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I never expected this and as a result I was an emotional wreck!
What has happened I hear you all ask?
Well, yesterday my daughter and I had a day out with her instructor and her family to the Frederiksborg stud in the North of Holland. The idea was that her husband would have a lesson on his Frederiksborg gelding which the stud bred and we would have a look at the horses they had there as there were a few for sale. I went with an open mind, but certainly didn't expect what happened.
The owner took us into the barm where alot of the mares are usually stabled and pointed out a 3 year old palomino mare that was for sale along with 2 chestnut mares, 6 and 8 year old. We were all standing at the side of the stable and the mare came straight to me. Boom! There was an immediate click. 'No' I thought this is not happening. I am not looking for an unbroken 3 year old, I want something I can ride now.
 
micramadam said:
I never expected this and as a result I was an emotional wreck!
What has happened I hear you all ask?
Well, yesterday my daughter and I had a day out with her instructor and her family to the Frederiksborg stud in the North of Holland. The idea was that her husband would have a lesson on his Frederiksborg gelding which the stud bred and we would have a look at the horses they had there as there were a few for sale. I went with an open mind, but certainly didn't expect what happened.
The owner took us into the barm where alot of the mares are usually stabled and pointed out a 3 year old palomino mare that was for sale along with 2 chestnut mares, 6 and 8 year old. We were all standing at the side of the stable and the mare came straight to me. Boom! There was an immediate click. 'No' I thought this is not happening. I am not looking for an unbroken 3 year old, I want something I can ride now.
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Stupid Ipad.
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micramadam said:
I never expected this and as a result I was an emotional wreck!
What has happened I hear you all ask?
Well, yesterday my daughter and I had a day out with her instructor and her family to the Frederiksborg stud in the North of Holland. The idea was that her husband would have a lesson on his Frederiksborg gelding which the stud bred and we would have a look at the horses they had there as there were a few for sale. I went with an open mind, but certainly didn't expect what happened.
The owner took us into the barm where alot of the mares are usually stabled and pointed out a 3 year old palomino mare that was for sale along with 2 chestnut mares, 6 and 8 year old. We were all standing at the side of the stable and the mare came straight to me. Boom! There was an immediate click. 'No' I thought this is not happening. I am not looking for an unbroken 3 year old, I want something I can ride now.
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So I walked away to look at the others. They were nice particularly the 8 yo but....there was no click. I walked back to the 3 yo and started to well up with emotion. 'This can't be happening', I thought. The owner could see I was emotional and asked me if I was ok and to my embarrassment I burst into tears. My daughter ended up in tears, my daughter's instructor was in tears and even the owner had to make an excuse to go and get me a glass of water because she was so affected that the click with this mare was so strong that it was as though I had been hit by lightning and everyone could see it. I believe that Ruby is looking down on me and has something to do with this. The mare has Ruby's character and in a way looks a little like her. Now, I am not trying to replace Ruby, that will never happen but there is something special about this horse for me and my heart is telling me to go for it.
My head is telling me that it is not what I was looking for so I tried out the 8 yo. Beautiful to ride but NO CLICK.
My decision has been made. I want this horse but there are still a few complications.
1. She is unbelievably expensive. This is a very rare breed, she is a very rare colour for the breed, a very very good bloodline and movement to die for.
2. I have been jobless since May and now I know I have to find work quick. To be honest I haven't really tried till now as I needed some time off. But..... I have an interview tomorrow so fingers crossed!
My OH has been very understanding. I talked to him last night and he balked at the price but understands how I feel. He knew how I felt about Ruby and I explained that I would have walked away if it hadn't been for the click.
Th owner told me to go and take sometime to think this through and not to rush into it and I have slept on it. I don't believe my feelings will change. In the cold light of day, I feel the same.
So, now we have to wait and see how this turns out.
I so hope that I can post again soon and say she is mine.

Sorry this was a little disjointed but I needed to get this off my chest to people who understand and know what 'THE CLICK' is.
 
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If you can possibly go for it do it, I clicked with gelding, he went better for me than any other rider, we had a fab partnership, I adored this horse, best horse i have ever sat on, had him for 3 years, however i didn't own him only had him on loan, his owner wanted him back, offered him to me but I just didn't have the money :( she took him him back to her yard, a week later he was dead from an accident. Broke my heart, so wish i had taken a loan out to buy him, never had that click with another horse since, so if you can do it, go for it, I so regret never buying Mario, he was my horse of a lifetime and still think of him now.
 
micramadam said:
orry this was a little disjointed but I needed to get this off my chest to people who understand and know what 'THE CLICK' is.
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I know exactly what you mean about THE CLICK :) I saw a 2 year old filly in a field that i hadn't even stroked! and i had THE CLICK, i couldn't explain to anyone else how i felt, except she had chosen me. We have had our trials and tribulations, but i wouldn't be without her, oddly enough my OH knew what i meant about her, he felt the same - I wish you luck - keep us updated x
 
Oh that "click" that knowing.....
My lad is 18now, still drives me mad, nobody else has ever been able to jump him.....I brought him out the field as an unhandled 2yo, backed him myself, he was the first I did everything with.
I was looking for a project to bring on and sell, went to a yard, this mare sucked me in with her eyes. she was terrified of everything and you could count every bone on her. Got box, she towed me up ramp, stood quietly in it while i went to get something to treat the ringworm. one year on (Thanks to a colt that was turned into the next field when she was in season, still horrendously weak) I get a beautiful filly, and a mare that leaves her foal to get me to show her off. Now confident, beautiful, calm and kind, but unfortunatly cant be ridden thanks to damage from that colt. She stayed with me until her back injury deteriorated, nearly 2 years ago now. She got me into breeding.
Des, I was looking for another broodie, and people answered ad, saw pic, and knew she was coming home. Its taken her 4 years to accept that she "mine", but the perfect broodmare for me.
Oh yes I know that click.....and have since I started riding decades ago now. Has it ever been wrong? NO.
 
I think I know what'll happen next. Fingers crossed for you. I don't have my own horse but I ride quite a few and there is one who is very special to me. Each time I look at potential horses to buy it comes back to ..nice horse but its not T.:-(
 
This happened to me too with a two month old miniature!! I have never looked at minis and certainly never wanted one when this little foal left it's mum to come and check me out as I walked my dogs past her field while on holidays. By the end of the holiday I had bought her and she was delivered to me after weaning. I adore her and I know she feels the same about me. This had never happened to me before, wish I could have that click with a horse to ride! I hope you manage to buy this horse because that connection is so special and so rare it will be worth everything it takes to have this horse. Good luck.
 
In your position at the present time getting 'The Click' is great but if the click is really expensive then it could turn into a clunk. There is an old but true saying, you can't have a champagne lifestyle on beer money.

If the cost is too much, & I suspect from your post it is, then walk away. There are loads of things I would like but my wallet doesn't & can't stretch to them so they stay as a dream.
 
The thing is that we can afford to buy her but I need another job to make sure that I can afford to keep her. The keeping is the expensive part! Plus it is not fair on my OH to expect him to work to keep 4 horses and me not contribute. I believe in pulling my weight where finances are concerned. If it's not meant to be, then it's not meant to be. I am a great believer in things happen for a reason.
 
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Is she going to cost more to keep than the 8 yr old you rode? If not I'm not sure I understand your problem.
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The 8 yo was even more expensive plus there was no click. The cost is in keeping 4 instead of 3. That extra one makes all the difference plus she will need a saddle or 2 as she continues to grow,muscle up and generally become a sturdier build. I will need funds for that! With a job, there is no problem in keeping 4.
 
I too have felt The Click, in my case looking at an old photo of an unbacked, lightly handled 6yo brood mare (photo showed her as a 2yo). I felt The Click, and knew I had to have her for my daughter's FR pony - my daughter was then 3yo - as I just knew she would be a fantastic child's pony. Went to see her - with a friend "to keep me sensible". Walked up to her in the field, stroked her and bought her on the spot. 6 years on we have had our trials and tribulations - mainly a long battle against laminitis with a pony that doesn't like stables - but she has proven herself to be a fabulous child's pony. My now very leggy 9yo has almost outgrown her, but over the past few years since coming back into work they have had a ball together, and this little pony has given my daughter such confidence. She has also helped several other children gain their first experience of riding ponies, or regain confidence after a bad experience on other ponies. Just in the past few weeks she has introduced 3 little girls - all frightened after bad experiences - to the joys of cantering unaided in an open field, and taken 2 of them over their first little jumps. She has a home with us for life and I hope will introduce many other children to the pleasure of riding and being around ponies.

I felt it another time with a different pony, but let my head rule my heart. Ever since I have wondered What If...?

As long as financial circumstances allow, I do believe you should listen to your heart.
 
There has to be that frisson of electricity. The charge that sets your heart pounding, & you know that horse is 'the one'. Do it. This horse will be the drive in your life to move on, get that job & have fun (which you can do whilst working towards backing as well as riding - which wont be far away!).

I drove into the owners front yard, there was 2 stables by the house. In one was a demented arab, straight out the field (where she had lived for 4 years, never been in a stable before or away from friends - why she was demented). Poo & pee all over stable as she whirled about. But the hcarge of electricity was there, there was just something idefianable, but I knew. I saw her trotted up & let loose in the school (never taught to lunge). She had faults, I recognised them, but decided they were acceptable. I knew I had to come back for second look, but foot & mouth struck & she was in the heart of it. I waited until late autumn, when it was clear, drove through dreadful weather. I had said to owner (agreeing a price) that I would come back second time to check she was safe to sit on (was sent away for 2 weeks for backing), if so deal would be completed. I paid that day, picked her up 2 weeks later.

12 years on we're still together, & I have the added bonus of the daughter she so generously gave me. If you walk away & get a 'nice' horse, you'll always regret it, wondering what happened to that filly. Owner being very fair letting you have time to think with no pressure. Reckon she wants her to go to you as well.


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So nice to know that lots of people go with their heart and not their head.
I need HHO vibes (lots of them) for tomorrow. Have done loads of research on the company today and written out some questions. I know it's not exactly horse related but anyone got any tips for interview questions to ask. I'm not so much bothered about what they will ask me as I am prepared for that but I would like to let them see that I have really done my homework and thought about what I want to ask them. Also don't know if the interview tomorrow is in English or Dutch but I am prepared for both!
Job = horse.
 
I've interviewed hundreds of people and one thing that you can do to stand out is to refer back to something the interviewer said so something like - 'you mentioned that the team is small, can I ask what sort of size the team is and the range of experience?' Referring back to what they have said without asking them to repeat themselves shows a bit of interest - just dont refer back to any information regarding pay and hours unless they really confused you with those - show interest in the job first and foremost and not the package

Good luck - I hope you get your job and your horse!
 
With Jeff it was a strange one. He was a big 17.2hh ball of wired muscle that I had been sent racing with because no one else wanted to go for 8 hours to Huntingdon, stay overnight, race 3 yaks and then drive 8 hours home. I was 16, second time I had ever been racing and I was scared of this horse due to the head lasses parting words - good luck leading him up, he's a thug. He turned out to be a gem for me to lead and I think that's when he felt the click.

The race didn't go well. Jeff fell 2 from home and put his foot through his chest, severing his heart off bar 1 vein. As I stood in the vets box, covered in blood, holding his head up while the vets worked on him I promised never to give up on him. He had no hope of survival and I felt bad giving him an empty promise but what else could I do? He was dying in front of me.

We left him at Huntingdon with 2% survival rate. His owner said never give up on him - if he can stand by himself keep him alive no matter the cost. Jeff collasped a total of 12 times between me leaving him and hin reaching the recovery room from his op - including falling head first down the ramp of the truck that took him toe Newmarket.

3 months later he came back to Scotland and I made sure I was there to see him off the truck safely. We opened the ramp and he neighed at me (well more weased as he has had a hobday!) and that was that! He looked hellish - you could count ever bone in him but after what he had been through he was lucky to be alive.

3 months in the hay fields sorted him. 8 years down the line he is still my soul mate. He will never leave me. We had 4 great years racing after that injury before I took him home and the last 4 years have been awesome - long may they continue.

So long as your head is straight enough with te reality of what you are about to face then if ypu can - go for it!
 
I know exactly what you mean - when I got my mare I went out looking for and 8-9 year old, well schooled gelding who I could learn from and ended up with a 3 year old just back mare - on paper completely unsuitable for me as a reasonably novice rider (experienced at care tho) but we simply clicked and 5 years later I wouldn't change her for the world.

Good luck with her and trust your gut!
 
I clicked with both of mine but I have to confess that, although he is only 3 years old, I just know Jester is my horse of a lifetime. I love them both to pieces but he has something of my heart I have never given to another horse ♥♥♥♥
I say go for it...Im a big believer in fate and going with your gut feelings xx
 
Wishing you all the best with the interview and horse! This is exactly how I ended up with my then 15hh 3yr old filly, when I went to look at a 16.2 6yrd old! The 16.2 was OK, but I didn't feel anything for him, but then I walked past her box, and as soon as I saw her I knew she was the one. I drove home and couldn't get her out of my head, so I went back to the yard that night to look at her again, and bought her! 18 months on and I'm backing her, and although not the most straight forward/quietest, and not at all what I was looking for, she is absolutely perfect and I could never be without her :)
 
Damn you MM, you made me well up and my nose proper tingled! I hope you get over the obstacles and get her xxx I'm certain ruby is looking down on you, just like ebs is watching and guiding me. I stupidly window shopped on dragon driving the other day and saw the most beautiful Friesian x warmblood filly, not yet weaned. The advert said deposit secures... I seriously had to sit on my hands... This was three weeks ago and I'm still haunted by her photo... It's emblazoned on my mind. :(
 
I have followed my heart on every single one of my horses and never had a bad one! I bought my gelding within 5 minutes - 6 years later I still have him and still love the bones off him, he really is my soulmate :o
 
I've felt the click twice now, went to view my lad, who was being led down the lane, having just ditched his rider, the old gent put him in a stable and held him, refusing my offer to shut the door, the old gent said "the ******'ll be out", four years on, he's still an escape artist. Secondly, last week went to see a pony for our novice grandkids, felt an immediate click, normally i wouldn't touch a three year old for kids, but this lad is special, two days after arriving, he's walking accross a moving tarp in our windy barn, coming to a whistle and been excepted by my other three
 
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