It never gets easier ...

[Mrs B]

So, when the yard got sold, I kind of had to take over the 3 elderly, semi-feral yard cats. (Long story)

Lost one of the 2 older sisters 18 months ago. Her litter mate was bereft.
Then had to say goodbye to her yesterday evening (aged 17) and buried her this morning, alongside her beloved sister in H's paddock.
Now have the one ginger boy, who's marking time very happily at 15, but on painkillers for arthritis. Love him to bits and dread the next call I have to make, for his sake, when they stop working their magic.

Pointless post really, except that I'm still leaking tears and disappointed with myself that I haven't learned how to handle it better after all these years.

 

[Barton Bounty]

Awww thats a shame, so sorry to hear that

 

[Birker2020]

Thinking of you

 

[HappyHollyDays]

I‘m so sorry Mrs B and it’s not in the slightest a pointless post. Like you I love my yard cats who I also seem to have inherited so leak as many tears as you need to xx.

 

[MereChristmas]

I have decided that the only thing that is easier is knowing that you are doing the right thing.
Unfortunately doing the right thing tears the heart strings in exactly the same way every time.
Let the tears leak and enjoy the time you have with Ginger Cat.

 

[Kunoichi73]

So sorry for your loss.

 

[Blanche]

I am so sorry, hugs.

 

[Mrs B]

I‘m so sorry Mrs B and it’s not in the slightest a pointless post. Like you I love my yard cats who I also seem to have inherited so leak as many tears as you need to xx.

I know you do, my friend xx

 

[Mrs B]

I have decided that the only thing that is easier is knowing that you are doing the right thing.
Unfortunately doing the right thing tears the heart strings in exactly the same way every time.
Let the tears leak and enjoy the time you have with Ginger Cat.

x

 

[Emilieu]

I’m so sorry. It really doesn’t get easier, because we never learn to love less.

 

[Mrs B]

Thank you! You are all sweethearts for being so understanding.

Just wondering - d'you think grief also kind of adds up over the years? And somehow, one more loss is one too many?

(On that thought, I'm off to bed. Alarm will still ring at just before 6am, with another round of breakfasts to be doled out to assorted creatures. Thank Heaven for them all.)

 

[nagblagger]

disappointed with myself that I haven't learned how to handle it better after all these years.

Don't be disappointed in yourself, the day you stop 'leaking tears' is the day you stop caring.

 

[Fjord]

It never gets any easier. Thank you for loving them x

 

[HappyHollyDays]

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[Emilieu]

I think new losses bring back all the grief of previous ones, so you are dealing with more than just that particular loss

 

[HollyWoozle]

I’m sorry, it hurts so much. They are little friends and family members.

 

[scats]

So sorry, I hope you are ok xx
Our yard cat will come home with me if the yard is ever sold, I absolutely love her and would be devastated to lose her.
Cats are such amazing animals.

 

[oldandgold]

So sorry for your loss - if you handled it better it would mean that you didn't care, and from your post that certainly isn't the case. Sadly when we end their pain
our own pain starts. Take care

 

[Snow Falcon]

Tears mean you care. Bless you for taking them on and looking after them. Sorry for your losses.

 

[FinnishLapphund]

So, when the yard got sold, I kind of had to take over the 3 elderly, semi-feral yard cats. (Long story)

Lost one of the 2 older sisters 18 months ago. Her litter mate was bereft.
Then had to say goodbye to her yesterday evening (aged 17) and buried her this morning, alongside her beloved sister in H's paddock.
Now have the one ginger boy, who's marking time very happily at 15, but on painkillers for arthritis. Love him to bits and dread the next call I have to make, for his sake, when they stop working their magic.

Pointless post really, except that I'm still leaking tears and disappointed with myself that I haven't learned how to handle it better after all these years.

Can I join your Can't handle it better club?
It's a complete lottery for me when it's time to simply call the vets, and book the euthanasia. It's not every time, but no matter how calm I was before the vet nurse answered the phone, the moment I hear the voice asking why I am calling, too often it's just *bam* tears and snot and I can barely get a syllable out of my mouth, and it feels as if it takes me ages to just say the words "I need to book euthanasia" in such a manner that the vet nurse can actually hear what I'm saying.

I'm so sorry for your loss. {{{{{{Hugs}}}}}}

 

[ycbm]

Thank you! You are all sweethearts for being so understanding.

We all do understand. Sorry you're going through it again Mrs B

Just wondering - d'you think grief also kind of adds up over the years? And somehow, one more loss is one too many?

I hadn't thought of that but my two this year have been by far the worst of any. Does our own increasing age do it too?

 

[Errin Paddywack]

Just wondering - d'you think grief also kind of adds up over the years? And somehow, one more loss is one too many?

Yes

 

[wren123]

I'm really sorry @Mrs B.
I think it would be quite sad if we got used to losing our pets, kind of losing our humanity.

 

[View]

Ah, so sorry @Mrs B, but as others have said it hurts because we care. It never gets any easier, no matter how much we know we are doing the right thing. Let the tears flow, and grieve in your own time and way.

Hugs.

 

[Mrs B]

We all do understand. Sorry you're going through it again Mrs B



I hadn't thought of that but my two this year have been by far the worst of any. Does our own increasing age do it too?

Thank you, ycbm ... and I think age might play a part, yes. There's a sort of sad inevitability about it and even though you might understand it, sometimes you just get a feeling of 'Oh no! Please, please don't say I have to lose you as well! That's too much ...'

 

[Mrs B]

Thank you all - you are a great bunch of people to have on the other side of your computer screen when life gets a bit crappy.
Kate x