just how i feel is it right?

[babymare]

Last friday i had my beautiful baby my friend PTS. the heart wrenching sobs have stopped and i now have quiet tears.But am i right to feel relieved. no more worrying no more long days . no more worrying if car wont start etc. I just have this wave of relief going through me and i feel guilty. Baby was my friend in many ways so why do i feel like this and the quiet tears are falling

 

[Cortez]

Because in everything there is an ending, an end to the story and a moving on. You don't need to feel guilty; what are you guilty of? Your dearly beloved horse is out of whatever pain or suffering there was, or was going to be, and will never have to endure anything bad ever again. And you will always have the good things to treasure and remember, as well as the loss to mourn. Every story has an end.

 

[Cherrydan]

Firstly my heart goes out to you, it's sad to lose anything dear to your heart, so big hugs. I don't know if this is any comfort, but having a horse is a huge responsibility, as we all know, so your relief maybe due to the no more 'what ifs',no more pressure...I get it in a way, but I don't think you should feel guilty, I'm sure you adored him in life as you will in his passing. Like everything, it's an ending that has to come to us all, there are several stages of grief, you will eventually be at peace with it all and see it differently.xxx

 

[Elvis]

I kind of understand where you are coming from, and you shouldn't feel guilty, my boy is injured and I sent him home when I realised I wouldn't be able to manage the constant bandage changing and need to be there as much as poss. At first I didn't know what to do with myself, and then I started to enjoy not having to get up so early, not having to muck out or visit upwards of twice a day, and not worrying anymore if he was okay. I felt so guilty that I was enjoying having more time.


The thing is when they are around you don't mind/notice all the trips, time, effort you use, because you just have to, and you love them.
When they disapear you suddenly notice what a commitment they are. Don't feel guilty, and I'm very sorry for your loss, I really admire those who do the right thing as I'm not sure I'd have the strength to do it.