it looks like i have sold my horse today ;i feel so gutted

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someone came to try my horse today and it looks like i have sold her subject to the vetting,i feel totally gutted and empty.she is my dream horse and i love her to pieces the lady who wants her is lovely but this is so hard
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Theres not a lot I can say, I don't know your situation and I can only imagine how difficult it is for you. At least you have found a nice home for her where you can be assured that she will be content, and will make someone else as happy as she's made you in the time you've had her. Nxxx
 
i am selling because i have lost my job and just do not seem to be able to find another at the moment also my son has a very good pony that i feel i must give him the chance to carry on with his pony.it is a lovely home but when you have a dream horse and have to say good bye it is so difficult i just keep crying and that is not me.
 
I'm going to play devils advocate here - so if you don't want to read, look away now!
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Apart from the money front..., which I don't know your circs so cannot comment, arent' you going to end up resenting child and pony? I remember being sat in the car crying my eyes out just over a year ago because I had spent what we had on ponies for daughters. I was so pleased for them, but soooo jealous as well. Six months later and youngest did not want a pony (argh!). I have come close to selling my horse, before she was ill, because I thought I should concentrate on the girls adn I was worried about money as we had three at livery, but friends and family, including daughters pleaded with me not to - they offered to sell theirs instead. I don't know how old your son is, but thinking about this from another angle, is it fair to put this level of almost expectation onto him?
 
I hope your son realises how lucky he is to have such a supportive mother. I honestly really feel for you, try to be strong though and I hope things start to look up for you in the near future.
 
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I know how you feel. I had to sell mine a few months ago because of maternity leave and second baby. Money is so tight, there was absolutely no chance we could afford her and we needed the money from selling her to survive.

The only plus side is she went to a fabulous home and I can drive to see her in her field anytime I want to. She looks very well cared for and she still recognises my car
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i know what your saying,but my son is registered disabled and riding is the one thing he can do well and is on a even keel with everyone else.he has been bullied badly at school and stuck with it.i have gone from earning 20k a yr to almost nothing and it worrys me sick but i am so close to shouting from the roof tops i can not do this but on the other hand i feel i have no choice i would scrubb toliets to keep this horse but i can not even find that kind of job
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I know how u feel i sold my horse 2yrs ago & have regretted it eva since i think about him every day & wonder where we wud b now. The mistake i made was not keepin in touch wif who bought him so i have no idea where his is, however i still have the address of the woman who bought him & wrote a letter only this week so hoping i will hear sumthin bk. Its a hard thing 2 sell ur best friend but keep in touch, it will make it easier x x
 
Would you not consider looking into full loaning your horse out until your financial situations are ok again? That way you dont have to lose your perfect horse?? Really sorry to hear what you are having to resort to doing
 
I understand that you're feeling upset about selling your horse but what about the buyer in all of this? Have you told him or her how you're feeling and that you may not be selling your horse after all? I do feel sorry for you but having only recently bought a horse myself after searching for some months, I know what a nightmare it is finding the right horse and I think it must be pretty rotten for the buyer who obviously must think they've found their perfect horse if they're prepared to have a vetting done, only to find out you may have changed your mind. I'd have gone ballistic if someone had done that to me!"
 
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arent' you going to end up resenting child and pony? I remember being sat in the car crying my eyes out just over a year ago because I had spent what we had on ponies for daughters. I was so pleased for them, but soooo jealous as well

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Gosh!

Aren't we parents supposed to sacrifice things for our children? Jealous of your children?!?
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My daughter has a pony and I don't have a horse because up til now I haven't had time to look after/fund two. But I have NEVER been jealous of her. She has had everything I would have died for when I was her age. When I was a child I didn't have a pony of my own - I had to save up and buy one when I was 18 and had left school. I am so glad that I can give her something I could not have.

Sorry, but I can hardly beleive you can feel that way.

Apologies to opening poster about butting into your thread. I think you are doing the right thing. You will be able to have another horse yourself in the future but if this is giving your son confidence and equality with his peers, then you should put him first. You must be glad that the lady you have found is nice, I'm sure your horse will be happy with her.
 
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I understand that you're feeling upset about selling your horse but what about the buyer in all of this? Have you told him or her how you're feeling and that you may not be selling your horse after all? I do feel sorry for you but having only recently bought a horse myself after searching for some months, I know what a nightmare it is finding the right horse and I think it must be pretty rotten for the buyer who obviously must think they've found their perfect horse if they're prepared to have a vetting done, only to find out you may have changed your mind. I'd have gone ballistic if someone had done that to me!"

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Where has the OP said she has or is changing her mind?

She is explaining how hard it is for her, but she knows she hasn't any other option.
 
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