Echo Bravo
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Just say up front I've horses/dogs etc and they come first, if they run fair enough and if they don't but start resenting,they have no come back at you, they knew what they were taking on from the start.
It appears we horsey woman are all the same!
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Honey08
Waffled a lot!
My husband is fab, it took me over 30 years to get to him, and I went through a lot of crap exes in the process!
When I met my OH I had one horse on full livery(now we have two at home, used to have four, plus two dogs, two cats and 12 hens!) , had short blonde hair and was three stone lighter! He is still here and doesn't complain. He always comes to shows and events with me - the best stud fitter ever! He rides but doesn't compete. His son got into horses because of me, and did pc for years, so OH had a double dose of shows!
On the otherhand, I got a stepson thrown in with him, so schoolruns and family life, plus the hassle of the ex wife and baggage..
We all have good and bad points, you have to accept them and either cope or get out. Nobody has someone who ticks all boxes!
When I met my OH I had one horse on full livery(now we have two at home, used to have four, plus two dogs, two cats and 12 hens!) , had short blonde hair and was three stone lighter! He is still here and doesn't complain. He always comes to shows and events with me - the best stud fitter ever! He rides but doesn't compete. His son got into horses because of me, and did pc for years, so OH had a double dose of shows!
On the otherhand, I got a stepson thrown in with him, so schoolruns and family life, plus the hassle of the ex wife and baggage..
We all have good and bad points, you have to accept them and either cope or get out. Nobody has someone who ticks all boxes!
debsey1
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I just want to say a big thank you to everyone who has posted giving their advice and support. 
. We had a good talk last night and he apologised and said he would never give me the ultimatum 'horse or me'. He has been stressed at work plus some family issues and coupled with not seeing me much for my support things just exploded.
Although I was spitting mad at the time I do realise he is a good man and the good does outway the bad.
I wonder if I could get away with asking for a new rug? Hmmm??
. We had a good talk last night and he apologised and said he would never give me the ultimatum 'horse or me'. He has been stressed at work plus some family issues and coupled with not seeing me much for my support things just exploded.Although I was spitting mad at the time I do realise he is a good man and the good does outway the bad.
I wonder if I could get away with asking for a new rug? Hmmm??
Polotash
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Wow, I feel lucky that my OH just finds all the animals part of our family and is quite happy to come and help me with them, or cook while I muck out.
When we met I had one horse on DIY livery, then developed my own yard and had liveries (which he helped masisvely with in terms of labour!) and then we moved to a house with land and stables, so it has steadily got easier, although I now have 3 not 1!
He's also happy to come and groom for me, although usually he's playing golf when i'm competing, def having a hobby each is the way forward!
I think maybe having a very lazy previous GF helped too, as I'm always busy with the horses which he likes!
When we met I had one horse on DIY livery, then developed my own yard and had liveries (which he helped masisvely with in terms of labour!) and then we moved to a house with land and stables, so it has steadily got easier, although I now have 3 not 1!
He's also happy to come and groom for me, although usually he's playing golf when i'm competing, def having a hobby each is the way forward!
I think maybe having a very lazy previous GF helped too, as I'm always busy with the horses which he likes!
kirstykate
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Gee after reading this i am so lucky. My other half is a retired Pro, still rides and competes for pleasure. He is my lover best friend and my trainer
. Coul dit be any better?!!
. Coul dit be any better?!!Orangehorse
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I had a horse when I married, but I would have been prepared to get rid of it had OH insisted. He was OK with the horse, but had no idea that this interest would continue.
He thought it was something that teenage girls did, grew up, got married and had babies.
He was shocked when I wanted to start riding again when our first son was still a baby "but you have a baby to play with now" and very unhappy when after 10 years with no horse I got another when youngest was about 10. "You will fall off and leave me with 3 children to look after."
He never realised just how much time and money having a horse meant because I have had a part time job to pay for the horse, he is very aware of what I spend on it and must feel that the horse comes before house, and everything else.
Luckily his hobby is work, so without the horse I would have a pretty dull existance and it means that I am not always pestering him to go out or do things together.
He thought it was something that teenage girls did, grew up, got married and had babies.
He was shocked when I wanted to start riding again when our first son was still a baby "but you have a baby to play with now" and very unhappy when after 10 years with no horse I got another when youngest was about 10. "You will fall off and leave me with 3 children to look after."
He never realised just how much time and money having a horse meant because I have had a part time job to pay for the horse, he is very aware of what I spend on it and must feel that the horse comes before house, and everything else.
Luckily his hobby is work, so without the horse I would have a pretty dull existance and it means that I am not always pestering him to go out or do things together.