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Katie234

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I've been at my yard for the last year and all has been fine until lately. I feel like the girls are starting to group together and i feel totally pushed out. They have started to be really nasty to me because my horse has some illnesses which means that he can be in and out of work depending on how he is. Lately he was unwell and i couldn't ride for a while now he is just building up again so i don't ride everyday but i lunge and he gets out for 5 hours turnout. They say i should ride everyday and im being unfair to the horse but i am following orders from the vet. I have no idea why they think they know everything but now i only go up at 7am and late at night so that i can avoid their judgement. I hate how this is making me feel my horse is meant to be there as a sort of escape for me to take away from my everyday stress and instead these girls are ruining it. I dont want to leave because i like the facilities but i just feel so alone.

I just wanted to write this all down and get it off my chest feel like it has just been building up.
 
Hi ,
Sounds like you are having a rough time from a group of bitchy girls.

If they lack the experience and sense to let a horse recover and take veterinary advise then really their opinion should count for nothing.

Just remember that you are trying to do the best for your horse and carry on doing so.

As you said before, your horse is your escape so you dont need the hassle.

Hope your horse makes a great recovery and you return to enjoying your time at your yard.

All the best.
 
Its very difficult to ignore what they say i do do what i want with him but it plays on my mind when im not there.

recently he hurt himself in the field he hurt his back and has been resting. I have been having visits from physio and he had the chiropractor at the beginning. Now he has lost muscle and after talking with the vet about the best route to take he says to start slowly and build him up.
 
I know how hard it is to ignore comments. I still have sleepless nights over things said years ago. I know that's kinda pathetic, but it's who I am, I have no control over it what-so-ever! I hope you can find the strength to ignore them soon!

And honestly, if they can not see that your horse is ill and can't be ridden, well, then they shouldn't own a horse! I truly hope none of theirs get sick and are pushed into being ridden.

I hope your boy gets better soon *hugs*
 
Try & look in the bright side, at least you know who not to listen to if you do need advice in the future. Ignore them & hope he's better soon.
 
Do these horrid people know that your horse is unwell? Not that it is any of their business, but maybe if you explained the situation it would shut them up? You can be nice as pie about it (that will infuriate them more ;) ) and say something like 'I really appreciate your support while my horse is recovering'. If that doesn't work, just ignore them - it's not worth losing any sleep over.
 
Katie234 said:
Its very difficult to ignore what they say i do do what i want with him but it plays on my mind when im not there.

recently he hurt himself in the field he hurt his back and has been resting. I have been having visits from physio and he had the chiropractor at the beginning. Now he has lost muscle and after talking with the vet about the best route to take he says to start slowly and build him up.
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One thing to remember Katie... When these girls have the qualifications that your back professionals and veterinarian have, then you might want to give the same consideration to their suggestions... Until then, stick with what you and your horse's 'medical team' believe to be best for *your* horse...

They certainly don't warrant wasting your time mulling over and getting wound up about... :)
 
In my experience controlling rats, rabbits and moles around yards i've found that there are those that always seem to 'know best' or 'have an opinion' with other peoples horses. even on small yards where you would think everyone would would just help out.. just stick with what you know best Katie ;)
 
Thanks everyone for your advice. I know deep down that these people are just opinionated and they do alot with their horses that i dont like but i dont chip in. Its just a time that i feel i need support and people who i thought were my friends seem to want to kick me when im down. I have now decided im going to go to the yard at normal times and just bring my ipod so that i dont have to speak to anyone. A little antisocial i know but maybe if i do this a few times they will get the drift that i dont want their opinions.

Again thanks
 
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