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putasocinit

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Some of you will remember my post re the lady who rescued me when I couldn't find anywhere to keep my horses and then proceeded to remind me everyday that I was now occupying her field and boxes that her horses could go in, whilst they had their own boxes and a choice of 6 others fields to go in, and then her friend was also telling her that if I wasn't there, but then that's not forgetting all I do for her repair fences, strim fields, muck out her boxes when she is away for 3 days, walking her dogs, carrying her straw, poo picking her fields etc oh yes I do it all.

Well we have had a quiet 3 weeks, until she started the other day, yelling and screaming at me about where is she going to store hay for winter as I am using 2 boxes, she still has another 2 spare, her horses have had abscess because they are not in the field I am in (if she picked their feet out and got the farrier once in a while) they wouldn't have problems. She doesn't need anybody she is better on her own, so I said to her that was untrue because she is always calling on someone to help her to do something so she does need people, anyway I have had enough.

So I called a lady who has said yes and I go to meet her on Monday (vibes for me please) she has 16x16 boxes, rather than the 8x10 I am in at present. She will give hay at night and if I can't get their in winter she will do them for me, does this sound real or am I going to wake up and it was only a dream. She also said I could ride in the field if I don't want to go on the road, whereas current yard has done nothing but moan about me riding in the field even though you wouldn't know I had ridden in it, no foot prints left.

Obviously I should go for it, but how am i gonna tell her.

Sorry so long.
 
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Well I have just moved my horse after 3years of dealing with the most foul unpleasant yard owner in an attempt not to unsettle my horse.

Well he moved a week ago and it's like he has come back to life, his eyes are sparkling again, he has already been mixed in with a lovely small herd without so much as a murmur and I can't quite understand why I stuck it out for his sake for so long at the old place, it's almost like he shut down when we were at the old place and he's suddenly got over his depression! I also have lost that anxious feeling in the pit of my stomach that I have had every day for the last 3years as I never knew what the mood at the yard was going to be when I arrived - usually utterly oppressive!

My conclusion is that your horses will pick up on the atmosphere where you are now and if you think the new place is a good move for you then they will probably feel the same. Just make sure you've asked all of the questions you need to and that you can manage the routine they have there, I have realised my horses home is with me not the building he is stabled in.

Good luck - it is never worth putting up with this kind of behaviour from people, it is bullying because they know you need them on behaf of your horse, very unpleasant and well worth making a change.
 
putasocinit said:
does this sound real or am I going to wake up and it was only a dream.

Sorry so long.
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Sounds like you had a horrible situation, really feel for you. Obviously I can't speak for the new place but yes, places like this are out there - you're not dreaming!


putasocinit said:
Obviously I should go for it, but how am i gonna tell her.
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Oh, bless you. It's really hard to do but you just have to bite the bullet and go for it. Your current YO sounds difficult, so it might be better to have everything arranged and tell her on the day you go, even if it means forfeiting a deposit or month's rent. While I would normally not advocate not giving notice, it might be better than having to deal with someone who might make things difficult for you and your horses, and at least you'll be in control this way. If you pay a month (or whatever's stipulated) in lieu of notice she really can't complain - although I appreciate I don't know your situation so this might not be realistic.

Best of luck with it all, I hope it all works out :-)
 
ae76williams said:
Sounds like you had a horrible situation, really feel for you. Obviously I can't speak for the new place but yes, places like this are out there - you're not dreaming!




Oh, bless you. It's really hard to do but you just have to bite the bullet and go for it. Your current YO sounds difficult, so it might be better to have everything arranged and tell her on the day you go, even if it means forfeiting a deposit or month's rent. While I would normally not advocate not giving notice, it might be better than having to deal with someone who might make things difficult for you and your horses, and at least you'll be in control this way. If you pay a month (or whatever's stipulated) in lieu of notice she really can't complain - although I appreciate I don't know your situation so this might not be realistic.

Best of luck with it all, I hope it all works out :-)
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I agree, this is what I would do :(
 
I don't advocate not giving notice HOWEVER, if you feel current y/o may get nasty / difficult or insist you leave immediately, which I think with this one there is a strong possibility, then you need to have things in place to ensure you can move immediately.

I would reccomend you get things in order - have a 'spring clean' and sort out of all your stuff so that it is asy just to pick up and move.

I had to move yards in a hurry in the summer - decided to move, found yard that day, moved the next day and thus I wasn't at all organised. We got moved fine but it then took me ages to get any order back in my horsey life!! lol!

Good luck! Nice yards do exist but then there are also some very 'quirky' people out there and sometimes you just have to learn to go 'oh well, whatever you say'... It can make life so much easier than getting wound up about things ;)
 
It's not going to be good when you tell her.
I would quietly start to move everything you can that you can do without then tell her , you are grateful for the help she gave you but as winter is coming you understand she needs the field and the boxes so you are moving .
Good luck.
 
Thanks for all replies will take on board and start planning.

Will update when all has happened and move is finished. She can be so nice but then she can be really awful. The only reason why I am in the field I am in is because the boxes are in the field. If her horses were in it I would have to bring mine in and out through hers and there is one she doesn't trust her other horses with so why would I want to put mine in danger.
 
Like the others before me, I would suggest you get everything ready to move in to at the new place before you tell her. Start moving your non-everyday stuff over there (or taking it home) as soon as you can. I have a horrible feeling that the moment you tell her you are leaving, she will have your stuff packed and you and your horses out on the street quicker than you can say Jack Robinson (as my mother used to say). Good luck, I can't see it going peacefully.

If you prepare for the worst, you might be pleasantly surprised...
 
Its never good when you tell someone you are leaving. Again, i dont advocate just upping and leaving with no notice but, saying that, i had problems on the yard my boy was at (had been sitting it out for months but then had enough), advised the YO i would be leaving but would give proper notice etc and make sure that livery was all paid up.....in turn they gave me exactly 3 days to clear myself and my 3 year old warmblood out. I went to move him the next day having found a lovely new yard and they tried to then tell me I couldnot move until the day they specified. My livery was all paid up and so I told them to stuff it and i would move him when i wanted. Had him all but loaded when YO came out saying they were going to phone the police to have the horse taken back of the box and kept there until the Sunday. Luckily I kept my cool (a change for me!) and having said that, it was the best thing i ever did. Happy Sam, Happy horsey :)
 
Against most other posters i can thourally reccomend flitting.
I had allready paid in advance though and told the farmer to shove the money up his backside. This was after he sided with a loony who said i had deliberately let her horses out...evan though her horses were in the stable munching contentedly on hay. As i get older i don t waste my life on nobs anymore and remove myself from their company as soon as i can.
I honoured my bills though and thats a must for me.
Like other posters i do agree that if you find it stressfull to be with your horse then the horse will become unsettled as a result.
 
I'd pack all my stuff up, every last scrap whilst she was away for the 3 days, or after she'd gone home. Next day when she wasn't there, box my horse and be gone.

Let her get on with the repairs, let her poo pick, let her do everything you've done to make her life easy whilst she's been rude to you.

Do it for yourself and your horses! Good luck - hope you're go find somewhere you'll all be happy :) x
 
In error, but replies were greatly received.

Update i found a lovely yard, proper stables, water and elec, shettie has a proper shettie stable, outdoor arena and a super YO and so are the liveries. It is also cheaper than where i was by £20 per week. Do you think i was being ripped off at the other place, lol.

I am still visiting my old YO, paid her up did not do a midnight flip, still take the one little dog jack russel for a walk otherwise it would live in a cage. Got there last sunday and had to rescue another dog from a 3 dog fight, not nice and i was battling to breath with having a bad cold. They have 9 dogs and 4 of them do not get on with the others and are dangerous i.e. german shepherd x 2 and x 2 patterdales, you or me cannot stroke them they will have your hands off, so they live in kennels, which makes it worse

Anyway we continue to do our best for those in need of help.
 
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