Is this to much to expect.. (sold horse, new owner)

mmm, sounds like your girl is asking to come home!.

The experience I can relate to is what happens when I have had sharers. If she really hates them she chuckes them off on the trial day, some she waits a week, some she goes 6 weeks. With one, she went up in a full rear. Something she had never ever done before and has never ever done since.

I also agree with the other posters that say that the potential owner is just expecting her to get on with it... infact it sounds to me they are treating her like a machine and not a sensitive animal
 
Your mare sounds delightful :)
Perhaps the people who want to buy her would be better suited to something mechanical where you just had to turn a key ;)
 
A very difficult situation I am sure, but it sounds like this is not the right sort of home for her and you'd never rest easy because once they have run her into the ground what then? I don't even know how you'd begin to repossess her though. Good luck.
 
hi, i would whip her out there fast!
the kids sounds a pain in the ass and obv doesnt care about the horses well being.
Your mare sounds fab and have you thought about placing her on a loan or at a livery yard for the next 12 months and keep - she sounds lovely.
If you leave her with that girl she will be ruined, the mare may take a dislike to the girl, the girl cant ride her sensibly so the mare may just get shoved around somewhere and end uphaving all the good work you have done, undone.
Mares arent like geldings are they? well mine wasnt - you had to ask her and only if she wanted to and if she liked you would she do things for you!

Bring her home xxxxxxxxxx
 
I'm not so sure I'd whip her back straight away. Maybe the fact that she's done this has made the new owner realise she can't treat her like that and things will improve from now on. She's admitted she made a mistake and as Mrs M said, it is half term this week, she's unlikely to do so much on a regular basis - by the time other holidays come round the novelty will have worn off a bit.

Do you have to sell her or could they maybe have her on loan (under your supervision as they're close) for a bit to see if it settles down? I understand it must be difficult for you but it could just be teething troubles?
 
When I first got my horse about 8 years ago the lady who owned her knew I was a novice and offered me loads of support. I took her up on that and kept in touch asking her when I had a problem as I wanted to do the best thing for the horse. I was shocked when she decided to offer to buy her back as she thought I couldn't cope with her. With hindsight I was very naive and should have worked through the issues myself and was just worrying the poor old owner with normal new horse problems. My point is that they have been very open and honest (in your view) with you about what they have done and the problem which is a good thing. Maybe just a quick check and a chat would put your mind at ease but don't automatically assume the worst. I still have my horse and am still in touch with the old owner who knows she has the best possible home.
 
I am afraid the horse would be back with me now, without being rude why did you let them make so much use of an unfit horse i am afraid if she is unfit what they are doing with her is only going to be bad for her and cause injury.
If these people do not realise that do you really want to sell your horse to them why does anybody bother getting thier horses fit properly if all you need to do is jump on and go, i know it is hard selling horses having just sold a lovely boy at the end of the summer i even posted about being unsure about people that wanted to buy him and was acussed of not wanting to sell him and being to soft i did wait for a home that i thought was suitable and i am so glad i did as he is now in a wonderful home.

I am a strong believer in following your gut when it comes to these things it just isnt worth the heartache selling to the wrong home, and just to say if you gave me your horse on trial with a view to buy i would be even more careful than i would with my own i would not expect an unfit horses to do all that work and even if the horses was fit i would not want to overface a young horses in a new place.

Bring her back before they sour her or worse injure her and wait for someone who will treasure her a bit more than they seem to and someone who has a bit more basic knowhow about a decent fitness regime.
 
hi all, I wouldnt loan her, and wouldnt put her on any type of livery again also my reasopns for selling are my personal life, up until recently ive got a 7.5t lorry that my husband drove, he no longer supports/has anything to do with the horses so basically selling her was to free up the cash to pass my driving test (theory test next month then straight in for test.) and then id sell the 7.5t and buy a 3.5t that I can drive on a car licence, the rest of the money would of been banked to buy another horse when all of the above was completed. oh have i failed to mention that were talking about a 6.5k horse.

Im going out in a bit to see her, will have a serious chat with them, but I think my mind is pretty much made up.

just to say also, the kid isnt a snotty spoilt pc kid, shes actully very nice and mature. Think mum just hasnt thought.

will update tonight when i get home.
 
jhoward said:
hi all, I wouldnt loan her, and wouldnt put her on any type of livery again also my reasopns for selling are my personal life, up until recently ive got a 7.5t lorry that my husband drove, he no longer supports/has anything to do with the horses so basically selling her was to free up the cash to pass my driving test (theory test next month then straight in for test.) and then id sell the 7.5t and buy a 3.5t that I can drive on a car licence, the rest of the money would of been banked to buy another horse when all of the above was completed. oh have i failed to mention that were talking about a 6.5k horse.

Im going out in a bit to see her, will have a serious chat with them, but I think my mind is pretty much made up.

just to say also, the kid isnt a snotty spoilt pc kid, shes actully very nice and mature. Think mum just hasnt thought.

will update tonight when i get home.
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It sounds like a difficult situation you are in :( If I were you, I would do exactly as you are doing! If you are at all worried about your girl when you have seen her, then you know you have somewhere to put her, and another interested buyer, so you arent at a 'loss'.
If I were closer, had the room and more importantly the money for a horse like yours, I'd be begging you for a look.
Fingers crossed for everything to be ok tonight x
 
Hi there hun!

Sorry just caught up with your thread. Dear Ellie, you just adore her and want the right thing for her, I know that ....... so I know you'll do the right thing for her, whatever that is. Awful decision you're having to make, you're gonna miss your lovely girl, she's a real treasure that's for sure.

Give her my regards from Bonkers!!!!!! :) - he's home with me now, doing fine!
 
sorry havent read every reply too many gosh what a brilliant horse if they arnt buying her move her....ring them up in morning and say now or never as someone will buy her full asking price today ! Theyve had a really good trail if you ask me
 
I did read through everything and awful position to be in. Just reinforced that I would never put a horse out on trial when being sold. 4 visits was definately over the top - its not your fault that they had a previous bad experience. I have always done 1 solo then if I liked, back again with an instructor. 3rd visit would be the vetting and I always took it quietly to let the horse settle in before upping the work and pressures on it. They might be nice people but I do feel they have taken the mick somewhat.
 
Look - the kid is excited about getting a new horse - very normal to want to ride all day every day - does not make it right though.

Tell them to make their mind up - money or horse back - you really need to put this one to bed or it could end up very messy.

Horse is not your's anymore - get money, back off and let them get on with it.

Fi
 
Just another 'thought'. Someone I know reckons that with every change of owner/home a horse reverts back to 'type' and may regress slightly or do unexpectedly 'hasn't done that in ages' things with a different rider and at times of stress.

I can *sort of* see where they are coming from, but in honesty have done rather too much too soon. You have nothing to hide, like the mare and have faith in her. If I were them, I'd pay the money and the mare a bit of respect!
 
4 Viewings they should have made their mind up.......but how did you market the horse, and for how much? To sell a horse to a PC family / young rider then they are bound to want to test it to the max......which might not be good for your horse, so high risk sending it out on trial during half term week.
To try and sell a half fit horse to what is obviously a competitive home seems a bit foolish..... Why was the horse, if talented half fit anyway? If it was a sold from field type of horse, then why send it to a young person for half term? Confused!!
 
dressedkez said:
4 Viewings they should have made their mind up.......but how did you market the horse, and for how much? To sell a horse to a PC family / young rider then they are bound to want to test it to the max......which might not be good for your horse, so high risk sending it out on trial during half term week.
To try and sell a half fit horse to what is obviously a competitive home seems a bit foolish..... Why was the horse, if talented half fit anyway? If it was a sold from field type of horse, then why send it to a young person for half term? Confused!!
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I dont see how I marketed, or how much the how much the horse was has anythig to do with it.

as it happens july she went up for sale, but was removed from the market after a very bad accident.

the people still had my details, and i invited them to view. they knew about accident,

she is a show horse, the season has ended its her down time, also due to husband attempting suicide, closing my business etc i have other things on my mind. i hope this answers your question as to why i sold a half fit competiton horse.

just for the record she was 5 stage vetted so the vet would of seen her fitness level and reported back.
 
brighteyes said:
Just another 'thought'. Someone I know reckons that with every change of owner/home a horse reverts back to 'type' and may regress slightly or do unexpectedly 'hasn't done that in ages' things with a different rider and at times of stress.

I can *sort of* see where they are coming from, but in honesty have done rather too much too soon. You have nothing to hide, like the mare and have faith in her. If I were them, I'd pay the money and the mare a bit of respect!
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the mare was telling them she was hurting, they admit they have done to much with her but have missed a couple of basic things that tell you a horse is not even 80 %
 
MiJodsR2BlinkinTite said:
Hi there hun!

Sorry just caught up with your thread. Dear Ellie, you just adore her and want the right thing for her, I know that ....... so I know you'll do the right thing for her, whatever that is. Awful decision you're having to make, you're gonna miss your lovely girl, she's a real treasure that's for sure.

Give her my regards from Bonkers!!!!!! :) - he's home with me now, doing fine!
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thankyou hun, yes as you know she meens the world to me, I dont have much luck do i!
 
Hope everything turns out OK. Poor horse. In a way I can see the thing from the buyer's point of view, particularly if they had had difficulties before.

What some people do (and is what I did when I sold my much loved mare) was for the buyer to come here and ride, took her to a lesson in her trailer to see if she loaded/behaved when out, took her out for a hack by herself and with me, had a thorough trial, but stayed here at home so I was feeding her and seeing how much work she did and she was in her usual routine so the buyer could see what she was like. That can only work if the buyer is local of course.
 
Well at least you have managed to make an informed decision and KNOW you are doing the right thing for your horse. I hope the right home comes along very quickly for you, it sounds as though you have enough on your plate without having to worry about this, I am sure you will find her the perfect home and not have to worry about her.
 
OH they had done all that before hand. weeks trial payment due tomorrow, i already knew that wasnt going to happen and asked for a hefty deposit. but seeing the mare tonight, i dont want the money.
 
Having been on a yard where there were several teenage girls with expensive young horses and mothers who wouldn't or couldn't say no to them you are well out of it.
Teenagers have enough trouble understanding their own emotions never mind the needs of a sensitive youngster and if there is no one there to stop them tend to ask to many questions of the animal and then get cross when it won't do want they want.
I hope you find someone nice for her.
 
You have actually done the horse a massive favour in a strange sort of way by giving them a trial (although I know she is not happy after being worked heavily). Its terribly hard to get the right people for your horse when you love it much. I was lucky in that the people that bought him were recommended to me, and as soon as I met them I knew he would be fine with them. 3 years later and they still have him and I have been to see him.

At least she will have time to recover with you for a little while.
 
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