Is it just me?

[twiggy2]

My Lil lurcher was put to sleep a week ago on Monday and yes it is like having a whole in my heart and my head at the same time, she is not lying on my feet when I am on the computer and leaning against my legs when I answer the door, hassling me a 9 o'clock on the dot for dinner but most of all I miss walking with her and seeing her run.
I know it was the right thing to do and the right time to do it so I am not tearful and emotional, the decision sits easily with me as to extend her life would have meant pain and suffering.
So many people I would expect to have some understanding of how I am feeling keep offering me their dogs to walk and I find myself repeatedly saying, 'I am not missing a dog to be with, I am missing Lil' they still look at me blankly!
I find myself looking at puppies but for the first time ever non of them grab me, they do nothing for me, I still have my 2 elderly fellows but they don't walk anymore they potter in the garden quite happily and I wont get a puppy whilst they are still here as I don't think it is fair on them. Obviously I am not ready either.
I miss her so much.

but for everyone out there, 'I don't want to walk your dogs' cos at the moment they are just dogs, even the ones I know they are just dogs...

So now I am tearful and emotional and it hurts

 

[Janah]

a few years ago I lost my collie bitch, my dog of a lifetime. I couldn't face getting another dog, it took me over a year and I now have two labs, could'nt get another collie as would have compared to the original collie.

I lost my pony 2 years ago and a friend offered me to ride one of hers, I did but it was the wrong size, the wrong colour and smelt wrong. the friend was being kind and I appreciate that. however it didn't help at all.

people mean well and I do so sympathise with you. Time, as you have been told thousands of times, is a great healer, and only now, 2 years on can I talk about my pony without crying.

No help to you at this stage but it will pass.

hugs to you and you will feel better in time

jane

 

[twiggy2]

I know they mean well, I am just surprised that they don't get that just any dog will not fill the gap.

I was very 'connected' to my first dog too but this one was different.

A very welcome hug, Thank You

 

[{97702}]

It isn't just you - when I lost Talisker, my dog of a lifetime, nothing could fill the void and I physically ached I missed him so much for many months afterwards. I had other dogs, who I love very much, but they weren't/aren't him. I quite understand where you are coming from..... more (((hugs))) for you

 

[Clodagh]

Each and every dog occupies a different part of us, it seems odd to me that anyone would think walking a strange dog would replace your Lil. Probably the only way they can think to offer kindness and they mean well.

 

[Cinnamontoast]

Big hugs to you, I know that awful ache, probably all of us do. I did the crazy thing of running out two weeks after Jake was PTS and got two more, who I resented horribly for not being Jake for ages.

Do what's right for you, you might see something and fall in love, you might not. You don't need to get another until you're ready and less heart broken. X