he is not under any obligation to take anyone anywhere and your lack of transport really isn't his problem?
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Nope, the kids are worse in fact and they actually huddle in wee groups slagging off other peoples horses.

We know he is under no obligation, but why tell people he can use the lorry for yard horses if needed, but then when u ask say its only for the children. I moved there because this was an option as I don't have transport - thats a reason why I am slightly peeved. And I dont believe I mentioned that my lack of transport was his problem, I just griped that I was annoyed that the spoilt little rich kids always got what they wanted.
 
The financial state of the childrens parents should actually be none of your concern.

It is up to the gentleman concerned who he does or does not take on his lorry. The fact that there are already rumours, which you were all too keen to elude to in your original post, would make me steer clear of ferrying gossipy women around also.

At my previous yards I have got on well with much younger girls, some half my age. i have picked them up, dropped them home, taken them to the shops and bought them sweets and taken them to McDonalds. Would this give someone the right to make comments or start rumours about me?
 
*** I did point out that I needed a whinge - those who didn't want to read a whinge should not have read the post**
Everyone is entitled to an opinion, my whinge was mine.

They are more 'concerns' than rumors about this gentleman but that was NOT the point of my post.

It is not HIS lorry.

No, it does not mean rumours should be started, but most people do wonder, and you never know. I am friends with a girl 9 years my junior and I run her about now and then, mainly cos she asks not cos I offer!

I am not concerned about the wealth of their parents, we hear about it most days anyways so it snot like we hunt out info!

It just reminds me of the likes of the more money you have the more free stuff you get as people are willing to do stuff for you for no reward.
 
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*** I did point out that I needed a whinge - those who didn't want to read a whinge should not have read the post**
Everyone is entitled to an opinion, my whinge was mine.


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Hmmmm... I assumed that in posting on an internet forum, you were inviting comment?

I have to say I find it incredibly tedious when people post potentially contenious threads and then get all funny when people express a different point of view.
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I'm not getting all 'funny', I was just saying that it was my opinion. Sometimes people just need to vent things - hence having a whinge.

I thought by stating it was jsut a VENT, and by not asking any questions or opinions would indicate it was not in fact seeking an opinion. But, yes I knew people more than likely would.

If you find it tedious why reply?
 
I have no issue with people having a whinge, and in fact in my post I agreed that it is not nice without transport. I do however object to being reffered to as Bitchy when I disagree with posting comment eluding to and insinuating that somebody has anything but kind intentions for spending time with those children.

I am sure that if he or someone that knows him read that it could lead to allsorts of problems.
 
Would be a pain must admit but can't see what to do his choice.
TBH when we used to give lifts to the kids of last yard to local shows found a lot of kids(not all but a large amount) with well off parents never really got anywhere as parents didn't really take an interest and didn't think to or wouldn't give them money.Had one kid who had to pay for runs out of her pocket money(talking 10/12 yrs old here and no not getting a huge allowance either).we often did 2/3 runs so they could all get there cos they all had fun my daughter included.
Could E not give a lift.Know its a single but would her mum be willing to do a second trip?Just a thought as not too far to show.Could try renting trailer fromJRD or Balgownie or simialar if you have someone that can tow.
 
Not Sure E would now as its a bit out the way cos we moved
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! Where we are now has a trailer to rent, provided someone else hasn't booked it - there are 3 of us that want to go, although not sure about 1 of them as he hurt his leg in a fight last night
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. Hoping that my dad says he will tow the trailer.
 
For whatever reason he has for taking other peoples children to shows he is actually putting himself into a vulnerable position, gossip or no gossip. He should have another adult, preferably female with him.

Sad but true. It only takes one comment from a child for things to snowball especially if there is already gossip going around.
 
I personally cannot believe this post. What is wrong with hacking? Its 4 miles which is nothing. You have made the decision to go barefoot so now you cannot hack your horse out that was your decision and your choice. Leave the bloke alone who cares about the reasons maybe he feels kids deserve a chance to go places and that at the age of 20+ you are capable of sorting yourselves out.
 
I agree that he should always have another adult with him when he takes children, however, you will probably find the reason he won't take paying adults is because he would, in all likelyhood, be breaking the law.
 
is his horse box a pony box or a horse box there is a differnce and your ponies might nto be the right size his box say if it a transit for exsample can only carry one big horse or three ponies
and how do you know hes not getting paid for it - you are talking to the clients

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Sorry not good at making myself clear.I meant if the trailer at yard was booked then would give you at least another option if you could rent from other place but you used to have to book these in advance but you may be lucky.
We're transpotless at mo as well but should be ok by end of sept(hopefully)
Are you still at Denburn?None of the others got a space or lend transport.Even with a trailer only 2 would get to go unless 2 trips so you may have to draw straws.
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Hi

Can sympathise with you, I only now have my own lorry and I wouldnt be without it now. But dont be jealous of the kids - they're only little-uns and whatever their parents do and do not have, they are still kids

I remember crying when I hacked to a show and arrived late because no-one would give me and my pony a lift I know you are in a similar position but Im sure you wouldnt wish it on the kids instead of yourself?
Im sure something will come up for you, fingers crossed. xx
 
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