Just need to moan..

It's very frustrating for you :( can empathise as I'm twice your age and have had my own horses for five years which I pay for myself and my horsey mum totally blanks them when she visits. I ignore her and just get on with it.
 
As a mum who had two daughters that rode I find it very hard to understand, but I am not a competitive person and as long as they had fun and tried their best I was happy. I think most of the time they would have gladly have paid to have someone take me away or shut me up.
If you can not tactfully find her reasons, hard when you are a teenager, I would turn it into a positive. I had an unhorsey Mum who never saw me ride but it meant I did loads of things that if she had known she would have gone ape. I would also find something that you can do together, like going to see a film, that you both enjoy as your mum is your mum forever and no matter how old you are a mum is a good ally.
 
You say your mum is not supporting you, but perhaps she does, just in other ways than chatting about horses and coming to watch? For example, by giving you money towards the cost of sharing, bus fare, or washing your stinky horse clothes? Some times it is easy to forget all the things mothers do.
 
Perhaps your mum is just worried about how much this is going to end up costing her :D

btw My dad bought me my first pony from the riding school I helped at and didn't even go to see him for several months, he just gave me a cheque to give to the owner. The only times I didn't have to go there on my bike was if it was snowing and I managed to beg him for a lift.
 
Whilst there might be something else on her mind, she is after all your mother and whether she is interested or not she should show an interest in what her daughter enjoys, better than being out with the boys and her worrying where you.

You could mention this to her, let her think about it. Also just say you had a lovely day with paddy today and leave it at that, rather than go on. She might be worried you get too involved and want your own and she couldnt afford to ger you one. But i do think she should talk to you about the problem, i am a mother and nearly 50 and i would rather get involved with my kids interests than leave them out. Otherwise they go seeking for companionship elsewhere which could lead to all sorts of problems.
 
I rode from the age of 11. Self taught because there was no way my parents were going to entertain paying for lessons. My dad went to his grave never having seen me ride and even when I had my own horse they weren't particularly interested. If it didn't involve taking an exam, it was of no importance to them! So it wasn't just the riding.
 
Thank you everyone for your replies,

I've decided just to say 'I've had a good day' and leave it at that - if she wants to know more i'll tell her but i'm not going to go on if she isn't interested :)
 
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