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Hi I have a small DIY yard with a couple of liveries & all I want is a nice quiet yard
The one livery is a girl aged 14 - (same age as my daughter thought she would have someone to ride with) her parents seemed ok & told me that she would be there all the time but we only see her about 4 times a week

I know that you can get away with not going down every day in summer but I would just to check that alls ok
- Anyway what really gets to me is that all l I ask is that fields are poo picked every day we have had to set up a rota because since she has come there has been an issue with this - well it was my turn last night & I could not believe the amount of poo I had to clear she obviously hadnt done it all on her day ( this isnt the 1st time either) so what do I do now
I have already got her parents involved who promised me that she would do her share - which she isnt
I think I have a couple of options either move her horse to another paddock
& she can clear up his mess & we do ours or ask her to leave - It is my yard & she should abide by my rules but am I being harsh asking her to leave because of this - but why should she mess my land up by not poo picking correctly ?? I just feel that I keep having this issue with her & I am fed up with it Any advice gratefully received
 
Not at all, I would start adding on to her monthly livery bills all the services you have given for her whether it be feeding her horse, mucking out her field, haying her horse ect ect then see what happens maybe she will pull her finger out and do something.

But to be fair as a resonsible parent shouldnt then enforce responsibility onto their daughter
 
Very sorry if this sounds harsh but if you are running a DIY yard then the owner should be there twice a day sun or rain to look after their horse- i don't think you can get away with not going to see the horse every day in the summer-, if they cannot then they should ensure they get someone to cover for them or pay you (being the yard owner) to look after the horse- if that is a service you offer. I don't think it would be fair on the horse if he is happy with the others to segregate him because his owner won't poo pick.

The child's parents should also think seriously as well about the situation, i would probably ask them to leave however i'd have a good chat with them first, maybe they are oblivious as to what is required when you take on the responsibility of horse ownership!.
 
The childs parents aren't oblivious as to how to look after horses as her step mom has them but the 14 year old keeps them @ a different yard (my yard) as she lives with her mom & it is closer therefore easier for her to get to !

Her parents seem to think what she is doing is ok ??
I know I need to have another word & I know that this comes with having liveries but she has only been there since May & to be honest I am getting a bit fed up with constantly nagging - maybe asking her to leave may be the better option as I feel more issues will arise during the winter months - as apparently she is going to be studying more so wont be able to come down as much as she is now - I need to speak to her parents again & then go from there - wish me luck - because I'm not very tactful @ the best of times !!!
 
If I understand you correctly, you have already explained your yard rules and these are not being adhered to. In your shoes I would have one final word with the parents and effectively give them and the daughter a Final Warning. I think that's fair.

Make it clear that, unless there is immediate (and continued) adherence of the rules, you will have no choice but to give notice and you will also charge for any additional work that you are having to do because of this unacceptable situation.

It certainly isn't you!
 
Flummoxed said:
If I understand you correctly, you have already explained your yard rules and these are not being adhered to. In your shoes I would have one final word with the parents and effectively give them and the daughter a Final Warning. I think that's fair.

Make it clear that, unless there is immediate (and continued) adherence of the rules, you will have no choice but to give notice and you will also charge for any additional work that you are having to do because of this unacceptable situation.

It certainly isn't you!
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Agree with this absolutely. Abide by the yard rules or leave.
 
I agree with the above, and if this is how she looks after the horse in july what will happen in the cold wet winter months. I think you need to be very firm now . Good luck.
 
I keep my mare on part livery and like this evening she is on full and I am not going up beacuse I worked late at my second job last night and got 3 hours sleep before returning to my main job she frowns at me and I am 24 and have always paid my own livery since i was 14. lol

She would go spare and kick my ass if I behaved like your livery,
 
I would give them 1 month notice in writing. Your rules were clear, they have been ignored despite already having words.

It's your yard and you should be happy there. Get rid.
 
I feel for you, having liveries can be very stressful when you get people who take the mickey. Unfortunately you do get some who will take advantage and think they can keep pushing their luck with you. They rely on the fact that you won't want to create any awkwardness and will try to keep a relaxed atmosphere. I think you would be better to get rid in this instance because the fact that she has already shown no respect for your authority, at this early stage of the relationship, does not bode at all well for the more hardworking horsey months to come soon.

My advice is to speak to her or the parents as soon as possible so its not playing on your mind, ask them to find somewhere else for their horse......
 
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