I think he can read my mind. . .

[Flint12]

Over the last month i have slowly made the descision to move on and sell my first horse.

The other day i sat down with my mum and actually told her that i wanted to start to think about advertising him etc, which she seemed ok with etc.

So later that day i went down to school my lad, and it was as if he knew i had made my mind up because for the first time for a while without an instructor there it all seemed to come together.

It is just so typical! i have actually started looking around for something else, spoken to instructor, parents etc and things just start to come together.

Sorry bit of a pointless post, but feel a bit lost at the moment. I didnt realise it would be this hard to come to terms with my descision. . . hey ho thats life i suppose.

 

[sammylovesponies]

I know how you feel!
I was going to sell my horse Silver, but the day I went to get an advertisment ready she started behaving really well and being lovely. She's been like it since!!

 

[Flint12]

It is just making the descision harder. . . i know why i am selling him etc but the other day it just came together and am just feeling a bit low now.

 

[Birker2020]

Why are you selling him? Is it because money is tight at the moment, or is it because you can't get on with him, or maybe because you haven't the time to do him justice? Whatever the reason you need to make a decision and stick to it. Thing is you are probably subconsciously making excuses for changing your mind about your decision because its such a hard decision to make, but really once made you need to stick with it. If you are getting rid because the two of you just don't get on which is what it sounds like, then please take my advice and let go of your horse. I lost a cracking grade b warmblood gelding after an accident at a pleasure ride. He was wonderfully talented and the best temperment I have ever come across in a horse. To cut a long story short, I bought in haste another horse about three weeks after losing old Biggles and ended up hating the horse I had bought. We had nothing in common, he was young and I really needed a 'ready made' horse, no shame in that. He was lazy and I lacked the experience to motivate and school him on. He hated showjumping (although he loved to gallop and jump XC - his Dad was Senang Haiti and his mum had hunted so it was in his genes to gallop and XC jump) but I wanted rid as I wanted a showjumper. Mum made me wait until the Spring hoping I would change my mind about him, but I knew things would never change and I ended up resenting him for not being like Biggles (poor Miki had a ridiculously impossible task to live up to, to be like Biggles). I was very unfair to him.

In the end Mum said I would have to wait to the Spring and then I would more chance of selling him for the price I wanted, but then hey ho, he went and broke a leg playing in the field. He was only just turned six years of age. The thing was I knew in my heart of heart we were just not suited to each other. That's not to say he wouldn't have made a smashing horse for someone who wanted to just gallop around or just to XC competitions, or even just hack as he was 110% on the road. Very sad.

 

[Flint12]

I have had him for two years, and we have a really good bond i feel and i love him dearly.

I want to compete but at a higher level than he will be able to at present anyway. And i feel to big on him, i want him to go to a home where he will do what he loves and do it well instead of me constantly asking more and more of him.

I am sticking to what i have decided but it is just getting harder the nearer i get to actually selling him.

Thanks for your advice