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Things at the yard havent been great, YO wants to up the price of the yard, hes started to take more notice around the yard including my part. I dont know if im being paranoid but seems to be since i asked his daughter not to use my things as it was being left back in dirty condition or left lying about.

He was up at my stables today telling me the yard price is going up from £50 a week to £100 a week, that the fields are now off limit for winter, except for his daughters horse and his GFs horse. I had hoped to get 42 acres of land for the winter but its all fallen through.

When at my stables today he noticed that the yard wasnt brushed (was just finishing off giving haylage), he said that there are days that i dont brush up, but its days that my back hurts i cant brush it as well. He then complained that my empty stables are not looked after. Although i clean them out and leave them ready for being used again. He said ive got to start banking all the shavings in empty stables.

He would buy large trailer loads of shavings and we would split the costs, now hes saying ive to get my own, even though i have nowhere to put them!!!

I just want to cry, ive told OH that im just going to sell my horses as ive had enough. Starting to think im a horrible person. I cant believe the huge change in the yard.

I did shout at YOs daugther on sunday, maybe that was a mistake. However she let her horse walk about my stables, it attacked one of my horses and she burst out laughing.

On sunday i brought back my extension lead as YOs GF and daughter were clipping their horses and left my lead lying out in the rain.

I really dont need this now, got a baby due in March. OHs gran has cancer and has had a fall tonight and was rushed to hospital.

Told YO this and he said he wants a meeting this friday night. I just know that what he gives off about that he will be thinking his daughter and GF doesnt do it! He did tell me to write down all things that annoy me.
 
Sounds like a nightmare, can't you find another yard to go to?

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Why do you stay there?? It sounds awful....

Could you not either move all the horses (not sure how many you have) or keep the favourite one and move yards with that one???

You will need one neddy to keep you sane when the baby arrives..... on the other hand you might find that you dont want the hassle when you have a baby... they are enough work for five horses
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Not meaning to be horrible here but it sounds to me like he wants you to go. Are there no other yards you could at least consider ?
 
Dont lose heart with the horses hun, its just someone trying to make your life difficult. It does sound as though he wants you off the yard so I would be on the phone now looking for a new yard. Why cant people be straight and honest and be direct if they have a problem with you instead of resorting to backhanded bitchiness.

You would be better off elsewhere where you can ENJOY your horses. Good luck.
 
Weve been looking but there arent ones that can accommodate 10 horses and those that can only offer full livery at £50-£60 a week.

I am advertising some for sale, then it might be easier for me to find a new yard. This would be our 3rd yard in a year, its really making me lose heart. I just want a yard where i can get on with things and have fun with my horses. I hate moving yards.

Its only the last week or so that thing have changed. I have just felt so down, i cried today and told OH to sell them all.

The yard im at is good but OH says if i am depressed then the horses will pick up on it. I was so upset today i yelled at Mae, OH went running lol.
 
Move asap. I would sell some of the horses. Would you mind me asking why you have 10?
totally agree with YorkshireLass. Sounds like a complete nightmare. So does YO's kid.
hope something works out
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I asked him straight if he wanted me out, he gave me a hug and said no, he said its to cover winter costs.

I think its more his GF that has trouble with me, YO would flirt and text me everyday, i never return it as im happy with OH. Also on sunday i asked his daughter nicely to back off as she was telling me what to do with my horses and it was getting to me.

She TOLD me i am not to clip Mae. Any yard im at i keep myself to myself. I will help anyone out and i feel that i keep the place tidy.

I love all my lot in different ways, they keep me sane lol.
 
Poor you, I know how you feel having been in the same situation at a livery yard I was at briefly, though I only had one horse then.

That's one of the reasons I just rent land now, not at a livery yard, because people can change from being nice to shitty in 10 seconds.

It just takes one bitchy person to stir things up not in your favour and the whole happy situation changes to hell.

Hope you can find somewhere quickly. You might have to split the horses up at different yards to tide you over for a bit.

Good luck.
 
Gently point out that he will have an empty yard if he doubles the price !

Surely with 10 you would be much better off renting land/yard rather than looking for livery ?
 
thats sounds really awful, he really does sound like he has changed, if you can, move, you will be far happier, you do not deserve to be taken the mickey out of and then treated very differently and rules/prices changed so dramatically just because you spoke up, that is down right awful, you dont need it like you say with everything else going on in your life
 
Ok OH thinks i should mention this, on friday night YO sent me a text message, hinting at meeting me as more than just friends. I turned him down flat, been looking for a yard since.

Here farmers dont seem to like horses, although i might have found a few fields, fingers crossed.

Most of mine are rescued, they have come from bad homes. I really bought them to rescue and resell but got attached lol. I have 5 advertised this week, including wee Mia as shes too small for me to ride - 12.3hh. Shes jumping 80cms+ and i think she would make a great wee PC pony as shes so easy to work with.
 
Where abouts are you situated ?

I think what your Yo is doing is not far from harrassment I may be totally wrong in saying that but he knows you have nowhere to go with 10 horses, and sending you these text messages , thats really not on especially when he knows you have a partner and your pregnant .

I think thats really strange in what he is doing , or have I got this all wrong ??
 
Whereabouts in the country are you?

We rented a 16 acre field last winter for £50 a month from a local farmer, they are worth approaching, especially 'hobby' farmers, sometimes you fidn them panicking cos they don't know what to do with all their grass!

If there is anything coming up to buy, could you top up your mortgage? At least it would be yours, and you never lose on land.

Good luck, and keep those copies of the texts, they may be handy ammuniton regards GF, hopefully it won't come to that.
 
Id never cheat on my OH hes been a sod at times but i love him to bits and hes there for me always.

Soft sod went a got me a cat tonight as i always wanted to get one after my ex cat was pts ages ago, he doesnt really like cats.

Hes told me not to sell them all, he says i will regret it.

YO texted me tonight to say sorry if i thought he was being rude, i didnt reply.

Im in Coleraine in Northern Ireland
 
He is dodgy, i know hes cheating on her with different girls. Because of what hes got - money, flashy car etc, girls are dropping at his feet, maybe hes not used to being rejected lol.

I was at an ann summers party on friday night, he sent me a text asking me would i buy something to model for him!!!

Ohhh does your dad have any land lol. I was suppose to get 42 acres at eglinton but it fell through, they wanted £20 a week per horse that was in the field.

I just feel like Pooh with being at 3 yards in a year! Im honestly not a bad person, my horses are my everything. I pay my livery on time, i will help anyone out.
 
Unfortunately not lol Im afraid

Best thing you can do is keep searching for a new yard and get out of there as soon as possible .
Only thing you can do is cut down on your stock , Afterall your going to be busy after christmas with a new baby on the way xx

Il keep my ears and eyes open for you, how far can you travel to a new yard ?
 
i think that trying to loan a few out, esp over the winter and maybe until you are settled with baby, would be a good idea, then you've not so many to move if you have to, and it gives you a bit of an easier time while you're pregnant/getting used to having baby around.

farmers round here don't like horses either, but my friend found a field that had had sheep on all summer, and spoke to the farmer who is letting her have 30acres for £65 a month. the grazing isn't great, but it is a sheltered field (woods on 3 sides) and there is a water supply. i would just keep trying to find somewhere hon, there's nothing worse than wishing you or your horses were somewhere else.
 
Are you sure you are not just being a bit sensitive? 100 for 10 horses sounds pretty reasonable to me and I can see why he would want to put the price up. If he gave you a hug and wants to discuss it then it doesnt sound like he is a complete moron.
Why have you moved yards 3 times in one year?
 
Can they winter out, just for this year? Then maybe you could rent a field somewhere until after the baby's born and look for alternative accommodation. Have you tried your local council to see if they have any land for rent? Or maybe ask around some of the local farms? I feel for you, your YO sounds like a real sh1t. And you so don't need the hassle when you're pregnant.
 
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