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House is so still and quiet after clumber.He's left a big gap. Little dog gone back to not really being interested in walks, he's happy he's got me to himself again. Trying not to rush into getting another dog as Rufus very hard act to follow, but cant stop myself looking at rescue centres. Dont want to do anything on the rebound so to speak but Im having to speak very sternly to myself.
 
You have so much love to give. Don't allow yourself to be too slow in allowing that love to be given to another needy dog xx
 
You wouldn't be replacing Rufus. Everyone is different, but I think if your other dog is miserable and you would like a second dog then go for it x
 
Honestly I'd get another one. When we were in the run up to getting my bitch PTS I was distraught but I had already booked a puppy. I felt absolutely terrible, like we were replacing her when that really wasnt what we were doing at all. We had her PTS mid week and got the pup 10 days later. For me he changed everything! Instead of being upset about it I had a new focus. We named the pup after her and I swore that he would never experience the hardship she did (she was a very damaged rescue) Hes now 15 weeks old and I've loved every minute of having him, and hes brought my other dog out of his shell as well :)

Sometimes I look at him and feel sick to my stomach knowing what a lovely start he has had and that she didnt have the same, but I could never have changed that. I did have a proper bawl about it yesterday because its so horribly unfair that any dog suffers, which yours didnt! And also about how hard it is when they arent here. But hes here and he needs me, so I have to deal with him rather than dwell on it even though I would like to

I know my OH has found it harder than me, mainly as I am the pups main carer and he had never lost a pet before. But even he says now it was the right thing to do.
 
If you feel able to take on a rescue then thats even better :) I couldnt mentally do it after being through the wringer with my bitch :( But if you can do that, then do it and do it in the memory of your lovely dog that would want you to help out another dog :)
 
I was on the phone to get a rescue four hours after Omo went, and I'd sworn to live pet free for a while, well two weeks anyway, Arthur has been quite a project, but we are both now content, in our own way.
 
Most of the local rescues seem to have staffies and terriers and most seem to need to be the only dog !
I don't think I could take on a puppy I am 68 and apart from the energy needed I probably wont be active or even around for the 10-12 years needed.Although of course as I have found out young dogs die too. Don't think my old dog would accept a puppy, he is a very
self contained and aloof little lad. I was totally spoilt with Rufus as he slotted in to our life seamlessly, only needing longer walks.
Well maybe I will accidentally find the right dog when not looking.
 
If you know what breeds you are interested in Snuffles, might be worth approachinh the breed club or some breeders-they often know of adult dogs that need rehoming. I could have had my pick of several using that approach earlier this year.
 
Ooh I have always admired Spinones, another breed that are a small "pool" .Have emailed them and clumber rescue. Thanks
(Mustnt rush into something, mustn't rush into something)
 
I did follow the sad tale of your poor Rufus but not sure if I said how sorry I was at the outcome xx.
I am also an oldie and will have to think hard before taking another puppy. Your remark that a dog may find you could be true. I have recently quite unexpectedly taken on a poor overweight Golden Retriever. It wasn't planned at all but he is such a treasure. Good luck.
 
Honestly I really don't believe there's such a thing as rebound pets. I used to feel like I should wait out of respect to the animal who died, and then I realised how silly that was.

If you rescue you'll be helping a dog get away from what's a pretty miserable life, which will make you feel better too.
 
Having recently lost both of our beloved dogs unexpectedly within a week of each other (one had a stroke and the other got out looking for him and was hit by a car), I too couldn't bear the silence. I lasted 10 days and now we have a rescue puppy and older dog. They are a joy, not a replacement, and fill the house again.
 
Cortez said:
Having recently lost both of our beloved dogs unexpectedly within a week of each other (one had a stroke and the other got out looking for him and was hit by a car), I too couldn't bear the silence. I lasted 10 days and now we have a rescue puppy and older dog. They are a joy, not a replacement, and fill the house again.
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What a rough time you must have had, I am so sorry. Glad you have filled your home with dogs again.
 
Took us two weeks to go and get two pups after we lost Jake.

I think the main issue is going to be finding the right dog for your situation. Don't worry about the rights and wrongs of the situation. You need to do what is right for you.
 
Think Springers may be a bit too much!. I have gone on the Clumber rescue waiting list, they have none in which is good news for the breed.
Just been reading a post mentioning Gabapentin and its side effects including loss of co ordination and tremors. Wondering now if sudden decline was actually due to this drug and feeling guilty that I may have made the wrong decision. However its too late now.
 
Snuffles said:
Think Springers may be a bit too much!. I have gone on the Clumber rescue waiting list, they have none in which is good news for the breed.
Just been reading a post mentioning Gabapentin and its side effects including loss of co ordination and tremors. Wondering now if sudden decline was actually due to this drug and feeling guilty that I may have made the wrong decision. However its too late now.
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A decision had to be made, and his back wasn't getting any better. You would have made it anyway, so please just appreciate he is no longer in any pain.
 
I am glad you have decided to go on the Clumber waiting list.

I think there are always "ifs and buts" when there is no firm diagnosis and the decision is taken to pts, but you just have to remind yourself that the decision was not taken lightly and you did what you thought was for the best. You will torture yourself otherwise, and to no good end. (I have done the same with a young collie I had to have pts).
 
I actually don't know what to do with myself Ive had to resort to housework! I didn't realise quite how much of a hole he would leave.
Put the word out amongst various shooting bods that may know of something suitable. Brief is, don't mind how much exercise it needs outside but something that's pretty laid back indoors !
 
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