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You pay someone to turn out your horse because you have to be at work before any others need to be out. That person is to do nothing else with your horse at all. You have only had said horse for three months so are still in the process of establishing your relationship. X who turns your horse out keeps telling you how wonderful said horse is, and how they give it kisses and how they play join up games in the morning and how said horse waits for treats and how they feel said horse has and I quote "latched on to them". Would you be pleased or displeased?
 
Sounds like they are trying to make you jealous....and I'd ban join up games...but then, I'm not a big fan of NH.
I'd be pleased my horse got along with the person, TBH...much worse if they didn't.
I think you just have to be mature and say 'that's nice, dear' even if through gritted teeth.
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I would pity the poor soul with nothing better to do than faff about with someone else's horse. My horses would be so cross if I tried to play 'stoopid' people games with them, when all they want to do is go out roll in mud and go bananas! I'd pay money to see her try and 'join up' with Sovereign when he is waiting to go out!
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Have met and dealt with people like this. Every horse has to go that bit better for them than it goes for anyone else. It is extremely irritating and potentially can cause problems when less experienced people actually believe them

Personally, I would tactfully attempt to extracate myself from having this person deal with my horse and find someone else. But I really can't be bothered with people like this, I find it very very annoying.
 
I think this person is playing mind games to piss you off (jealously maybe?). Just slug of NH for a bit, say that you had a horse bite your hand of because of being fed treats, and just generally lay it on thick.
 
I probably wouldnt like it very much, but I wouldnt say anything if I needed her to do the turn-out. Does sound like she is trying to make you a bit jealous for some reason. Unless Im just a bitter old cow and she is actually really nice and just wants to share with you what a great horse you have..
 
well this is same person who kept interfering with doing my horses rugs and feeds until I explicitly told her not too. but nows shes employed part time on the yard so is doing the turn outs in the morning but i have explicitly told her not to do anything else- just to stick her out- but now she seems to want to play games with my horse when its being turned out- and feeding it titbits which drives me mad- she tells me how my horse waits for them and is an angel for her (even though shes never been a problem for me to turn out either!)
 
ye ... it wud get on my tits a bit... my dad keeps titbiting my ned and all of a sudden she his best friend so before my dad gets in ther am there. Defo ...jelous ban her from doing these things just say you put my horse out thts it !
 
To be honest what horse doesn’t like treats from whoever is feeding them. I know Bodey is anyones best friend if they have something for him to eat in their pocket!
Can you mention it to your YO and see what they say?
 
Someone's a wee bit obsessed!

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If she's ignoring you, go to the YO and have a word. I wouldn't want her having anything to do with my horse - it's all a bit 'the hand that rocks the cradle' for me!
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Sounds like she is just trying to wind you up. dont bite because she'll stop turning your horse out and slag you off to everyone else. sorry i too am bitter!
 
my mum keeps giving my horses bread and peelings (stupid cow how many time s do i have to say no) !!!! so now people in the village who walk their dogs near us do it drives me mad .. i'm not againt treats for good behaviour or special occasions..have now moved my horses and put electric fencing near the road just in case
as to the join up tell her very nicely not to do it as if she keeps doing it to join up with your fist.. hehe (only kidding)
 
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I would be telling her that she is not to feed treats under any circumstances...nothing really bothers me much, but titbitting is one thing that REALLY riles me!

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I'm not a big fan of titbits, but I do have one exception, and that is when turning out - some times I do have a carrot to discourage them form rushing off before the headcollar is off. They only get them occasionally, but have learned to wait, just in case.
As for playing games, that could just refer to turns and backing up when moving the horse between field and stable, it is nice that your horse is being co-operative.

She does sound as though she becomes very attached to horses she deals with, and there may be nothing more to it than that. Personally I would be delighted if any person dealing with my horse cared so much about them, but then I am not at all precious about them.
 
wouldnt bother me, horse will know you, saves you doing it in the morning!! like the_winter I dont get too precious about things like that. Would ignore it she is prob winding you up!
 
I'm glad a couple of you have said ignore it, as thats what I have been doing but I have to say the titbit issue is irritating- as I dont want her to start looking for them, or expecting them, as I beleive horses should behave because they have good manners not in expectation of a treat.
 
horses become attatched to food quickly not people, i would ask her not to give them anything and that may stop the waiting etc that she braggs about..! It would annoy me if people gave Beau treats as she used to be SO spoilt by last owner she would constantly search you and Beg with her hoof... SO IRRITATING! she only gets treats very occasionally this doenst mean she doesnt like me, she just has a different like for me... (or so i like to think!)
 
Just tell her that you dont want the horse to have titbits and as you are building a relationship with the horse, you dont want another person "playing games" and doing join up..... Or tell her bluntly "just do what you are paid to do"! and thats turn the horse out!
 
I dont think she is trying to make you jealous. It sounds to me as if she just likes your horse! I would ask her not to feed it titbits, but as for the rest, well, I dont think its anything to get too bothered about.
 
Does this woman have a horse of her own? If not then maybe she 'pretends' that other peoples horses are hers. If she does then she sounds like a bit of an oddball altogether, what with over ruggingetc. I would ask that some-one else put my horse out as I would not want a new animal confused about who it was supposed to 'join up' with!
 
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