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MizElz

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Hi everyone.

I just want to apologise for irritating, upseting, angering, annoying and infuriating you all. All I have ever done is been myself on this forum; if being myself means you have found me outspoken, then I'm afraid that's me! I do believe in airing my views, as long as they don't hurt anybody. And as far as I'm concerned, I have never set out to purposefully hurt anybody on this forum.
I was quite hurt yesterday by the threat made by one forum member to club together with others and get me 'chucked off' the forum. True, I was upset anyway, and so it probably made this seem a whole lot worse - but it left me wondering just what it is that I am doing so desperately wrong, that people should want me to actually disappear. The implication that I should seek psychiatric assistance was also as laughable as it was hurtful, and I hope this was said in jest. If anyone has taken offence at things I have said, then it was never my intention to cause this. There are many issues in life, and in the horse world in particular, that I feel need to be talked about. Perhaps 'need' is an innaccurate expression, for of course nobody is forced to talk about something. But I enjoy discussion, and I can cope with confrontation; if someone confronts me over a practice I feel is right/wrong, I am prepared to discuss the issue in a rational manner, and, if necessary, agree to disagree. Yesterday, circumstances at home blackened my mood considerably, and this resulted in me posting in a manner that I admit is unnacceptable. I have privately apologised to the parties involved; whether my apology will be accepted remains to be seen.
I am a naturally cheerful person, and am normally able to make people laugh as much with my writing as with my company. However, seeing as my attempt at creating something with the sole purpose of making people chuckle failed miserably - at least as far as the majority of posters here are concerned - I will leave it be in the future. I see another forum member has already managed accomplish what I was trying to do, with 100% success and no backlash whatsoever!
I don't like dragging up the past, in spite of what some of you may think, and although I may have referred to things that have affected me on here before, it was actually an attempt to make light of the situation, as opposed to make you all hate me even more.
I cannot promise that I will no longer infuriate people; to me it seems that there has been controversy in pretty much all my posts, even if it has not been my intention to make it so! All I would like to say is that I do not outwardly want to upset anyone on here; if you feel that my posts are that innappopriate, then please, do not read them. Don't turn it into a slanging match: just don't read them - after all, yesterday showed me that there are in fact quite a few people who are willing to take me as I am, and not for what they would like to think I am trying to be.
That's it, really! I just felt this was the only way to reach everyone who I've managed to anger; please don't think this is a 'look at me' post, because it truly isn't. I'd like nothing more than to be able to wipe the slate clean, but I have a funny feeling that it just won't happen! Please accept my apology, and don't try and read more into me than is necessary. I am only human, perhaps more argumentative than some, and certainly more emotional than many!

Thanks guys, and once more, I'm sorry.....
 
Im not reading it, far too long winded!
Just drop it, why keep dragging it up? Your old posts would be on Page two by now and then on page 3 and so on. It will be forgotten news within a couple of days, and doing this is really not helping you.
CHILL!
 
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I didnt attempt to read that.

To me, you come across as pretty self-obsessed- get over it!!

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Thank you, Bossanova. If you had bothered to read what I had written, you would have seen that I was apologising for precisely that. It seems to me that I will be unable to post on here in the future without something I have previously said being thrown at me, and so I felt I had to do something to apologise for what has gone on here previously. I would love nothing more than to be able to post on something one day and not have some reference made to a previous thread, but it has already been proven that this is not going to happen. Thank you for your attempt to turn this into yet another slanging match.
 
I have recently been completely mis quoted. In my case someone has been on this forum and then has twisted what I have said and told someone who is not on the forum. They emailed a lot of people in my riding club saying I had made a personal attack on them on the forum. WHICH I HADN'T.
I asked for an explaination from the emailer and was told I once made a comment about them in the summer[they gave a few details none of which I could find in a search and none of which I remember]They did not know who I was although I am transparent through my pics!
I was really upset and do not trust anyone on here anymore.
I'm sorry you have had a bad experience and we must live and learn and move on.
Good luck
 
Thanks carthorse - I really don't want to stop posting, as I find lots of advice that people have given really worthwhile. IMO, horses are a (lovable!) minefield, and the more you know about them and other people's experiences with them, the better equipped you are to deal with anything that may be thrown your way. Moving on is precisely what I want to do - I had already decided that I was not going to post anything personal here anymore, and your awful experience compounds this!
 
You don't need to write long winded apologies, just let it drop!
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There is no need to 'apologise' as such. There are spats on here all the time and they usually forgotten fairly quickly. If you want a 'clean slate' etc then stop posting things like this, stop reminding us all of the arguments etc that tbh, most of us have forgotten and just join in with the rest of the forum. Don't bring every thread back to yourself and the old arguments, even if you feel it is tongue in cheek calling yourself the horse/chicken beater, to the rest of us it comes across as attention-seeking and constantly dragging up that which is over and done with.
 
Seriously MizElz..let it go. This is the sort of thing that gets up people noses and will only make you feel worse. You have left yourself open for more negative comments. I felt your post yesterday was as much of a dig as a bit of fun and I think thats what people didn't like about it. I disagreed with you in your original post about whipping but will and have happily replied to you in others posts. The remark about getting you banned was OTT IMO and I assure you not many would even contemplate it so don't worry about that.
I would recommend not replying to any replies on here because it'll just end up in another unnecessary slanging match....
 
Nobody on here would disagree that everyone is entitled to their opinion, and there are many entertaining and heated discussions going on all the time. However, you obviously spent a lot of time thinking up that post yesterday, and what did you honestly expect people to say about it? Nice one MizElz, that's dead funny?

It seems to me, and I haven't been on this forum as long as many, that your posts are sometimes very self centred and deliberately provocative, as well as repetitive. You seem to go out of your way to annoy, then spend the next few days saying how sorry you are but please, it wasn't meant to offend anyone...

Just try and think a bit more about what you're saying, and why you're saying it. And maybe if you get a bad response, just leave it alone for a few days rather than writing an essay about how sorry you are or threatening to leave, which just looks like even more attention seeking - a little perspective is in order perhaps?
 
Your posts always amuse and entertain me (although I can rarely muster the necessary enthusiasm to respond). Perhaps you should stop taking yourself so seriously, and if your deliberately aggravating/antagonistic posts attract the sort of response that you claim to dislike so vehemently, maybe you should either put more thought into them before hitting 'send', or take any responses with a pinch of salt - after all, most people use this forum for advice, chat and light entertainment; however irritating it may be to read the same old stuff trotted out again and again, no-one could possibly 'hate' a name on a screen! (Well maybe some can, but perhaps they need to get out more!)

If you cant trust yourself not to take things personally, dont post contentious topics that guarantee the sort of responses you dislike! Just stick to inane pap, like I do.
 
MizElz, I didn't read your post because a) don't think you need to apologise and b) every time you post something like your OP, it seems to annoy people!!
I just feel that rather than keep referring back to things that have happened on in here in the past, you really really need to just forget it ever happened, stop posting and re posting and apologising, leaving, come back, apologise some more etc etc, YOU REALLY DON'T NEED TO!!!!!

Stop worrying so much about what people are saying about you, be yourself and move on, cause if you don't you will carry on drawing attention to yourself for all the wrong reasons.
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Blimey, don't know where ive been lately to miss all this but would hate to think of anyone feeling really miserable coz of this forum! Chin up, its not real life you know!
 
I cannot actually read the post and cannot actually believe I am replying, but MizElz, if you want to everyone to let it drop, then resist the temptation to make posts like this. People will soon forget the sensationalism that has surrounded some of your posts, if you let it all drop and move on. All this does is make you appear to be an attention seeker. So you're sorry - ok, thanks, appraciated. Let it go and we can all move on together!
 
I don't know what to say to you. I think you've had plenty advice on here and seem to be totally ignoring it, yet still seem a little bemused as to why you annoy people? I don't think you're stupid, so why don't you get it????
 
MizElz, seriously, you need to let go and stop drawing bad attention to yourself by making long winded me me me posts.

I am not being nasty - I'm actually trying to help.
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I have noticed that some people seem to be uneccessarily harsh with you, and I'm not surprised you're feeling put out. but these things always blow over unless you keep bringing them up again.

Just enjoy the place.
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This is an internet forum, not real life. And the written word can be misconstrued easily, without being able to see someone's face or hear the tone in their voice. So don't worry about it, post when you want to post, don't post when you don't want to post and if you really don't like it on here there are numerous other forums too.

Nobody MAKES you come on the H & H Forum if you find it an unpleasant place to be. But there is such a wealth of knowledge on here it would be a shame if you felt you couldn't continue to be part of it.

I admire you for putting your heart on your sleeve on this thread by apologising BTW.
 
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I didnt attempt to read that.

To me, you come across as pretty self-obsessed- get over it!!

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echo that and also grow up a bit.........
 
do you remember a couple of months ago i schooled my horse in a pelham for 15 mins, and i didnt know the pelham was in upside down! not 1 member has mentioned it since the post went to page 4 or 5! its a silly mistake that i'd never make again!

Im sure if you stop bringing up the topic it would never be mentioned AGAIN!!

sophie xxx
 
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