I'm actually losing my mind now......

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Further to my post below, I thought I'd hack both my boys out tonight as the weather was so nice.

Took Ty around the block and got to a plastic bag. He didn't want to go past it and I froze - I thought he was going to rear (only times he's ever reared with me is when jumping and in pain with his hocks but I can't get it out of my mind) so I got off and walked him past it.
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Carried on the hack and he seemed slightly lame on the front ..... felt like bloody crying.

Got him home trotted up and seemed ok - don't know what that was all about.

Took Oscar out with another horse on the yard and I can't explain it but I just felt at ease......went past same bag and couldn't get Oscar past (was a big builders bag on a narrow bridle path) and he started trying to turn, but never once did I freeze or worry - I just laughed.
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In the end I had to get other horse to pass first - he would have done it if on his own but I think obstinance once his brain!

So I'm sat here in tears as I know that Ty would better off with a happy hacker who will spoil him and love him and I know deep down that I'd prefer to keep Oscar but this decision is killing me......

what am I doing feeling misplaced loyalty to a horse that has cost me money and we don't really gel together in the saddle (TY) (my sharer loves him but unfortuantely can't afford own horse)

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I don't know your history but it sounds like you are being brave and honest with yourself. we invest too much energy, time and money to be feeling like you are feeling at the moment. It is supposed to be fun. Ty will be someone elses dream horse but he isn't yours. Give yourself a break and find him his perfect owner. You shouldn't feel guilty because it is the best thing for both of you. (hugs)
 
Would your sharer take him on as a full loan that way you cut your costs and also know he is happy well looked after and loved.I really sympathise my horse has cost me a fortune in vets bills and if they place any more exclusions on him I wont be able to justify keeping him.On the other hand if hes just done all his accidents and injuries in two years and never has another major crisis Ill have made the right decision in being loyal.My biggest worry would be finding the right rider which you sound like you already have.Some horses just arent easy in any aspect and finding the right home is more important than money.
 
I have read most of your posts ever since you bought Ty. It seems to me that Oscar is the horse for you - you feel confident on him, but guilty that you prefer riding him to Ty. Horses don't have human emotions - as long as they are looked after, have other horses for company and only do what they are happy/capable of doing, they are usually content. If I were you, I would seriously think of finding another home for Ty and concentrate on enjoying Oscar and stop beating yourself up;)
 
Thanks Jaylen -I'm definately leaning more towards this choice....

Oscar bucked me off once when I overfed him and I laughed, got back on him and cantered on. I'd NEVER do that with Ty and it's not Ty's fault it just that lack of trust issue.
 
I am in a very similar situation to you and I have no idea what to do either. I have now lost my nerve on my boy, again it wasn't his fault as he has had some back issues, but from being a horse I gained my confidence on to one I daren't sit on in case he bucks/rears, not that he will but I just can't!! But he is the most beautiful horse in the world with a temperment to match. I since bought a 5 year old Trakehner and will hack out anywhere, ride anywhere and feel so safe - he's almost 17.2 whereas the other is 16.2!! No logic! I think I will have to find a sharer or loan him as I can't bear for him to go anywhere where I couldn't keep in touch!
 
If you do want to try and find Ty a good home then advertise him on the Exracer Club site as people who look at the adverts on there are specifically looking for exracers of all ages and types, and I doubt his spavin/blindness will affect his saleability on there that much....

If you need any info please PM me....
 
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If you do want to try and find Ty a good home then advertise him on the Exracer Club site as people who look at the adverts on there are specifically looking for exracers of all ages and types, and I doubt his spavin/blindness will affect his saleability on there that much....

If you need any info please PM me....

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Thanks! I can't prove Ty is an ex racer though as his passport was conveniently 'lost' when he came over from Ireland.....
 
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