I'm Too Old For This, Got Chucked Off Today

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Fed up now, hurting badly right accross the bottom of my back and my ankle, mare is getting worse and worse for napping/rearing when trying to hack alone, so today decided to just ride her round our field, got her to the bottom of the field in walk, turned to come back towards gate she went to tank off so I pulled her up, she done a coupel of mini rears but because I held her back she did another one but went into a huge plunge off to the side, and I disembarked out the side door, smack on my ar*e/bottom of my back then fell back and whacked my head and broke my hat :(

Not sure if this is the point that I give in, I think i'm too old now for this type of horse with quirky problems and definitely not enough confidence/experience, I think I need to get myself a nice plod that will just take me out happy hacking, it's all I want to do .................... I did have a bit of a cry I think (a) cause I was hurting and (b) cause I feel defeated *sigh*

I should add I have to hack alone as i'm on my on my own yard and although hubby is always there with me, he drives his horse and doesn't ride.
 
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a) you're not defeated;
b) there is no harm in saying that you want something different.

Warm bath with Radox for the aches.
Arnica for the bruises.
Chocolate for the soul.


Edited to add: just watch it with the head bash and the back bash - took me two days to get to A&E, where it turned out I had a compression fracture at L2. Just take it easy and make sure you have someone with you.
 
MrsMozart said:
a) you're not defeated;
b) there is no harm in saying that you want something different.

Warm bath with Radox for the aches.
Arnica for the bruises.
Chocolate for the soul.


Edited to add: just watch it with the head bash and the back bash - took me two days to get to A&E, where it turned out I had a compression fracture at L2. Just take it easy and make sure you have someone with you.
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^^^^this^^^^

I have discovered the new Cadburys chocos, little blasts of pure pleasure!! :)

Has she had all the usual checks done as to why she is behaving like this?
 
Poor you, I know last time I came off it bloody hurt, I dont bounce as well as I did when I was younger. Is your horse young or is a temper thing, have you had her long? My mare was like it when I got her in the beginning. I had lost my previous fantastic mare to a broken leg in the field and found myself trying to tick the same boxes with my new mare. She wouldnt be rushed and I came off her not long after buying her. She then went off "sick" with a bit of lami, was on box rest and thats when we bonded properly.

I overcame the nappiness by hand walking her out and about, we then progressed to riding the same routes and as she got her confidence and trust in me, I added new bits on to the point that we progressed to going all over on our own.

May just be a setback for you, hope it improves and that your not too sore tomorrow. Plenty of painkillers and a hot bath...
 
Many ((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))),but you know and I know give yourself a couple of days and apart from the soreness you will be back on track. Mistake to turn her towards home, next time circle round the field, by know you will have thought it through and found the answer (apart from selling her that is):D:D:D
 
Thank you for the sympathy I quite need that at the jiffy,

I haven't been A & E, I feel fine, no sickness of anything, and the other half is mothering me like a mother hen,

I'vd had a nice warm bath and now sitting (well trying to) in my pj's looking through horse sites but know when push comes to shove i'll struggle to get rid of her, she's got me hooked !

She's not young, she's 10 and i've had her for 3½ years, to be honest she's never been a fabulous horse but has never been this bad, she is getting more and more contancerous (sp) as she is getting older and just less and less wanting to do what she doesn't want to do, I have tried walking her out in hand, then getting on once we are out, that will generally work but she can still spin/rear/nap at any given time,

She's had all the usual checks and I really really don't think it's a pain thing, its just her and her hang ups I believe that. Shame of it is she is 100% traffic proof and can jump like a stag, shame at 42 I don't like jumping or any other fancy stuff, I just wanna plod.
 
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devilwoman said:
She's not young, she's 10

shame at 42 I don't like jumping or any other fancy stuff, I just wanna plod.
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Mines 17yo and semi retired and he still manages to scare the **** out of me and age has nothing to do with it (on my scale you're a youngster).
As I've been told "sit it and enjoy it":)
 
devilwoman said:
LOL thankyou, I feel like part of a club now ;)

I'd rather be part of the young, bounce back up club though :D
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Know how you feel hun I'm part of the lack of confidence don't bounce well club sadly too, and wanting to still be in the other one!! Older rider, currently broken and totally empathise with you. No advice, you are big enough and old enough to work out whats the best course of action for you going forwards but big hugs and sympathy and do keep an eye on your injuries, fairly severe to break your hat, Mrs M a good example of delayed reaction to a very serious injury which we all lean towards so just be careful and hope you feeling much brighter soon x
 
Thanks for all the sympathies, i'm gutted about my hat too got to buy a new one of them now ! - I was also worried cause she tanked off and left me on the floor and the reins were flapping round by her legs as she made her way back to the stables, I was cussing that she was going to snap her reins, (more money !) but luckily she didn't.
 
Well I no longer bounce, just a dull thud:D:D But I have my memories, of how I'd come flying off, hit the ground straight up and off after the horse as the bugger wouldn't wait. HAAA!!:D:D:D:D:D
 
Maybe the ground was softer when you were all younger but I am 44, with my first longed for horse, and I have fallen off him twice and I doesn't actually feel that different! I have heard tell that with age confidence goes as does bounce but maybe it is because this is my first opportunity to do all the riding I have longed to do, but I feel just as foolhardy and falling off feels no worse than as a kid.

I just have to remember I have a 8 y o and a 4 yo (human girls, that is - horse is older at 9) who rely on me totally, and wear a body protector...
 
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Maybe the ground was softer when you were all younger but I am 44, with my first longed for horse, and I have fallen off him twice and I doesn't actually feel that different! I have heard tell that with age confidence goes as does bounce but maybe it is because this is my first opportunity to do all the riding I have longed to do, but I feel just as foolhardy and falling off feels no worse than as a kid.

I just have to remember I have a 8 y o and a 4 yo (human girls, that is - horse is older at 9) who rely on me totally, and wear a body protector...
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Good for you and good attitude, esp. body protector - stay safe and enjoy! (my lovely doctor tactlessly told me the other day after returning to docs as still not recovered from a serious fall 8 weeks ago "you have to remember you don't bounce as well at your age as you did in your 20's"!! Love his bedside manner - but sadly 'tis true in some cases ;-) )
 
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Maybe the ground was softer when you were all younger but I am 44, with my first longed for horse, and I have fallen off him twice and I doesn't actually feel that different! I have heard tell that with age confidence goes as does bounce but maybe it is because this is my first opportunity to do all the riding I have longed to do, but I feel just as foolhardy and falling off feels no worse than as a kid.
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At 44 - you are STILL a kid!
 
Nope I definitely go down with a "thud" then have to sit and come round for a bit before I scuffle to my knees. then my feet. then limp back up the field after a horse that is long gone, perhaps i'll take up knitting it must be less painful than trying to sit here for the last 3 hours groaning every time I try to move :D
 
There is no shame in wanting something nice and safe. I went through 2 horses before I found my boy and now I am having fun again.

Hope you feel better soon - and take care of yourself.
 
Eek, as other have said do get OH to take you to A&E if you feel at all funny. Maybe get him to google the signs of concussion too... I had to look after someone with memory loss and a slight personality change... they had no idea they weren't acting 'normal' but to me it was obvious, they were early 20s but the same applies to you!

Re: horse... if it is getting worse there is a reason for this. Either mental or physical. If you've had all the usual checks get a good instructor and then go out with hubby on feet/driving if yours will be OK near by for a little while. TBH though you sound old enough;-) to know if it is your riding making things worse (e.g. because you are getting increasingly tense with her ) and if it isn't that it is almost certainly something physical.


Good luck to both of you.
 
So sorry to hear this. May I suggest lunging the legs off it before you get on. Don't know if it will help but worth a try. Also maybe get an instructor to come and ride it out for you and see if they can fix the problem. To be honest I have always found a good smack between the ears with a rubber ended crop does wonders for rearing. If you can get one in whilst they are still just thinking about it (a second before they go up) they normally tuck their head right down and don't bother. Maybe long reining out on her own. No hard feed, she does not sound like she needs it! Also turning in a very tight circle, as in on the spot....makes it really hard for them to buck or rear on a very tight circle, keep her there for a min.....when you let them out they are often are so relieved they just want to go forwards. Don't know if it has been raining where you are but have noticed mine is much sharper now there is a flush of grass coming through from the rain.

Do hope you feel better soon. Do hope you recover too Pebbles.

Wondering if anyone has tried one of those inflatable jackets eventers wear? Air cushioned landing sounds good to me.

Sympathy hugs.
 
It doesn't tickle, my lad has done that to me a few times, its like a rear buck n plunge all rolled into one manoover, hes done it to me on the tracks and the road hence I always feel safer in a BP and you certainly realise why you wear a hat that's for sure.
 
Thanks for all the great replies, I am feeling "very tender" this morning to say the least and am having serious thoughts about whether she really is too much for me now, I think its a combination of us now each lacking confidence in each other, have a big decision to make i think .............
 
It sounded very scarey to me! (((((hugs)))))

Sometimes my mare will jog me all around the farm when she's wanting to gallop and yes if it happened all the time, at 50, I would find it very wearing and not something I would enjoy at all. Luckily, she doesn't and she does look after me.

It's so lovely to just relax and enjoy being alone on a country path, on a horse you can trust, works for and wants to be with you too.

Whatever you decide, it'll be right for you. Lifes to short.

Look after yourself and I hope you feel painfree soon.
 
I've come out the side exit quite a few times in the ast 6 months, and I truly sympathise with you ! It's my back that gets it, then I've had whiplash, a twisted ankle.... you name it. Shy's a bucker tho, at least he's not rearer (yet).

You need to stay calm, have copious amounts of wine, and decide what you want to do over the next month or so. I've changed my saddle to treeless (and boy do I have something much better to sit on now !!!) , have gone bitless (just), and the back man is coming again tomorow, and teeth lady again next week.

I hope you are ok, (((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))) sm x
 
I totally understand your feelings and the older I get the harder it gets. I have some 5 years on you and most certainly dont bounce. Like you, I have a long term, trusted equine partner. Mine is 18 and we have been together 7 years and he still does daft things like tank off with mummy and dump her. Thats on top of dragging mum down to the field, doing the odd spin and bolt for home thing, plus spooking very badly. I've got through it pretty much most of the time, and although he can be a right git, I wouldnt part with him for the world. Oh and on top of that, have plenty of aches and pains, a dodgy back etc, all because of him!!!!

Dont beat yourself up - yes you will feel wobbly the next time back in the saddle. Try and ride with someone if you possibly can, preferably someone with a reliable, quiet mount, just take it steady and dont be surprised at how wobbly you may feel. Get yourself checked out if necessary and dont stress over it - it happens.

Oh and lucky you, every time I fall off (not that often I hasten to add), my OH tells me to . sell that 'black evil git', and berrates me for riding 'at your age' (49).
 
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Wondering if anyone has tried one of those inflatable jackets eventers wear? Air cushioned landing sounds good to me.
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I'm seriously considering one for hacking in summer. BP gets too hot on a nice day.
IME the ground is definitely harder than it used to be - mind you I managed about 20 years without a fall! So perhaps it is my memory that is failing!

OP do consider getting checked out - it was months after the fall that I collapsed at work and the eventual diagnosis was a trapped nerve in my neck. Physio said that I had whiplash-type injuries and it affected just apart every part of my body.
 
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