LynH
Well-Known Member
I know there are no simple answers to my problem or even what I expect to get from this post but I am so frustrated and hoping someone may have been in a similar situation or trained someone like me and have some words of wisdom or just tell me to suck it up.
I have long term problems with my lungs and nerve damage around my ribs so am in constant quite severe pain. I also get chest infections/pneumonia and sinus migraines which are quite debilitating energy wise. I've had this for 11yrs with no real chance of things changing but I'm always optimistic that it will and always pushing myself possibly in the wrong ways to move forward. I'm having a particularly nasty nerve block procedure between my all ribs on Sunday in the hope it will give me some pain relief.
I have two horses who both used to do BD but only to novice/elementary before I became too ill to ride regularly and compete. One did have the ability to go med poss AM but with so many years in and out of work plus other issues this is no longer possible. The other horse, a TB, is retired/coming out of retirement. I haven't competed at all for three years but I constantly scan the BD schedules and plan how next summer I'll be back at it or look for a competition a couple of months away as a goal. I can pretty much tell you off the top of my head all the dressage events at my local comp centres for the next 6 months. I'd have thought after all this time I'd stop doing it but I can't. I'm not aiming too high, just to go out and do a prelim or novice test would make me so happy but even that is too much.
Over the summer I rode more regularly (3-4times a week) and was managing short schooling sessions but as soon as the weather changed it all fell apart. I hadn't ridden for 7 wks until last weekend and then mainly because she is so easy I got my retired horse in and rode her for 5 mins. I did 10 mins yesterday on her but still don't have the energy to ride my bigger stronger horse. I also ended up unable to move for hours afterwards as every breath hurt. I hate that my body doesn't work how I want, the rib pain is often so bad I cannot half halt and other times I can manage ok. I don't know until I am on how much strength I will have. I feel so frustrated that I know I can (or rather could) ride so much better but my pain levels and lack of fitness make me feel like a novice. My reactions are also slow due to huge amounts of opiate pain relief so for now I need to be riding something safe.
I'm very lucky that both horses can handle time off without being silly or dangerous when I get back on and they really suit my current situation but I don't like my current situation and I need to find a way to get past it. My main riding horse is an ID mare, lovely nature but spooky (that hurts) but she is 16.3 and quite long and not the most forward thinking so she's hard to get working from behind and to keep together. In the past I've enjoyed her most when I have longer periods of relative wellness and then prefer the enthusiasm of the TB when I am weaker although the bounce of the TB is quite painful. Neither horse will be going anywhere as I've had them for 14yrs+ and I do have help to keep them going but I dream of finding a horse that would be easier for me to ride and possibly get back out competing on. I'd love a nice young WB that has tons of ability but am realistic enough to know this is neither practical nor safe but I'm not really sure what I do need or if I should just forget about dressage and just focus on pottering around on my older horses feeling like an oldie myself. We moved to have the horses at home as driving was a problem and have built some lovely stables and an arena. These are currently torturing me as I can't use them but it makes my life so much easier having the horses at home, I can go inside and collapse or rest when needed.
I guess my biggest problem is admitting that the things I enjoy most, schooling and dressage, are beyond my reach and that I should content myself with a hack round the block. How do you ignore your dreams and accept that competing, training and having the riding ability that you used to have and still want are no longer a reality? Are there other options I should be considering?
I have long term problems with my lungs and nerve damage around my ribs so am in constant quite severe pain. I also get chest infections/pneumonia and sinus migraines which are quite debilitating energy wise. I've had this for 11yrs with no real chance of things changing but I'm always optimistic that it will and always pushing myself possibly in the wrong ways to move forward. I'm having a particularly nasty nerve block procedure between my all ribs on Sunday in the hope it will give me some pain relief.
I have two horses who both used to do BD but only to novice/elementary before I became too ill to ride regularly and compete. One did have the ability to go med poss AM but with so many years in and out of work plus other issues this is no longer possible. The other horse, a TB, is retired/coming out of retirement. I haven't competed at all for three years but I constantly scan the BD schedules and plan how next summer I'll be back at it or look for a competition a couple of months away as a goal. I can pretty much tell you off the top of my head all the dressage events at my local comp centres for the next 6 months. I'd have thought after all this time I'd stop doing it but I can't. I'm not aiming too high, just to go out and do a prelim or novice test would make me so happy but even that is too much.
Over the summer I rode more regularly (3-4times a week) and was managing short schooling sessions but as soon as the weather changed it all fell apart. I hadn't ridden for 7 wks until last weekend and then mainly because she is so easy I got my retired horse in and rode her for 5 mins. I did 10 mins yesterday on her but still don't have the energy to ride my bigger stronger horse. I also ended up unable to move for hours afterwards as every breath hurt. I hate that my body doesn't work how I want, the rib pain is often so bad I cannot half halt and other times I can manage ok. I don't know until I am on how much strength I will have. I feel so frustrated that I know I can (or rather could) ride so much better but my pain levels and lack of fitness make me feel like a novice. My reactions are also slow due to huge amounts of opiate pain relief so for now I need to be riding something safe.
I'm very lucky that both horses can handle time off without being silly or dangerous when I get back on and they really suit my current situation but I don't like my current situation and I need to find a way to get past it. My main riding horse is an ID mare, lovely nature but spooky (that hurts) but she is 16.3 and quite long and not the most forward thinking so she's hard to get working from behind and to keep together. In the past I've enjoyed her most when I have longer periods of relative wellness and then prefer the enthusiasm of the TB when I am weaker although the bounce of the TB is quite painful. Neither horse will be going anywhere as I've had them for 14yrs+ and I do have help to keep them going but I dream of finding a horse that would be easier for me to ride and possibly get back out competing on. I'd love a nice young WB that has tons of ability but am realistic enough to know this is neither practical nor safe but I'm not really sure what I do need or if I should just forget about dressage and just focus on pottering around on my older horses feeling like an oldie myself. We moved to have the horses at home as driving was a problem and have built some lovely stables and an arena. These are currently torturing me as I can't use them but it makes my life so much easier having the horses at home, I can go inside and collapse or rest when needed.
I guess my biggest problem is admitting that the things I enjoy most, schooling and dressage, are beyond my reach and that I should content myself with a hack round the block. How do you ignore your dreams and accept that competing, training and having the riding ability that you used to have and still want are no longer a reality? Are there other options I should be considering?