Interfering liveries?

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katie_southwest

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Has anyone had issues before with other liveries interfering in what you do/how you look after your horse/pony? Do you think it's best to try and ignore them and struggle along or have it out with them and risk falling out?
 
I know its part of sharing..we all annoy each other dont we from time to time but its getting to the point where Im going to snap and I hate falling out with people so much!
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Definately just part of being on a livery yard. We have a family on my yard who have only had horses for about two years but they seem to think they know everything, always trying to give people advice. I find it easier to just completely ignore people like that!
 
Seriously, there are always going to be issues. I like my yard as most of us are good enough friends to know to bite our tongues, and our YO keeps us all on the straight and narrow when we are actually doing things wrong. Those interfering ones pop up everywhere, and mine is actually tolerable as long as you ignore them most of the time. I try not to snap too much as horses are my hobby and if I let "them" get to me, it'd be no fun!
Ignore as much as you can. As long as they don't go so far as to actually change your rugs/ feed etc. then it's live and let live, I'm afraid!
 
Yeah I think Im just going to have to say not being funny but I pay to keep my horse here just the same as you so if she has that much of a problem to see YO about it. In the meantime try and avoid her..so sad to be trying to avoid people though
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Yeah! I had big issues with one! and its caused me so much stress and hassle- eventually it was so irritating me I ended up having to have a "serious" talk to her! Shes still a little interfering now- but not quite as bad
 
Its not really a problem on the yard I am on - if someone offers advice its quite nice sometimes to see a different method of doing things and as it is advice, not an order, you can chose not to do it. I would be angry if someone actually interferred with my horse though.
 
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Yeah! I had big issues with one! and its caused me so much stress and hassle- eventually it was so irritating me I ended up having to have a "serious" talk to her! Shes still a little interfering now- but not quite as bad

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What kind of things was she doing? I want to make sure Im not over reacting..also she is a very very hot headed person and feel I would come off worse!
 
She was re-rugging my horse after I went home- i.e putting on extra rugs even though it wasnt that cold! How did I find out- i forgot my mobile on the yard and so went up at about 9pm one night and saw my mare very warm with three rugs on in November! She would feed my horse without asking! She would turn my mare out when she did hers even though she knew I was coming up that morning- what if i wanted to ride etc?
She would call the mare 'ours' rather than mine.... and would tell me what i ought to do with her etc......
 
I have read the posts and folks are quite right in saying, ignore + avoid. But sometimes the interferring person is so thick skined they dont take that hint and think "you are thick" and persist even more because they are determined to get their point across. If you think this is the case, a quick little hissy fit can put it right and not cause too much damage, people quickly back off.

Its always best to avoid, but if you did say something on the odd occasion I am sure it would not held against you.
 
It's the one's who set rules so that they get extra money out of it. Like on a DIY livery, where horses have to be in at certain times, knowing that you can't get there for that time, just so you can be charged for a service you don't need, or when you travel to a yard and the owner says that horses come in at 'X' time, only for you to have to stand around waiting for ages until they can be bothered to turn up. Either that or you get the owners horses in....for free!
 
I think she is totally out of order. Im the sort of person who keeps myself to myself other than my friends (im not ignorant and I do talk to people but I cant be doing when people hang around waiting to say something!).

If I caught someone near my horse without my permission I would go mad! Someone brought my old horse in because they had moved fields (and failed to tell me!) and put her in her stable with no food and water all day! Not impressed!

Another thing that annoys me is when someone asks about 6 people the same question then wonders why they get conflicting advice (and winges about it!).


Some sad people on my yard dont like me because I dont ask questions because I am capeable of looking after my horse myself (and when I do need advice I ring my instructor!).

I think its childish!
 
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