Introducing a new puppy to another dog in the home

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Hi

I have a 2 year old border collie which we adore and love to bits. He's perfect, great with other dogs, in the house, loves to play and go for walks etc
However we have been toying with the idea of getting another dog so he has someone to play with when we are at work and of course we would love another superstar dog.
Anyhoo...we took the plunge and got a puppy yesterday...eep!!
I was on my own when I picked him up and brought him home and our older dog was in his usual position of being asleep, upside on the sofa when I came in.
I put the puppy (9 weeks) on the floor and my older dog jumped off and sniffed him all over...the puppy just ran over to the pile of toys and worked his way nibbling everyone and chewing the chews (he's teething) our older dog of course snatched everything away from him and sulked.
About an hour later they started to play, running in circles, puppy jumping on his back with only a couple of yelps from he pup from the odd paw swipe! I have tried to stay away when they are playing unless our older dog gets a bit boisterous and bowls him over.
However our older dog keeps giving me a look as if to say "why" and it makes me feel so guilty...I'm worried I've upset him. We got the puppy hoping they would become good friends but I can't stop feeling guilty and have even cried that we've done the wrong thing.
The puppy is sleeping in the kitchen at nights with his toys, bed etc, etc until he can hold his bladder and then he can come upstairs with us (older dog sleeps in our room) the pup after the usual crying settles down.
They are rolling on the floor, biting each other (not nasty) but I can't stop the guilty feeling to the point where I don't know if I've done the right thing and I should sell him to go back to the way things were.
The puppy will be in the kitchen in the day behind a baby gate while our other dog has the rest of the house as usual, I come home at lunch to walk him, should I make a fuss of the pup or not disturb and just take Max out?
I'm worried that Max is going to get frustrated and snap at the pup, is this just part of establishing a hierarchy?
How do I make a fuss of Max but so the pup doesnt feel left out and Vise versa.
Any advice is really appreciated.
I don't want to make Max unhappy and I want to do right by the pup.

 

[satinbaze]

I would make sure you have time with your older dog on his own. Train him and play with him without the puppy, then do the same with the puppy. I always walk my puppies seperatly until they are at least 6 months old this is so they look to me rather than forming a pack when out on a walk. 2 dogs is more than twice the work at least for the first year. I also don't allow any rough "play" or biting behaviour as once learned it becomes the normal
A crate trained puppy is much easier to manage as you can pop him in the crate with a chew whilst you give the older dog your attention

 

[CorvusCorax]

Wow, chill out, you only got the pup yesterday, they're not going to instantly turn into best buddies. With the best will in the world, you needed to think all these things through and consider your management *before* you got the pup.
No shared toys or chews is a good starting point, that can be a recipe for disaster.

Agree with SB, lots of separate work and use crates and gates so that the older dog can have a bit of chill time. Re 'making a fuss' when you come back at lunch, I actually wouldn't 'make a fuss' when entering the house after being out for a while, it can encourage silly behaviour when humans are entering and leaving the house. Leave it for a few minutes and then calmly greet the dog.

The 'whhy' look, wouldn't worry me, think you are humanising the older dog a bit, if you manage things carefully, he'll get over the fact that there's an annoying new puppy in the house. Just don't let the puppy over-step the mark as that is when barneys happen.

 

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Thanks guys, much appreciated.

 

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