Incident with land owner - WWYD?

Let me get this right !

OP says she was asked by someone in a 4x4 what she was doing on the farm land, she replies "riding". He says she shouldn't be there and could he have her details, she says she is leaving, however instead of leaving she waits for him to get out of his vehicle and grab a rein!
This indicates that some level of verbal altercation was happening between them. She becomes "lady of the manor" and asks him to let go he says not until you give me your details, so she hits him until he has no choice to let go leaving welts on his back.

She thinks he should apologise !

Personal opinion is that the police should charge her with ABH. she has shown no remorse and is arrogant enough to think her actions were justified.

In other posts she says she hunts regularly but she obviously lacks manners and common decency around land owners, if I were her local hunt I would inform her that she is no longer welcome to hunt with them.
 
Me too!
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Well I went to the meeting and it was unpleasant. Luckily the matter is not being taken any further. I wrote and apologised afterwards at the man's suggestion. Police have signed it off.
So not much else to say, lesson learnt but he should NOT have pulled my horse's reins and freaked him out so badly, and I should NOT have been sarcastic to him. Nor reacted the way I did.
 
Crikey, I'd say you got off very lightly there OP! If that'd been any of the landowners around our yard you'd have been prosecuted for ABH! He must've been one of the nicer ones.

Glad it's over and done with and really hope you don't continue to ride on other people's land and front gardens anymore. :o
 
While I completely disagree with trespassing or riding on peoples gardens a couple of months ago me and a friend were riding down an extremely quiet and narrow lane (one car at a time) lane when a car came towards us going around 30 miles an hour, my friend and I quickly pulled our horses over onto a stretch of grass (between a hedge and the road) to give both our horses a little more room from the speeding car. The car came screeching to a halt behind us where a woman got out of the car and started to scream at us for walking over her lawn and that "she doesnt mow it for a joke!!" by this point we were both off the grass and back on the road, I turned and said that we wouldnt have been on the grass if she had been going a little slower, the car would have been able to pass us SLOWLY while we stayed on the road. In this instance she was completely out of order and continued to shout at us as we carried on down the lane.

To be honest I think she is a little insane and I definitely wont be riding over her grass again.... she doesnt mow it for a joke you know!!!
 
I hope you don't do it again. The whole incident must have been awful for the poor man. He sounds like a decent chap to have agreed to come along for the meeting instead of pressing charges.
Was your apology done at the meeting or was it a reluctant letter sent afterwards to keep you out of trouble ?

It may be your writing style, but quite honestly, you do not seem contrite as you are still aportioning blame to him, despite your assault on the old chap.
 
Well done OP for at least coming back on here to explain the outcome, there doesnt appear to be anymore to say. Faults on both sides - both sides apologised. Sounds like its done and dusted to me.
 
hessy12 said:
Well I went to the meeting and it was unpleasant. Luckily the matter is not being taken any further. I wrote and apologised afterwards at the man's suggestion. Police have signed it off.
So not much else to say, lesson learnt but he should NOT have pulled my horse's reins and freaked him out so badly, and I should NOT have been sarcastic to him. Nor reacted the way I did.
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Hessy I would just like to say the following, from the link to your other posts, you seem rude, inconsiderate, and were it me who caught you on my land I would have been angry and wanted to take it further. I wholeheartedly agree that no one as the right to grab your horses reins, risk a dangerous situation essentially trapping you. I would hazzard a guess that there is no one on here that really thinks that behaviour is acceptable, and regardless of how angry he was at your tresspassing, I can honestly say I would have hit him with my crop too, and I would have felt threatened. Old man, old enough to be a grandfather or not, if he really did do this, it is shocking behaviour, as was yours and your trespassing in the first place. It is nice though, to see that you have felt able to come on here and admit that you were in the wrong, and I hope you do not trespass again in the future, this situation could so easily have been prevented. Furthermore, if in the future you ever find yourself somewhere you shouldn't be, I suggest you fall over yourself to apologise, who knows, if you actually display a bit of respect and decency they may let you ride on their land willingly.
 
I think that it is good of her to come back on here and give a report. Takes balls really, and she has had everything said to her already on this thread.. I think the "lucky that it was not taken further" says most about what happened!
 
Emilynuttall said:
While I completely disagree with trespassing or riding on peoples gardens a couple of months ago me and a friend were riding down an extremely quiet and narrow lane (one car at a time) lane when a car came towards us going around 30 miles an hour, my friend and I quickly pulled our horses over onto a stretch of grass (between a hedge and the road) to give both our horses a little more room from the speeding car. The car came screeching to a halt behind us where a woman got out of the car and started to scream at us for walking over her lawn and that "she doesnt mow it for a joke!!" by this point we were both off the grass and back on the road, I turned and said that we wouldnt have been on the grass if she had been going a little slower, the car would have been able to pass us SLOWLY while we stayed on the road. In this instance she was completely out of order and continued to shout at us as we carried on down the lane.

To be honest I think she is a little insane and I definitely wont be riding over her grass again.... she doesnt mow it for a joke you know!!!
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You may want to double check this but I had a similar thing many moons ago with the mad (mad because he's a nutter, not because he mows the verge BTW) guy over the road from where I live who mows the verge out the front of his house and told us off for riding on 'his lawn'... when in fact the first 3 metres of any verge are council owned... it may or may not be the case but just because she chooses to mow it, doesn't make it 'hers'!
 
hessy12 said:
Well I went to the meeting and it was unpleasant. Luckily the matter is not being taken any further. I wrote and apologised afterwards at the man's suggestion. Police have signed it off.
So not much else to say, lesson learnt but he should NOT have pulled my horse's reins and freaked him out so badly, and I should NOT have been sarcastic to him. Nor reacted the way I did.
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That's a very good outcome. Lessons learnt on both sides.

Mediation is excellent in many circumstances, work or personal life. It's often initially unpleasant because each side will begin with their highly-emotionally-charged, entrenched viewpoints, which have to be released through the mediation process before the calming-down, liaison, discussion and working around to a solution can take place. Well done you and the landowner for both having the balls to sit down and work through this!
 
Honey08 said:
I think that it is good of her to come back on here and give a report. Takes balls really, and she has had everything said to her already on this thread.. I think the "lucky that it was not taken further" says most about what happened!
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Spot on. Absolutely sums it up.
 
CBFan said:
You may want to double check this but I had a similar thing many moons ago with the mad (mad because he's a nutter, not because he mows the verge BTW) guy over the road from where I live who mows the verge out the front of his house and told us off for riding on 'his lawn'... when in fact the first 3 metres of any verge are council owned... it may or may not be the case but just because she chooses to mow it, doesn't make it 'hers'!
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Yes my YO told me this when we got back after laughing like idiots about it the whole way home. Again not exactly sure how true it is, either way Ill be staying off it, dont want to deliverately upset people especially when she obviously takes her lawn mowing very seriously.

Incidentally it wasnt the lawn mowing i thought was mad, it was more the shouting down the road after us and nearly running off the road that lead me to the mad conclusion :D
 
CBFan said:
You may want to double check this but I had a similar thing many moons ago with the mad (mad because he's a nutter, not because he mows the verge BTW) guy over the road from where I live who mows the verge out the front of his house and told us off for riding on 'his lawn'... when in fact the first 3 metres of any verge are council owned... it may or may not be the case but just because she chooses to mow it, doesn't make it 'hers'!
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This gives a fairly good idea what is allowed. http://www.norfolk.gov.uk/travel_and_transport/roads/ncc027433
 
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