tallyho!
Following a strict mediterranean diet...
I think you have a lovely horse there. From what you have written, I think the very simple changes posters have suggested for you will transform things for you and this horse. I found it sad to read you YO is so stoic about her choices for what is essentially YOUR possession, however, I think that she probably thinks she is doing the best she can.
I think it's positive that you are here asking and taking things in. You should take up offers of members to come and help you. If not t least tell your YO you would like a second opinion as it is worrying you. She can't seriously stop you from doing that.
I think it's positive that you are here asking and taking things in. You should take up offers of members to come and help you. If not t least tell your YO you would like a second opinion as it is worrying you. She can't seriously stop you from doing that.