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I need some advice. I think my heart is ruling my head at the moment after my beautiful girl Ruby was PTS on Monday after a 6 week fight against a severe bowel infection.
I don't know if this is fate intervening but I have just discovered that a chestnut gelding at our yard has been abandoned by his owner. She hasn't paid her livery fees for 18 months :eek::eek: The yo has been paying for all his care, worming, vet, blacksmith and has the baliffs after her for his money. She hasn't been to see the pony (14.2) for 18 months. YO has been told the pony is now legally his but he doesn't want him. The pony in question is a little sweatheart and desperate to be loved.:(
Do you think fate is telling me I should be his new mummy? After all, why did I only hear about this 4 days after Ruby died?
I'm torn as to what to do. My OH says I am too emotional to be able to make a rational decision at the moment. I will never ever be able to replace Ruby but am I meant to take on this poor boy?
Very very confused.:confused:
Forgot to say we still have 3 others but they are my daughter's horses even though I own 2 of them. Ruby was all mine even though my daughter competed on her.
 
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Would yard owner consider you exercising pony with a view to them selling? Then you can get to know each other without jumping in to owning again?
 
I would be very tempted, but it is a time to step back and be sure.

As suggested above could you help out with the pony on a loan basis getting it ready for sale, and see how you feel after a few weeks.

So sad to read about animals being abandoned, thank goodness your YO is responsible and has seen that it is ok
 
I am presuming that this gelding is suitable for what you are wanting - age, size, ability, experience etc...? However, if no do not go there and because you feel it is fate. If yes, then why don't you have a chat to the YO about things and see if you could have a trial period with the gelding. Ask her that you don't want to make an immediate decision about your next horse as you are too emotional at the minute. Where it is fate or not, time will tell.

Everyone grieves in a different way and takes a different time to get over the loss of a loved horse. I personally find it helpful to have another horse etc... to help me get over the loss whereas I know some friends that have had to take a break from horses for some months etc... before they can consider another horse.

However, whatever you decide I would be certain that the legal ownership of the horse is sorted before you buy. Last thing you want is the previous owner suddenly turning up and causing you grief.

Hugs and sorry for your loss
 
Get in there, life is so short and if you can financially afford him, which it seems you can, get him!! I do believe in fate, go on, what have you got to lose.
 
Shysmum said:
Take your time to think about it, but I would follow your gut instincts....
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Agree with this /\ try to think as carefully as you can, and do not decide anything suddenly as you are no doubt very emotional still. Sometimes I think fate does seem to do some funny things. Good luck with whatever you decid, and terribly sorry to hear about the loss of your mare x
 
I would agree with what some others have said - see if the YO would let you exercise the horse for a bit. What's been done with it over the past 18mths and why has the YO been forking out a load of cash for so long for it? When you said they have been "told" it's legally theirs - who by? I would be very concerned about this as, if this horse is still legally registered (ie chip/passport etc) to its actual owner then it's a bit of a tricky situation and the owner could end up coming back and just taking the pony back. If the owner has actually signed the pony over to the YO then fine.

Tread carefully, if you did get involved without knowing the legalities then you potentially could be ending up with more heartache should the owner reappear out of the blue.
 
For clarity - the law is different over here on a lot of issues. The YO took legal advice and by law unless she suddenly pays the full amount she owes, including all the vet, blacksmith bils etc., the pony now belongs to him. The pony isn't worth the amount she owes.
The animal services are also involved. Don't get me wrong, the pony is in very good condition, not suffering in anyway at all, only from lack of an owner's love. They are pursuing her for abandonment as if the YO had not taken care of him, he would have suffered.
The Dutch do amuse and puzzle me sometimes with their horse care views but when it comes to cruelty and issues like this, they are amazing.
 
I'm a believer in fate, and if, as he is, 'just there', then, perhaps after a chat with YO, 'be his mummy on loan' til you understand where your heart is, and go from there.
What will happen, happens for a reason. I'm a believer in 'something positive always comes from a negative, may be hard to find, but it is there'.

Best wishes, x
 
I have to add this........ my animals always seem to find me, just at the very exact time I am thinking about looking for one. I believe in fate too. :)
 
Rebels said:
Would yard owner consider you exercising pony with a view to them selling? Then you can get to know each other without jumping in to owning again?
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^^^ this, but I would also trust your gut as well - I've always found it to be right plus the right animal does find you at the right time
 
I believe people and animals come in and out of our lives for a reason and it is better to have loved than not to have loved at all, if it was me, i would take it as a sign that you need to help this poor boy, good luck in whatever you decide.
 
Right, have to take a step back and look at this logically.
I will spend some time with him and see if we make a connection. If we do, then I will ask YO what his plans for him are and see how it goes. Not sure if I am ready to love another one yet, stll grieving. I have taken the loss of Ruby very badly.:(
If there is no connection, question answered. I will save the money I spent looking after Ruby every month and who knows what the future holds.
 
You don't mention any reason for having him other than it might be fate seeing as you just found out he is available. Do you know the animal at all, is he remotely your type etc?
 
micramadam said:
Right, have to take a step back and look at this logically.
I will spend some time with him and see if we make a connection. If we do, then I will ask YO what his plans for him are and see how it goes. Not sure if I am ready to love another one yet, stll grieving. I have taken the loss of Ruby very badly.:(
If there is no connection, question answered. I will save the money I spent looking after Ruby every month and who knows what the future holds.
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That's sounds like a sensible approach. Although i do think that the mere fact that you are even asking the question suggests that you may need him as much as he needs you. Often animals do seem to find us at just the right time. xx
 
If you like him I think you should go for it as he might be just what you need.
My youngster died suddenly and I was left with no horse and no money to buy another. Unexpectedly a lady I had sold a pony to several years before rang me. She was having to give him up due to her ill health and offered to give him back to me. He was 16 by then and not at all what I had been expecting to be riding again but he has been back here for 8 years now and he's been great.
 
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