I've completely wasted someones time, what can I do?

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I've just broken up with my husband after finding out about an affair.
But I'm not here to talk about that, I was just about to put a deposit down on a horse. The owners have been amazing and I've had so many emails, Txts and videos. I can still afford a horse but things will be changing, I want to move back near family. I have two little boys and I just don't feel like it's fair but feel awful for wasting their time!
I've wrote an email explaining and saying I'd still like to give the deposit because I had basically done so anyway and I've wasted all their time and effort.
If anyone else has ever been in the same situation please share what they've done? :(
 
don't beat yourself up over this, you have enough to deal with as it is! I am quite sure the owners will completely understand, and you offering to still pay the deposit is amazingly fair. I think given the circumstances you are doing the right thing, allow yourself to stop and take stock of things.
Good luck and well done for knowing what you want, I really hope things pick up quickly.
 
I think people will understand, under the circumstances. If not, they have a problem, not you! It's not like anyone sets out with the intention of coming across these problems.
 
I think you've done enough too. I'm sure they will understand - and if they don't, don't worry about it. You've got enough on your plate by the sounds of things xx
 
I certainly don't think you have wasted anyone's time, sadly things happen and you were putting a deposit down..how can that be wasting time?..
You have kindly explained situation to them and I am sure they will understand and as you have offered for them to keep deposit that shows that you were not a waster..

chin up and I hope everything sorts themselves out for you too..
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Yikes. Not a good find :(.

The deposit is probably forfeit, but I would expect the owners to understand that you can't go through with the purchase now. Send flowers if it would make you feel better, but if I were me, I wouldn't want you to be thinking of me, I'd more likely send you some.

I hope it all works out well for you and your boys.
 
Sorry to hear what's happened. In the circumstances I think the people will understand. Better to pull out now than to take on a horse that you won't be in a position to give your everything to.

Hope things look up for you.
 
Don't worry, people know that it's all part and parcel of buying / selling horses. Nothing is ever a done deal until you've actually picked up the horse and if it were me i'd have appreciated your honesty and be happier knowing that you hadn't taken my beloved horse and got into trouble further down the line only to sell on.
 
When I was selling my last horse, we had 99.9% sold her, deposit, vetting etc all done, but then we got a phone call a few days before she was due to go to her new home- the potential new owner was in tears, she'd been made redundant and couldn't afford her anymore. She was genuine, and it was a bit annoying for us having turned away people as she was "sold", but we didn't have any hard feelings towards them- it wasn't her fault, these things happen.
Don't worry about wasting their time, you can't help these things. I'm sure they'll understand.
 
Poor you - I was in exactly your position 2 years ago. I had actually asked a local (and very well known even nationally) dealer to keep his eye out for a horse for me (bombproof) on his next trip - he duly obliged and then the bomb dropped so to speak. I am still mortified though. Marriage recovered but I still can't look said dealer in the eye. I think you are doing the right thing being honest - I was in such a state I just stopped answering calls!
 
1. Give them a call and explain, let them keep deposit :(
2. Buy flowers for yourself :)
3. Hatch plan for ensuring Husband's testicles end up in blender.:eek:
 
Get back with the husband so he can pay for everything and find yourself a nice horsey toyboy to share your horse with!

Sorry, trying to lighten things up a bit!

The sooner you put them in the picture, the better for them. You're not a timewaster but your husband is
 
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