Im so ashamed, I lost my temper today

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I went to ride my mare today and she was as good as gold stood whilst i groomed her and tacked her up, then the trouble started, she refused to go out of the barn doors, there is a little puddle about 6 inches wide near the door, well she went back sidewards, round and round but wouldnt go forward, so i got off led her out she jumped it, i led her back in and out again, then hopped back on and she refused to go out again, She went in every direction but forwards in the end i got soo mad i walloped her! She was having none of it so i got off again led her out and she did a stupidly huge jump over it, i was so cross i took her back in tied her up and went and had a drink and a ciggy to calm down!! I was so angry its not like me at all!! So finally did get on and i really wished i hadnt, she was not having any of it refused to listen to me, so i gave up i knew we were just going to fall out so got off and gave her a bath instead which she seemed to rather enjoy!! Please tell me im not alone and your horses sometimes push you over the edge??
 
I will admit I have done it before - when they push you and push you and you finally go 'argh for god's sake!' - biggest was when I was trying to pull Alice's mane - was having none of it so walloped her, and she crushed me into a wall. At which point I decided I needed a solo comb and rake. She gets on my nerves all the time, and you just have to walk away or get off! Think you did the best thing, bathing yay!
Ditto is having with the horse I am leasing over here, refuses to be caught, and you have to hold your temper not to throw the headcollar at them as they constantly evade and evade. I have had to send him away before for up to an hour until he gives in (and that was only one headcollar throw!) Then he goes, 'fine...''

At which point I decide it would be awaste of time to ride, so I just bring him in, feed and groom and chuck out again. Argh.
 
My grey Ollie is 8 but thinks he is 4, constantly gets jumpy with anything out place on the yard when being led in and out and he has been here 4 yrs
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Well thats just him and although his ground manners have much improved from the monster he was when I bought him I think he will always be a bit of a scaredy cat.

He can pull back when tied, and can be strange now and again when I ride, there is the odd horse eating monster in the one corner of the sand school, even though through the winter he is turned out in there and eats his hay from that corner... go figure
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I often resort to thinking today I do not want to fight if he is acting up on the ground and either loose school him or just think bugger it coffee, smoke and then back to work in the office instead. Life is too short for battles even if they just are the odd ones, my illness makes it hard for me to win a fight so often I avoid one and take it when I feel more able bodied to be firm and stay on
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Dont worry tomorrow all will be back to normal and hopefully scary puddle will have dried up... and then it will be something else LMAO!
 
Don't worry your certainly not alone! I used to often loose my temper with my boy, worst being it was often when i was riding him. He would lean on one rein and refuse to take up contact on the other, and in the end i would give him a smack. Of course he would then respond by saying, hey i didn't deserve that and buck, and so he would get another smack, and he would again buck and so on! Eventually thank god it hit me that smacking him wasn't getting us anywhere and after analysing the whole thing i realised the reason he wasn't responding was because i was no longer asking! I had got so frustrated with him I had forgoten to ride with my legs and my seat. Anyways in the end i found lots of lateral work got hi more even and even though he does occasionly still really p*ss e off, i now stop what were doing, take a deep breath and try something different.

Sorry this has turned into a bit of an essay and as KM said above, im sure the puddle will have dried up by tomorrow and your darling girl will find something else to play up at. Think deep breath and woosa lol!
 
Yes when my horse pretends he has to wee and stands like a rocking horse for 20 minutes at the start of a hack. I believed he wanted to go each time.

I rarely hit him, but one time I did and now he wees much quicker than before.

The guilt was terrible, but he was taking the juice.
 
Certainly not alone. My mare just kept pulling back from her tie ring one day, she had snapped 5 pieces of bailing twine, I was doing jobs on the yard, so wasnt annoying her, she had hay, but I just lost it and walloped her. Totally regretted it and felt so so so guilty, and vowed not to do anything like that again, but to walk away, or stick her in her stable.
 
I think we have all been there at some point in our horsy lives!

Those who have been around horses for years and say they have never ever lost their temper at some point are either liars or saints!!!!!!!!!
 
I have lost my temper on many ocassions with Lia, i used to try and fight her but i have since learnt to leave it, get off, put her away and try again tomorrow.

The only time i fight her is if i know i will win, for example, if she decides she is too scared to walk past something that she walks past everyday, twice a day on her way in/out of the field!!
 
don't beat yourself up about it your horse has probably forgotten already !
you might wanna try practising crossing water/puddles when another opportunity arrives so its less of a problem in the future.
and as for reprimanding a horse for doing something wrong (a smack not a beating).
if theres a problem with the horses answer to your question did you ask correctly !
 
i lost my temper with my TB the other day because he bit me-the bugger, and he hasn't tried it since so i think he got the message. my old mare bit me once and i lost my temper with her too but she never done it again so i think sometimes you need to to teach them some boundaries, it does make me feel guilty tho!
 
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