Is there a timescale on which to find a bond with your horse?

I think so far I have been really lucky with my mare reading these! I've owned her a grand total of 2 months (ish) and seem to have a good bond (a way to go before total trust etc though) and she can still be a complete 'mare'!

When I bought her I was told she is a nightmare to catch and have to go armed with a carrot or two to catch her, and if they wanted to catch her each day, they always left a headcollar on. At first I had problems with her, but now, she come to call (if she hasnt already spotted me and waiting by the gate) and makes the lovely low 'hello' noise, I never leave a headcollar on as she just lets me walk up and put it on (MOST the time!!). As I said, she can have her off days when she doesnt want me anywhere near her (last friday she drove me insane as evertime I called her over, she stood just out of reach, then wandered off! But I went up after work and we made friends and she was coming over for love and tickles and fuss as normal). She also follows me around the field and if she isnt I just say 'come on' and she walks anywhere with me (without headcollar etc). I think mares are harder to get trust from, but as someone said, once you have it, you've got it and thats it!
 
I've enjoyed reading this thread - and what 'Bond' means to different people.

To me, the 'bond' is not so much about obedience when riding, it's something you can't really define, it's a bit of an x-factor.

My black-Welshie-boy, we've had some difficult times, espeically the first year, and I've had quite some tears over him and some frustrations, and even though he's still not 'easy' in some ways (although vastly improved) there is just a pull there with him, that I don't feel the same with my other horse. I do feel guilty about it! And I do treat them both the same and care for them the same.

But with my Welshie-boy I just know that no matter what life turned out for me, and if say I lost all means of supporting him and had no choice but to sell him (I'd sell everything else first before him though!) - I know I would think about him every day and wonder where he was and how he was doing, and be planning someway where I could buy him back again. Whereas I don't feel the same 'pull' with my other boy, although I do still love him, it's just not the same.

Anyone else feel like this?
 
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