Is every livery yard bitchy??

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6 months into the yard where I'm currently and I was thinking that I was one of the lucky ones as it seemed that there was very little bitchiness. I kept my head down, minded my own business and was as proactively friendly as I could be with everyone. Tonite, one of the other liveries (who I've always said friendly hellos to and she has barely grunted back) went out of her way to humiliate me, within earshot of others. Very, very nasty and has ruined what should have been a lovely evening. I know - I'll ignore it and just get on with it tomorrow when I'm back at the yard but still - it's pretty upsetting all the same.... :-(
 
Ugh how nasty. I'd nip it in the bud and next time you see her ask why she did it. It might snap her into realising you might be friendly and quiet but that doesn't mean you're a pushover.

Don't let her get you down
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Maybe she was having a bad day? No excuse to be mean tho.
I don't think my livery yard is bithcy
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or if it is i am totally oblivious to it, which is always possible!!
Hope its ok when you go back tomoro!
 
It's just mean and I always think for the most part jelousy (sp??!!!) most yards I've experienced sadly are bitchy. As dobby said don't let them get you down. It's their own insecurities x
 
Hmm I think on every yard there is someone like this- ours is no different! Just completely ignore her-- I used to say friendly hellos and got barely a grunt back! So now I just don't bother and although there's a lot of backstabbing I don't really care-- find the nice people in the yard and stick with em!
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Yep, sometimes there's bitchiness everywhere, don't let it get you down. Livery yards are also really good for support, motivation, people to go hacking and out on trips with, so what if people have a bitch and moan here and there, focus on the good stuff.
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bitchy wow................lets see i was on one yard where someone wrote to british dressage to complain that i beat her horse with some thing like my horse

one livery at another yard would threaten you

another 4 liveries all older than 30 systamatically bullied a 16 yr old and her mother

and that is just at the top of my head
 
You're very lucky if you get one which isnt bitchy. I have finally given up and got my own little place. I will NEVER go back to a livery yard if I can help it.
 
Yard I am at has a clique of half a dozen women who think they are gods gitft etc.
Their bitchiness drips with poison and if you are in the barrel life can become very uncomfortable. Several other liveries have previously left. I survive by having an A level in sarcasm and thirty years in the Police on how to use it.
 
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It's just mean and I always think for the most part jelousy (sp??!!!) most yards I've experienced sadly are bitchy. As dobby said don't let them get you down. It's their own insecurities x

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Totally agree with this. I know its horrible but see it as her problem, not anything bad on you. Horsey people are VERY bitchy. Even on here there are many people who just cant wait to make sly comments, rude replies or sarcastic jabs. Ive read loads of innapropriate and provocative posts/replies on here that were uncalled for. It is frequently down to jealousy and that sort of person you wouldnt want to be friends with anyway. Shallow and pathetic.

You are clearly better than her.
 
its what happens when you get a load of women together
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university yards are the worst , the number of people who had been round badminton was astonishing and we had a 28yr old ex racer with stringhalt who won the 1m40 at devon county !!! keep yourself to yourself is the best way no1 can bother you then
 
Unfortunately it's not restricted to livery yards. I live in an area where everyone has an opinion on other people's horses, whether or not they are capable of doing any better. Keep yourself to yourself and ignore, if they think it's not having an effect they will move on - it doesn't bother me a jot but I know some people who get quite upset
 
She clearly has a problem
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- as the others have said jealousy, insecurity etc etc The worst offender at our yard was a livery who called herself an RI - don't even start me on her
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- anyway after years of making it miserable for all of us in turns - her face was enough to turn milk sour and as I live at the yard some days I would dread going out to see my horse - she finally left - hurray!!
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Ever since then the yard has never been the same - its a nice happy place and by an large we all get on - the odd huffy moment but generally good humoured and friendly - in the past we have all suffered on horrid yards so do make an effort not to be like that.

Difficult I know - but I used to walk around with a smile, say hello to everyone (even if it was through gritted teeth!) and giggle in front of the worst offender for no good reason - probably made her worse but it amused me!!
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I am lucky now, the last 3 yards I have been on have been fine and the one I am currently on is perfect, a lovely mix and the one bad egg (see my last livery post re nicking) has been evicted. I have moved about a bit due to jobs etc but have been fortunate to pick nice yards. Tarquin's breeders place was the best one, they vet all new clients to see if they would get on with the others before taking them on and it works well.
 
I'm another lucky one.I have been at my yard for a total of around 9 years now,both working there as a groom and also as a livery.We have always had a good bunch of liveries and everyone gets on great.Our youngest livery is just 15 but very mature for her age and we have a fair few over 50.Most of us are in our 30's and we all do our best to help each other out as much as we can and there is no bitchiness whatsoever.We all know that if any of us have a problem of any kind we can ask each other for help and advice and will always get whatever help we need.The YO and his partner are both nice people and both very knowledgeable and again will always help out with any problems.
 
That sounds awful and it just spoils what is your hobby and leisure time. I am lucky, there are 7 other liveries on my yard and we all seem to get on well!
 
Think they are yes. Need your own yard, but unfortunately it's not something we can all have.

Keep yourself to yourself, bear in mind that everyone has opinions (this forum is an example of that) and TRY not to take things personally, however hard.

We have our horses to enjoy them, don't let the sad b******s get you down!
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But, if it really gets too much, look for somewhere else. Life is too short to put up with numpties who make your life hell!!
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Poor you
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as previously said, its them not you!
My yard is very unbitchy, even though we have a lot of strong personalities, and people of whom me and my friend are the youngest- most are around 18-25 (university polo club is here!)
 
I am lucky in that the livey yard the one I share is on only ha four people who go down there varying from 9 - mid sixties. However we all get along really well and love sharing anecdotes.

However, I experienced an extremely bitchy yard when I went on work experience. I didn't put a foot out of lin and did everything asked of me. I wasn't thanked in any way at the end of the week, recieved no payment and worst of all the promised ride was not forthcoming. All the people there were so scared of the YO that they placed any blame on me wether that be for a horse escaping from a stable I was at least 100m away from to a "stolen" drop noseband which turned out to be in the woman's pocket... Needless to say I have never been back there and I know they offer brilliant riding instruction, but it didn't seem worth it in the end. (rant over)
 
Our livery yard is great, nobody bitches about anyone else.We have dressage divas and showjumpers on our yard and when someone goes to a show whether its jumping or dressage the rest of the yard turn up to support them.
 
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Mine isnt bitchy at all! Everyone is really lovely and friendly. People just get on with their own horses, nobody makes comments about others and the lady I share my barn with bakes cakes and always leaves me some
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I absolutely love it there
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I think a lot of it is to do with some liveries not having a life outside of the yard, therefore not having any other opportunity to vent/rant, possibly inadequate social skills (psychology suggests that women bond by being bitchy) and the likelihood of jealousy/envy directed towards people that do have a life outside of the yard.

That's my theory anyway. I have been on yards that have had cliques, I've never really tolerated it and have subsequently left. I usually keep myself to myself (in a polite way), though I will stop and chat with liveries that I have known for years, and that I consider to be genuine friends. I find this works well for me! Plus now that I live in Norwich as opposed to London, I find everyone up here to be much friendlier - people that have never seen me before will shout hello out to me! It's quite lovely really.
 
well i'm currently leaving my yard because its VERY bitchy and has a horrendous clique...however am hoping that new yard is going to be much better. i think when you get a load of women together there is always going to be a bit of bitchyness and lots of gossiping but its when it gets out of hand that it becomes untolerable- this is where a good YM/YO comes into their own- realises whats happening and stops it all from getting out of hand...i'd continue to smaile and say hello at the cowbaggage in question as she is only jealous of something about you and it will annoy her more that you are being nice...
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