It IS the time to prepare to say goodbye.

RuthnMeg

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Having reached the final decision, Juno will be put down shortly. There is no point in putting her on meds, spend ££'s and have her put down anyway in Sept like we had originally planned. We don't want her to suffer, these damn legs of hers are making her misrable. She doesn't want to trot accross the field anymore. Funnily enough, Penny has also lost interest with her, which to me, just highlights the 'time' even more.
She is happy to eat and her eyes are brighter so I am now about to make the phone call to arrange the hunt. It is not an emergancy, but it is something I have to do. I have never organised it soley before. I don't think I can, but must. I must pull myself together, read some happy posts - I don't want to be a blubbering wreck on the phone!!
So, that is all really.
As people before me have lost horses, I am not the first, I don't need special treatment, but as a member of HHO, Juno being part of me for 20 years, it is only right to make these sad announcements.

I hope the hunt kennel staff can tolerate me.!!
 
Thinking of you, you sound a kind & brave owner & are doing the right thing. I had to make this decision a year ago for my Meg who had been with me for 16 years, it was so hard but absolutely the kindest thing. I hope it all goes smoothly & I am sure the hunt will handle eveything in a calm & professional way xx
 
massive massive (((((((((((hugs))))))))))) you are doing the right thing. It probably doesn't feel much like it but you are and you are a wonderful owner for doing so. I know I post this poem quite alot but I find it helps me through the tough times with Lucy and reminds me I made the right choice at the right time.

If the day should come when I'm in pain,
And you know I won't be well again,
Promise you'll do what must be done,
If this is the battle that can't be won.

It'll break your heart, but please be kind,
Don't let your grieving sway your mind.
For this is when you'll let me see
Just how much you do love me.

Together we've had happy years
The future now can hold no fears.
Please don't let me suffer
so When that days comes, please let me go.

For my usual vet please will you send?
But stay with me until the end.
Hold me steady, speak to me
Till my once bright eyes no longer see

In time I hope you'll come to see
It's the last kindness you'll do for me
One more time please stroke my mane
And know that I'll have no more pain.

And don't be sad that it was you
Who decided this was what to do.
We've been such buddies through the years
Don't let me be the cause of tears.

You'll always see me graze now,
with the sun upon my back
Painful limbs won't tire me now,
however long the hack.

I live now in your heart and mind,
a lovely place to stay.
And what you have in memories,
no one can take away.

Stay strong and know you are doing this for Juno. She knows how much you love her. Lucy will look after her at rainbow bridge till you go to meet her once again.
More (((((((((((hugs)))))))))))) feel free to PM if you need someone to talk to/ listen. xx
 
You gotta do what you gotta do, be strong, keep your chin up, you'll be reet.

*gives you a manly slap on the back*

(well sometimes these hugs and peoples sorrys and stuff make you feel worse) specially when organising thigns and having to hold it together on the phone etc, hence the manly re-assuring pat ;)
 
Thinking of you very much and hoping it goes as smoothly as it can. I am trying to arrange to have my mare pts on Fri, it's going to be a tough week all round.
 
One of the toughest decisions we ever have to make but, sadly, our duty as loving owners. My heart goes out to you - biggest <<<<hugs>>>>> xxxx
 
Ruth my heart goes out to you, i had to very sadly make that decision 5 times in the past year, and no matter it is painful.
When i lost my old mare, she had also been part of my life for 20 years, and as hard as it was she was ready, so i took her decision as final i had to put my feelings to one side and let her sleep.
Laura that poem always makes me cry
 
It's a tough decision, you have done the hardest part - reaching the decision. Now you can get on and do the rest. The worst bit is the gap between making the phone call and the deed actually happening. Be brave and get it over with now you know the time is right. xxxx
 
Well, I've pulled myself together, briefly admitingly. I phoned, and.... left a message. I think I have to phone before 9.30am, but hopefully they will phone back. My local hunt isn't the greatest at communucation, but will try again tomorrow if nothing today.

As for the time/date of when the deed happens, I've got in my head next week, giving us a week of preparing. Hope thats not too long but long enough. I don't work on Tuesdays, so it will be a good day to have it done, and then go shopping perhaps!?, Does that sound awful?
 
Ruth what ever you feel is the best will be the best we all deal wih it differently, I tend to spend time at the yard thinking myself lucky i still have the other horses and how blessed i was to have had the horse in my life.
Then its down the pub to drown my sorrows with other horsey friends who know exactly how i feel
 
Bless you. You realy are doing the right thing. As for going shopping after. If that will help you then why not. When I lost Lucy I was stuck on a canal boat with my family. I locked myself in the loo and cryed and cryed after the vet phoned me to say she was gone. Once I had calmed down alittle I got off the boat and walked along the canal on my own with my little dog and thought about Lucy.
While Juno is still here you need to do whats best for her, but once she's gone you need to do whats best for you. She would want you to do that after showing such kindness to her.
(((((((((hugs))))))))))) hope this post makes sence. xx
 
The bravest decision that we as horse lovers have to face at some point in our lives, life is cruel... :(

Sending you lots of hugs and have a bottle of vino to help...

Make the most of the time you have together, I found it quite reassuring when I lost my lad to carry on doing my mare at the time, I went back up the yard the day he went too and as they were stabled next to each other I found it a struggle but had to stay strong for my mare who was also grieving :( :(

You do what you feel is best at the time, we all handle things differently.

Laura - I too always end up balling at that poem... which is why I skipped past it this time.

Thoughts to the others this week also
 
Through tears at even the thought, Juno will be going to heaven on Friday at 10am. I thought we had more time, but this is for her, she told me.
20 years have passed since we first met her, we have masses of fond memories. Juno, one of those horses that touches your life in a special way, and makes you a better person. The next 36 hours are going to be tough.
 
well done. It's a very brave, heart-breaking decision to have to make. Be proud of yourself for making it now before she suffers too much - better a month too soon than a day too late.

Allow yourself and your other horse time to grieve and to come to terms with it all. 20 years is longer than most marriages, so I'm not going to tell you it'll be easy, but I will say that we're all here for you if you need a shoulder to cry on.
 
Now its booked, plan the rest of your day. Go shopping, have lunch with a friend...anything that takes your fancy.
Will be thinking of you Friday, Juno has been very lucky to have the same home for 20 years.
 
My heart goes out to you, its coming up to a year since I said goodbye to Andy, and I still remember our last cuddle. Broke my heart.
Get through these next few days the best way you can. Talking about Andy and crying worked for me lol.
Juno is very lucky to have had you as a mum I am sure she is grateful for everyday she had with you and even more grateful for what you are doing for her now.
I will be thinking of you both on Friday morning, and am sure I won't be the only one standing with you in spirit.
 
A hard decision to make but to do right for your horse or any animal in our human care is the kindest thing to do and closure with no more suffering for Juno that has a wonderful caring home and dedicated owner for 20 years, that is a long long time. A very good innings.

Life goes on and of course go shopping/stiff drink etc and remember you will always have good memories of the wonderful times that you had together.

A big hug and sending lots of prayers, and be strong vibes for Fridayx
 
It's always a difficult decision but one that is made by the best owners in the horse's best interests. Juno has obviously had a lovely home with you over the last 20 years and this is the last thing that you can do for her.
I wish every-one would take the same responsibility instead of passing their problem on.
Will be thinking of you on Friday.
We have always found hunt staff to be very professional and understanding, in these circumstances, and always good with the horses.
 
you poor pet, have been there so know what you are going through, It's like losing a member of the family, I'm still sad at losing cooper and thats 20 mths ago now. You'll miss like crazy, but you are doing the right thing. take comfort in that. It killed mr to put cooper to sleep, but it had to be done. Nobody wants to see their horse suffer, as hard as pts is!!!
It does get better, but you will always remember her!!! hugs to you tonight!!!
 
Oh bless you! My heart goes out to you. I said goodbye to my old racehorse Bob, on Monday and its breaking my heart.
I do so feel for you. Juno is so lucky to have you, as you have her best interests at heart. I know its so hard, and I am shedding tears for you. I hope everything goes well for you on Friday, as it did for me and my old lad. I shall be thinking of you. My love to you and Juno.
Coincidentally the name of my first horse was Juno, and she was a wonderful horse, as I'm sure your Juno is.
Keep the happy memories, she'll always be with you xxxxxx
 
It's going to be a beautiful few days. The warm sun will last all day, and the skies promise to be blue across a rich green horizon.

What a wonderful memory for her to take on her journey.

(((hugs)))
 
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