Just needing some sympathy really..

StarlightMagic

StarlightMagic

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Come to the completely heartbreaking decision today (after hitting the deck) that it may be in me and my young horses best interests if we part... Writing up the advert for him was the hardest thing I think I've ever had to do.. I really dont even want to do this but if I face the facts he's too much for me and I'll only ever hold him back... :( Just devastated really....
 
I had this dilemma with a youngster last year. He was goin through that naughty I can do what I like phase and bucking me off all the time. I still have injuries now that he inflicted. Luckily I already had another horse that I had taken over from my OH as they were not compatible.

The youngster really dented my confidence in a way I have never felt before despite some crashing falls. However fast forward a year and I sort of regret my decision to sell. He had a shiver as well which was what really Made my mind up to sell, but he had so much potential and compared to my mare now was actually a lot easier.

I would suggest giving yourself a few days to think about it before posting the ad. Is there anything in his management that could change to make him easier?
 
i really feel for you , i had to do the same a few years ago i had a 4 yr old that i adored,i had known him from a foal , but as a ridden partnership it didn't work , luckily i had him on lvtb,so it was easy to send him back , the day he left my daughters horse yelled and i sobbed :'( . he did go to a home he was better suited to and i found another horse more suitable so positives do come out of these situations . it's a very commendable thing to do , so many people struggle years being miserable with unsuitable horses . hope you find him a lovely new owner and you find a new friend soon
 
I don't know really, he lives out, on minimal diet just to carry vitamins too. He'd had a couple of days off work as I've had a trapped nerve in my back and unable to ride, so I thought I'd hack him (about 30 mins) to the local sand school. Didnt help there was a stallion in field directly next to school but he seemed pretty calm, but very sharp. He had a couple of mini rearing fits and then after about 20 minutes of calm walk and trot he was starting to stretch down and I was going to call it a day after that last circuit of trot and he just leapt up and I lost balance and sort of flopped off the side. It wasnt a bad fall but I'm nervous as hell at the best of times and its really knocked me :(
 
Firstly Hugs!!! I got rid of my youngster that I had on loan with a view to buy 8 months ago. When I got him I was very confidence and I am not inexperienced and within six weeks he had totally smashed every inch of confidence I had. I was bucked off, dragged, reared - the list goes on... Quite frankly I was utterly relieved to get rid. Maybe it was that I was at the time of my life when I just couldn't cope with a youngster or maybe it was just a huge personality clash one or the other but so glad his gone. It was a tough decision, I thought I had let him down even though spent 100s on physio etc.
 
Oh gosh bless you, mines not a youngster we've not even got that excuse but am in a similar situation. It's so crushingly hard and I know how your feeling so big hugs xx
 
First off big hugs

4faults said:
I would suggest giving yourself a few days to think about it before posting the ad
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Also agree with this /\/\ just give yourself a couple of days to feel less emotional. I am not saying this to change your mind but think you need to be less emotional. I hastily advertised my new young horse, for other reasons (sold as a year older then she is), but I was too emotional really for it and took it down the next day as I am not certain of the facts yet and am going to give it time.

Anyway, big hugs and take care and don't rush whatever you decide is best for you and your horse. And also good on you for being brave and admitting there is an issue x
 
Don't be hard on yourself - At the end of the day we do this for fun and if we are anxious or scared we won't be having fun. Also, bear in mind that it might not be to do with that he is young, it might be that your partnership just wasn't meant to be. Hugs to you. It is horrible. Maybe give it a couple of days before you make a final decision as after a fall it is so hard to think straight. Good Luck. x
 
I feel for you, i have just had to put my pony up for sale.
Advertised him last night, someone rang today and they are coming to see him next week :(
Its goint to be heartbreaking but they can be loved just as much by someone else :( :)
 
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