barkinghorse
Well-Known Member
Ok, you are all probably sick to death of hearing the highs and lows of William, but need a little advice.
He has good days and bad days, but his bad days are horrendous,
I had a lesson yesterday with my instuctor who up to now i have got on with very well.
I explained to her that with work being so busy i had not done as much with him as i would have liked this week, and we had no turn out for a few days due to the weather, so he would be a little sharp and fresh.
I struggled through 20 mins of my lesson with him, me asking him to bend and be more forward in his trot, him responding with typical indignation, bucking and slamming on.
Then instructor got on as she normally does when he's playing up. WELL, he refused to go forward bucking and rearing, refusing to go on the correct leg in canter, you could see he was working out how NOT to do as he was asked and after a battle that lasted 45 mins, she said there was no way he was going to do it that day and she would ride him again on Tuesday.
She then got really cross with me, saying that i am far too soft with him, he is not the poor victimised horse he was 2 years ago and that if i didn't start getting really tough with him, i would have a dangerous horse on my hands as he knows his own strength and uses it against me. She said that i should not cuddle and treat him, and that brushing alone should be a treat.
He had whip marks across his flanks and was dripping with sweat. His eyes were wild but not in a scared way, he's the type of horse that looks as if to say "that didn't hurt" if you smack him.
Is she right?
I want my horse to WANT to do as i ask, and if that means negotiating with him over a period of time, is that so wrong?
I do spoil him since losing Jess, but he's an absolute love in the stable and endears himself to every one.
I know i'm soft, but i have only recently got my confidence back with him, and don't want to lose it by being chucked off every 5 mins ( not that he has ever tried to get anyone off).
Should i do as she says, or look for a new instructor?
She is highly qualified and used to 3 day event, so i know she knows her stuff.
Well done for reading this far
Jo
He has good days and bad days, but his bad days are horrendous,
I had a lesson yesterday with my instuctor who up to now i have got on with very well.
I explained to her that with work being so busy i had not done as much with him as i would have liked this week, and we had no turn out for a few days due to the weather, so he would be a little sharp and fresh.
I struggled through 20 mins of my lesson with him, me asking him to bend and be more forward in his trot, him responding with typical indignation, bucking and slamming on.
Then instructor got on as she normally does when he's playing up. WELL, he refused to go forward bucking and rearing, refusing to go on the correct leg in canter, you could see he was working out how NOT to do as he was asked and after a battle that lasted 45 mins, she said there was no way he was going to do it that day and she would ride him again on Tuesday.
She then got really cross with me, saying that i am far too soft with him, he is not the poor victimised horse he was 2 years ago and that if i didn't start getting really tough with him, i would have a dangerous horse on my hands as he knows his own strength and uses it against me. She said that i should not cuddle and treat him, and that brushing alone should be a treat.
He had whip marks across his flanks and was dripping with sweat. His eyes were wild but not in a scared way, he's the type of horse that looks as if to say "that didn't hurt" if you smack him.
Is she right?
I want my horse to WANT to do as i ask, and if that means negotiating with him over a period of time, is that so wrong?
I do spoil him since losing Jess, but he's an absolute love in the stable and endears himself to every one.
I know i'm soft, but i have only recently got my confidence back with him, and don't want to lose it by being chucked off every 5 mins ( not that he has ever tried to get anyone off).
Should i do as she says, or look for a new instructor?
She is highly qualified and used to 3 day event, so i know she knows her stuff.
Well done for reading this far
Jo