TarrSteps
Well-Known Member
I can see your point, foxhunter, and am more sympathetic than you can imagine, having some experience on the other side, as it were.
To be fair, someone is PAYING the money, so they obviously think it's worth it, and people are buying the story, so they might have a point. I presume you're implying she's not really *that* sick but I don't think any of us can really judge that. I'm sure you know from your own experience there are no guarantees with cancer.
I think the point about brining things out is valid, too. If one person gets help early or takes a symptom or test more seriously then it's helped. I also think there's something to be said for talking about stuff like this, both for individuals (some people are cheered to know others, even the famous, share their experiences) and in general so it stops being the monster under the bed. I remember being very embarrassed when I was a kid and my mother was dying, especially because she insisted on continuing on as much as possible even when she started to look very ill, because it was so clear many people didn't know what to say and would rather not know. My teachers were embarrassed, people didn't know what to say to me - I can't say I was ashamed but I wish people had understood more. I think now, with more publicity, people ARE more knowledgeable and less freaked out about these things, which makes it easier for SOME people having the experience in less public circumstance.
I think some argument can be made that she is doing all this in part for her kids. Of course, it's also who she is, but then we all have to live the way we are. I suspect a lot of dying parents worry about the financial future of their children, knowing full well that's one of the factors they can possibly influence and knowing how much unavoidable pain and disruption their eventual death (or even just their illness) will cause.
Not to argue with you or belittle your view - you have a valid and deeply justified point - just saying their might be another point of view, which is not necessarily wholly negative.
To be fair, someone is PAYING the money, so they obviously think it's worth it, and people are buying the story, so they might have a point. I presume you're implying she's not really *that* sick but I don't think any of us can really judge that. I'm sure you know from your own experience there are no guarantees with cancer.
I think the point about brining things out is valid, too. If one person gets help early or takes a symptom or test more seriously then it's helped. I also think there's something to be said for talking about stuff like this, both for individuals (some people are cheered to know others, even the famous, share their experiences) and in general so it stops being the monster under the bed. I remember being very embarrassed when I was a kid and my mother was dying, especially because she insisted on continuing on as much as possible even when she started to look very ill, because it was so clear many people didn't know what to say and would rather not know. My teachers were embarrassed, people didn't know what to say to me - I can't say I was ashamed but I wish people had understood more. I think now, with more publicity, people ARE more knowledgeable and less freaked out about these things, which makes it easier for SOME people having the experience in less public circumstance.
I think some argument can be made that she is doing all this in part for her kids. Of course, it's also who she is, but then we all have to live the way we are. I suspect a lot of dying parents worry about the financial future of their children, knowing full well that's one of the factors they can possibly influence and knowing how much unavoidable pain and disruption their eventual death (or even just their illness) will cause.
Not to argue with you or belittle your view - you have a valid and deeply justified point - just saying their might be another point of view, which is not necessarily wholly negative.
