Is it just me?

But but but but - popcorn!

OP - why don't you say all this to your husband then? I do think you're flogging a dead horse here (haHA!:p:D) what with this being a horse forum and all; most of us do kind of like them...
 
You sound like one of the most selfish people I have ever heard. Its all about you isn't it?

Its very simple - don't buy another horse, dog, chicken, in fact, anything with a pulse. You clearly haven't the patience or inclination or sense of responsibility to take care of another creature.
 
I'm not "tight! " We are low waged,have less than £1000 in savings of any kind,have old cars and almost all our money goes on household costs and food. We dont holiday and go out or have a takeaway as a treat once a month. We only have the state pension when we retire. I bought the field with a legacy. I wish I had money to spend as I wished, but have to budget very carefully each month so as not be go into the red. I wont use credit cards as had to tp pay the vet bill and then it costs a fortune in interest which we can ill afford. Husband wants to get a cheap 2 yr old or something to keep us in horses. I do not. I had money ,years ago,when I was single and living at home. It was great, I competed,won rosettes,bought a car and trailer. Unfortunately those days are long gone.
re the farrier. I worded it wrong. I USED to hand over £60 --or £120 if both being shod every 6 weeks and it really got me down. So much money for so little work. I know there qualified but that didnt make it any easier.
 
attheponies. Thankyou, I just wanted someone,sensibly,to confirm what I was already thinking. If I can show this thread to husband maybe he'll stop pestering me about buying another one. Unfortunate troll comments,however,probably wont help my case about not having to buy one as he wont take the forum seriously.
In answer to why I'm on this forum, I do like reading about what others are doing,feeding,clipping etc.
 
well if you can't afford to keep a horse as it should be kept, or don't want to spend the money to keep it as it should be kept, don't get one.
 
There is a forge down the road from me, it cost me £30 to have his fronts done.

Bad quality of work though so I've found a new farrier who is worth far more than the £40 I hand over to him.

OP if you're not a troll you should get divorced and stay away from animals!
 
So if you were so damn skint then why didnt you sell the horse. Just because someone as selfish as you didnt "gell" with the poor thing, didnt mean someone else wouldnt have.

Oh, god damn it, Ive just fed the troll.

Oh, and before you deny being a troll, you really should rethink that, people would have more respect for you if you were one!

So you cant be arsed getting up, mucking out, blah de blah de blah......and you havent got much money.........

Sooooo dont get another horse, sell your field....problem solved!!! you dont inflict yourself on anymore horses and you have a bit of cash in your pocket!
 
if money is that big a issue then getting another horse is only going to make it worse. i wouldnt bother if i were you and you should speak to your husband about it, he doesnt seem to realise the situation if he's "pressuring" you that much. you also dont have appear to have the right attitude for owning a horse especially if you cant be bothered with the mucking out and early mornings. those things come with owning a horse and short of employing someone to do it for you, then you have to put up with it like others do and realise that once you have done the hard work, you can give your horse some tlc and have fun.
 
If you're looking for tea and sympathy I think you've come to the wrong place. If you don't have the money and can't be bothered - don't - PLEASE!

I don't have buckets of money but I chose to spend what I have on what I love - my horses and other animals.

As for putting a horse down at 14 because basically you couldn't be bothered makes me horribly angry - those of us that love and respect these amazing animals either make sure that the horse that we don't get along with finds a home with someone that they can be with or in my case keeps a very expensive but loving field ornament because he was injured and can't be ridden much now.

DO NOT GET ANOTHER HORSE - GROW UP AND TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND!
 
DiablosGold said:
There is a forge down the road from me, it cost me £30 to have his fronts done.

Bad quality of work though so I've found a new farrier who is worth far more than the £40 I hand over to him.

OP if you're not a troll you should get divorced and stay away from animals!
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^^^^ agree, does your husband not listen to you then???? TELL HIM you can't afford to take care of a horse so therefore will NOT be getting one. If he still wants to get one then you need to think about why the hell you are married to him! The wefare of an animal should be more important than the need to "stay in horses" that you then have to shoot.
 
beanie-boo thankyou. I am being pressured. He simply thinks that be "need" a horse for some reason. I guess hes seen how much I have loved them in the past . I'm 50 years old and until the autumn have been a horse owner since dad bought me my first pony. I've had great ,happy times with several ponies and horses over the [many]years. Bred a few foals,backed and schooled,competed. I admit that it has shocked me a tad,how easily I asked the knacker man to dispatch mine too. I hadnt even thought about what would happen with only one stressed mare until he was here to shoot husbands. Husband was terribly upset. He thinks ,knew,i'd been very happy around horses,all through courtship,early marriage and children, we'd always managed to keep at least one,my old pony initially,then the kids ponies. we were farming then and it was easy to keep them.
I still think i did the right thing, i didnt want her runnung blindly into a fence or being sedated for weeks. We had gone into the red to pay the vet and couldnt get a companion as no money to buy one. Afterwards I did think I should have rung the riding school locally and offered her to them,but being an arab mare i guessed they wouldnt want her. I'll never know. It was all very upsetting to think clearly at the time dure to Husbands horses broken leg. Just seemed the best to let them go together,as they were always together in the field. Maybe I did the wrong thing. I dont know.
 
zsmm4 said:
beanie-boo thankyou. I am being pressured. He simply thinks that be "need" a horse for some reason. I guess hes seen how much I have loved them in the past . I'm 50 years old and until the autumn have been a horse owner since dad bought me my first pony. I've had great ,happy times with several ponies and horses over the [many]years. Bred a few foals,backed and schooled,competed. I admit that it has shocked me a tad,how easily I asked the knacker man to dispatch mine too. I hadnt even thought about what would happen with only one stressed mare until he was here to shoot husbands. Husband was terribly upset. He thinks ,knew,i'd been very happy around horses,all through courtship,early marriage and children, we'd always managed to keep at least one,my old pony initially,then the kids ponies. we were farming then and it was easy to keep them.
I still think i did the right thing, i didnt want her runnung blindly into a fence or being sedated for weeks. We had gone into the red to pay the vet and couldnt get a companion as no money to buy one. Afterwards I did think I should have rung the riding school locally and offered her to them,but being an arab mare i guessed they wouldnt want her. I'll never know. It was all very upsetting to think clearly at the time dure to Husbands horses broken leg. Just seemed the best to let them go together,as they were always together in the field. Maybe I did the wrong thing. I dont know.
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Your knackerman shoots husbands??? :eek:
 
brighteyes said:
Your knackerman shoots husbands??? :eek:
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In this economic climate it pays to diversify:D

OP, I find it a little hard to stomach that here you are saying that you have doubts about having done the right thing in having your horse shot, and on another thread you are advocating having a 4yo shot.
 
flips ,I'm not looking for tea and sympathy from anyone. I posted to see if anyone else thinks farriery is expensive. Obviously its just me that thinks its not worth it. This is useful as I can now show husband that others are more committed than me. I used to be keen as anything, but just cant see any point in it all now. The replies I've recieved on the thread confirm this,and I thank all the sensible replies posted.
 
Spudlet, yes, because that is what I did with mine. However, the replies on this thread make me now think I did the wrong thing. Coming from farming background we just sold or shot any cow or sheep that was defective in any way, this is how I was brought up to think about animals. I realise others think differently. Maybe I was wrong to advise shooting the 4 year old. The poster seemed at the end of her teather about what to do and that is all I could think of. If most other people think its the wrong advice then its the wrong advice I've given on the other thread.
 
have tried to quote galaxy 23 but cant get the quote thing to work
If only I could get husband to realise that her post is so very true.
 
My farrier costs me £160.00 for a set of shoes, to me after living here for so long £60.00 is positively cheap...But then I do live in one of the most expensive countries in the world. Do I begrudge spending that and the Welsh A's trim on top every 6 odd weeks? Nope not at all and I even give him a £20.00 tip most times he comes out and always make a pot of real coffee for him at the stables and sometimes make cake. Good farriers in this part of Norway are a very rare breed. My farrier is a star, he is sometimes unreliable, lets us down and comes late but I would not want to lose him. If he didn't do my horses feet we would have to do them ourselves as the other alternatives for miles around would turn my blood cold to let them anywhere near my horses feet.

In Norway most trim and shoe themselves as it is perfectly legal to do so, that is why I gladly pay my farrier anything he quotes. Needs must due to my location. I would still own and have my horses shod by him if it was £300.00 every 6 weeks, but then I see a lot of value for money in my hobby and horses. To me they are worth every penny.

You just need to give up, if you own land ask a local farmer to put sheep or cows on it, or offer them to rent it for hay making. Your attitude must suck to most horse lovers, the one thing about HHO is that people here care and are devoted to their horses.
 
I think you worded your earlier post very badly in saying that you had your mare shot because you couldnt be bothered with her, you then explained the reasons behind it which I personally do not feel justify it but whats done is done. If you felt this way about a horse you had for 4 years I would not buy another if I was you and if you have been married for a long time you should know your husband well enough to get your feelings across. Just because he has horses does not mean you have to.
 
No defence honey, I own a large farm. Until a few years back we had a herd of over 120 dairy cows and bulls raised for meat as our main income, the family farm has been in my husbands family for over 200 years. I have never treated any of my horses as a cash cow, they are my hobby not an income. Even having a farm we have never ever been heartless to any of our animals.

There are plenty of us on here from a farming situation, I do not think we view our horses the way you have viewed yours. I am a bit shocked to be honest :confused:
 
I for one see totally where you are coming from, you are being forced into a situation that you do not want to be in again, and that is not fair.

As for your mare, how many times on here do we here of people wishing to loan horses with a problem then it goes badly wrong, at least Op has done the fair thing by her horse and that is to know her future was secured. Can you see an add 14yo arab mare seperation anxiety runs through fences etc etc, not many people would take her on, at least she is never ever going to suffer, and whilst 14 is not old, it is not young either. The mare knew nothing horses live for now, not what might or could have been.

I think your post is a cry for help, and the best help I can suggest is you have to sit down with your husband and tell him exactly how YOU are feeling, YOU do not want another horse (which is fair enough) and that you begrudge spending not only your hard earnt money on one, but also the time it takes up.

Good luck, be brave and speak up.
 
Scally,thankyou so much. I didnt want my mare going from pillar to post,market to the knackers yard. She was shot at home with her best friend. How often have I read that advocated on equine forums, dont send the horse off to an uncertain future. I thought i'd done right at the time. Maybe I didnt.
 
vixxy i'm not saying it as a defence, I'm saying that thats how I think about it,a horse,cow or sheep. I dont differentiate.
 
zsmm4 said:
Scally,thankyou so much. I didnt want my mare going from pillar to post,market to the knackers yard. She was shot at home with her best friend. How often have I read that advocated on equine forums, dont send the horse off to an uncertain future. I thought i'd done right at the time. Maybe I didnt.
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Well why did you originally post that "you were fed up with your mare"? If the case was that your Arab mare would be suffering from anxiety syndrome?
 
I think renting out the field is a good idea. Just need to pursade husband that we dont need another horse now. Unfortunately I cant show him this thread as there are only one or 2 serious replies on it that would show him that we cant afford one,either in time,money,or wanting to. Not well worded but I dont know how to put it .
Will try to talk him out of horse hunting.
 
I have only ever had one holiday, my honeymoon, we live on value products and cheap clothes, etc etc. However, we keep our animals in a suitable manner (vet/farrier/feed etc)and certainly do not begrudge paying the farrier. I take it that on your low wage, you are not qualified to do anything so difficult and dangerous?
Why don't you sell your land and put it away to earn good interest to boost your pension.
 
m3gan,because I was fed up with her,was fed up of having to ride her when I didnt feel like it ,mucking out and so on. Had too many years of it. This added to the anxiety thing made me think it was best for her to be shot with her friend before we got another bill we couldnt afford. And I didnt want her to end up doing the rounds at the markets.
 
Donkeymad, I married 25 years ago ad didnt have a honey moon. Married on a week day and back to work the day after. I know,my choice. We have struggled for 25 years on value products too. the field is our pension. when we retire we will sell it.
 
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