Jade Goody - this coverage is now making me really uncomfortable

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When she did her programme on Living and her Ok magazine wedding it felt ok but since the memorial issue of OK mag and the Daily Star saying 3 weeks ago that she had said goodbye to the boys and this week saying she is trying to hold on until Mothers Day to give her boys a hug it just all feels wrong. I still feel very bad for her but it seems the papers are gagging for her to die and make more money out of it and her family are doing nothing to discourage them.
 
well that seems to be the way she wants it, so she can ensure the future of her kids or whatever. But i do dislike the way people are being manipulated. according to the press she was read the last rites a few days ago but she is still here. And all this about a 'tribute issue' from another. is this the same person who was being vilified for being a racist by the same papers. Suppose hypocracy is ok when they are making money.
 
I just feel really sorry for all those women out there with terminal cancer. At the end of the day if Jade hadn't been on Big Brother she would be a nobody. i don't see other women getting "free stuff" because they are dying with cancer. they just have to get on with it. Might sound a bit harsh, but Jade isn't the only woman in the world in her position right now!
 
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I just feel really sorry for all those women out there with terminal cancer. At the end of the day if Jade hadn't been on Big Brother she would be a nobody. i don't see other women getting "free stuff" because they are dying with cancer. they just have to get on with it. Might sound a bit harsh, but Jade isn't the only woman in the world in her position right now!

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Couldn't agree more. Someone close to me just died from cancer.

The memorial issue is just wrong. It's put a definitive on her end. So, she might die tomorrow but what if something did happen and she lived til 2010 or longer, then OK! would be kicking themselves wouldn't they...
 
i was okay with it at the beginning, and yeah i feel sorry for her but i think shes getting too much publicity out of it. that probably sounds harsh but as someone else said, loads of people have the same illness as her and i dont see them getting all this money etc out of it.
plus last week i read that they thought she wouldnt live til tuesday, its now saturday, and theyve published a memorial magazine thing, which i think is a bit wrong because shes still alive!! sorry got a bit carried away
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I've been uncomfortable about it since the start.
You wouldn't wish cancer on anybody but your last days, weeks, months even should be a private thing between friends and family . . not splashed all over the papers.
Also the numerous photo's being shown daily of her small children who have no choice in all this is just not right.
I can understand wanting to make money for her son's future but why not turn down all the gifts and the big lavish wedding and ask for the equivilant in cash for her children instead? I'm sure all the company's who handed out all the 'stuff' would still get just as much (if not more) publicy for thier 'generosity' in giving money instead.
Anyway, did someone as famous and as rich as Jade not have a life insurance policy to protect her children in the event of her death ???
I also feel there will be many family's who are suffering the same fate but do not have the privilage of doctors & nurses sat by their bed's at home 24/7 just because they have been on the TV ...... they are more likely to die on an overcrowed NHS ward with a curtain round them.
So no, all this Jade hype does not wash with me and I think she should have taken a leaf out of Wendy Richard's book.
 
I feel very sorry for Jade. To have cancer is dreadful especially at such a young age. However, there is the moral issue of how much pain/deterioration such young children should see their mother in. I do worry they will get nightmares when she is gone. What is right for her may not be right for them.
 
She just did what she knows, and securing a future for her boys. At least they won't have to rely on the state. Everone else, if they were in the public eye would have done the same.

If people didn't watch BB, If people didn't buy mags/newspapers etc etc its all if's But thats how it was.

RIP Jade; My thoughts are also with Katy, my sons girfriends mum who died of cancer 4 years ago, and to my other sons best friends Carly and Kristie whose mum also died of cancer 2 years ago in April. xxx
 
She did her best to secure a future for her boys, the only way she knows how. She has brought the issue of cervical cancer into the light, I commend her for what she has done.

Yes hundreds of people die each year less publicly, she has just shown the world what a dreadful illness it really is.

RIP Jade, I will always remember you with a smile on your face, no matter what.
 
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She did her best to secure a future for her boys, the only way she knows how. She has brought the issue of cervical cancer into the light, I commend her for what she has done.

Yes hundreds of people die each year less publicly, she has just shown the world what a dreadful illness it really is.

RIP Jade, I will always remember you with a smile on your face, no matter what.

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very well said CL , why do people feel so compelled to complain about what other people are doing,,,, if you dont like it, dont buy the mags, dont watch the programmes ect ect!! very simple!! She has increase the amount of women going for smears by 30% and with that she is saving lives!!!
 
Shellby27 - Absolutely couldnt agree with you more. Im sure other terminally ill women would love to make loads of money for their kids but they cant. Personally, if I was her kid Id feel odd about having all this money when I was older as it would be tainted...
 
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Shellby27 - Absolutely couldnt agree with you more. Im sure other terminally ill women would love to make loads of money for their kids but they cant. Personally, if I was her kid Id feel odd about having all this money when I was older as it would be tainted...

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I really don't know how you can say that the money she has earned for her boys is tainted
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She has spend most of her life in the public eye, not always in a positive way
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and she chose to die in the public eye too.

If a terminally ill person writes a book of their journey through to the end of their life, is that also tainted money. What about all the real life films, where families are still benefiting from their viewing, is that also tainted


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Shellby27 - Absolutely couldnt agree with you more. Im sure other terminally ill women would love to make loads of money for their kids but they cant. Personally, if I was her kid Id feel odd about having all this money when I was older as it would be tainted...

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bloominhell what a horrid thing to say!!!!!!!

so you would rather she didnt go public and save womens lives,,, thats what your saying!!! how bloody awful,
 
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Shellby27 - Absolutely couldnt agree with you more. Im sure other terminally ill women would love to make loads of money for their kids but they cant. Personally, if I was her kid Id feel odd about having all this money when I was older as it would be tainted...

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bloominhell what a horrid thing to say!!!!!!!

so you would rather she didnt go public and save womens lives,,, thats what your saying!!! how bloody awful,

[/ QUOTE ] Thats not what she was saying and I tend to agree with her. It seems that money can be made out of anything these days and human dignity is shot out of the window in the process. I find the trend very disturbing and wonder where we are heading! I dont believe that this whole horrendous public illness/dying was done to send a message to other women, it was done as a marketable joint venture. I do believe that some women will be 'saved' due to the publicity and Im fine with that but, I find the media thing rather OTT and questionable
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. Lets not make heroes where there are none. Mairi. I now await to be shot down
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very well said CL , why do people feel so compelled to complain about what other people are doing,,,, if you dont like it, dont buy the mags, dont watch the programmes ect ect!!

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and don't come on HHO for there will surely be thread after thread about it. I do ignore most, but it gets tedious just reading all the topic titles.
I do feel sorry for her and her boys, but agree with those on this thread brave enough to say enough is enough.

Mairi, would you like to share my air raid shelter with me
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can i come in as well please
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. perhaps she might have consuidered a good life insurance policy before she got sick and then wouldnt have 'had' to sell her last days to the media. This is the person who was shown on national television behaving in the most appaling racist and bullying manner and about whom no body had a good word to say including on this forum.
I would not wish so terrible a disease on anyone and you have to feel sorry for the children but sheer hypocracy being shown by the media is quite sickening.
 
If you are told you're dying it's no-one's place to say how you handle it or behave.
I think now she's gone perhaps everyone should perhaps try and imagine how they would handle such a diagnosis (and they must have been truthful with her re timescale) then realise no-one has the right to offer criticism under those circumstances.
She coped the best way for her, don't you think we should all have the right to that decision?
 
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can i come in too please?
when it comes down to it, she was ridiculously famous for very little. all i remember from her on Big Brother was that she was quite spectacularly stupid and pretty nasty. amazing what makes people rich and famous nowadays... it used to be that you had to be one or two of: an amazing actor/actress, or stunningly good looking, or a great entertainer, or very very smart... just for starters.
that stupidity, unfortunately, is what made her ignore the recommendation to go to a hospital asap for a follow up to the irregular smear test. she chose to go on BB (in India, was it?) instead - she put making money ahead of her health. bad decision.
i felt very sorry for her, and for her family, but the whole media circus about the whole thing was deeply distasteful imho.
this isn't deliberately "speaking ill of the dead", before someone jumps on me for that - it's just how i see it.
if one good thing comes out of it, it is the fact that more women are aware of the dangers of CC now, and won't be stupid enough to ignore warnings and miss appointments etc.
 
I've been feeling uncomfortable about this as well, and today even more so. I had huge sympathy for Jade, as I would if I heard of any 27 year old woman leaving two children behind due to cancer.
Now we have the "Prime Minister leading a nation in mourning". That is ridiculous. In the last weeks of her life Jade's name was put against a campaign for smear testing for younger women, very laudable. However, how many people have we lost who have done, much, much more crusading during their lifetimes, and who have actively supported charitable causes? Why single out one person in this way, it almost insults the memory and achievements of others. (Freddie Mercury for example, a huge supporter of charitable causes in his lifetime, to name just one). I think it is wrong for the Prime Minister become involved to such an extent, and to me it feels as if he and the government hope to benefit from the publicity machine.
It appears we are being set up for some sort of national event when her funeral takes place. I will be in a field somewhere, or out riding.
Note - I am not criticising Jade at all.
 
*knocks - is there room for me?* I am sorry for Jade's boys but can't help but feel all the publicity is distasteful - and no I don't watch BB or buy the magazines. Cancer is a disease that will touch one in three people in the UK - some of them preventable, like the cervical cancer that Jade had. The NHS funds screening programmes and spend thousands on publicising them - they are after all 'free to all'. Jade made her descision to ignore requests for repeat visits and unfortunately paid the price. In the middle of this circus are two small boys who had the right to spend their mothers last days with her in peace and quiet - they have a right to their dignity too and I feel that instead of trying to get every last penny from the media, their feelings should have been considered.
Straps on flak jacket and tin hat....
 
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Now we have the "Prime Minister leading a nation in mourning". That is ridiculous.

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And this is the same Prime Minister that condemned her during the BB 'race row' and a few weeks ago barely knew her name
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She may have done a lot to raise awareness of cervical cancer and hopefully now more people will not only get tested but will not ignore the results but I do find it a little odd that she has received so much publicity for being ill and raising money for her family when Jane Tomlinson received so little for all for she did for cancer charities etc.
And Kerilli, I completely agree. It's a sad reflection that we are a 'nation in mourning' over someone who was famous for being famous but not over the loss of a talented actress.
 
I think it's easy to lose perspective in all the publicity. I'm sure the majority of the UK population are barely aware of Jade, apart from what they've seen recently in the press. I have never watched Big Brother and only really got to know of her when there was the racist allegations being made. My mum and dad didn't have a clue who she was when the reports started on the news (they don't get the papers), and can't work out why there is this frenzy of attention.
I went out for a long hack on the lovely quiet roads on the day of Princess Diana's funeral, and I went to Camber Sands on the day of her wedding. I love quiet roads. I don't suppose the nation will grind to a halt in quite the same way for Jade do you?
I feel very sorry for her boys, particularly as they will probably realise when they are old enough that she could/should have acted sooner.
 
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It's a sad reflection that we are a 'nation in mourning' over someone who was famous for being famous but not over the loss of a talented actress.

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Whilst I disagree with alot of the sentiments on this thread, I do find it strange that there hasn't been more media coverage of Natasha's untimely death, although I guess the privacy her family have always maintained will mean there is little "news" to report, after the initial announcements of her accident and passing.

That said, the same people who slate JG for being "stupid" to not have sought medical help for her problem before it became terminal (although depending on what media source you read....some say she did, but was repeatedly told she was fine), I do find it odd that no one seems to think NR was "stupid" for deciding not to wear a helmet that would ultimately, in all likelihood, have prevented her death. One would assume that, like Jade, Natasha thought "it happens to other people".

To me, both incidents are tragic deaths of wives/mothers/daughters that were taken too soon. Whatever happened along the way is irrelevant. They were two women cut down in their prime who will leave an immeasurable hole in the lives of their sons, husbands, mothers and extended family and friends.
 
phew someone with a very good way with words!!! well said patches and a very valid point! Thanx for your tact its a breath of fresh air!!
 
QR- I totally agree Patches.

At the same time, I'd like to add my thoughts on JG.

What she has done in the time leading up to her death is make young women more aware of smear tests and has boosted awareness of cervical cancer and the risks of NOT having a smear test. That in itself was fantastic. It was her personal choice to die in the public eye as it were. She has 2 beautiful sons who will miss their mum. I heard an old interview of hers earlier today where she said "so what if I am making money doing this, I'm doing this for my children. My life is in the public eye, I am not employed by anyone, I'm not getting sick pay and I need to think of their future."

RIP Jade, your boys are and will always be proud of you.
 
I don't think it is stupid not to wear a helmet when going skiing. Last time I went nobody in my beginners class was even offered a helmet. You don't see many adults on the slopes wearing helmets, they seem to be used mostly by racers.
Natasha - Natasha who? What I mean is, how does the media decide who is the "greater" celebrity. I must admit I struggled to place Natasha Richardson at first. I wouldn't presume to refer to her by her first name only, because I don't know her personally.
That leads me to ponder on just calling Jade by her first name, she'd managed to almost make her name a brand, an easily recognisable identity.
I thought this thread was about the level and style of media coverage of Jade Goody's cancer battle and death. It's not an attack on the woman herself, or how she conducted herself throughout.
 
Can I come in please? I have made no secret about my views on this. Further thoughts though, which we as a family, were discussing a few weeks ago.. She wanted the money to pay for her children's education. Fair enough, her choice. I and mine have had a very good education, going to local primary and secondary schools. My cousins went to fee paying schools, as have the children of every family I have ever worked for. My aunt and uncle struggled to send their children to school, and talking to my cousins now is an eye-opener. They were treated completely differently as they did not conform to the wealthy pupil idea. They did not receive parcels from home; exeats were to go home and help on the farm and holidays were spent driving tractors. No going abroad for them. Their only saving grace (according to them) was the fact that the parents had a farm, although no horses. Now fast forward to the children of JG. What will their life be like at school? How many people will be their friend when they know JG was their mother? That question can go either way! It was a fascinating discussion we had! The best conclusion was how cruel life can be.
 
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