Just so ANGRY!

AndiK

AndiK

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I moved to a new yard (for personal reasons but a fresh start was needed) and its great. The people are great, the atmosphere is great and we are going to be really happy there.

When I agreed to take on the vacancy there was a young girl (17-18) there who had two ponies on livery there. The paddock that was allocated to me needed fencing and a bit of maintenance but the yard is proper DIY (you do do all DIY).

So I fenced the field about two weeks before the move date and was really happy with myself for a good days work. The monday after I get a phone call saying that there is a pony on my newly fenced paddock. So I sent a text to the girl and aksed her to move her pony and please not use the paddock. To which she took um bridge. She had a right pop at me and then said something along the lines of 'have my paddock then because I dont care - I am leaving anyway' I put this eaction down to her being a stoppy little so n so and just ignored her.

Subsequently she did leave the yard before I moved there as she wanted a mare on loan and the owner of the yard does not want mares there and there was not enough room for her to have three ponies on the yard.... Fine fair enough.

Any way I am now hearing that she is telling everyone and anyone that I bullied her off the yard, took her stables and paddocks throwing her stuff out and basically being a nasty piece of work.

It has annoyed me because what she is telling people is a total work of fantasy and it makes me look like a right tw#t. :-(

I know that it will blow over and all of the other girls on the yard are correcting the rumours as they hear them but I just cant believe the girl and what she is going around saying!

Needed to rant as this whole experience was tainting an otherwise successful and happy move.....
 
God, there are some *********s in this world!

Find her, kill her, feel better for it!

Let people think what they want, stupid jumped up little arse she sounds...

At least she has gone though!

:D
 
Fortunately ALL of the other girls have turned around and said that they are glad to see the back of her. She was a ***** in general and upset and crossed them all. They have all said that they are looking forward to life without her and she will come a croper in time because she keeps burning all of her bridges in the livery yards in our village... she will run out of places to keep he ponies eventually if she carries on....
 
And there's the reason us teenage horse owners have a bad reputation. What a complete idiot, she should be busy looking after her two horses instead of bitching.
 
Oh she is great. She has got a three year old that she will ride on the road for long periods of time. The last time I saw her she was out on it for 4 hours.... Yes 4 hours on a three year old....
 
Those types of people dont deserve horses, I saw a girl coming to a show at our yard cantering her pony down the road because her box was broken and she didn't want to miss her class. People like these shouldnt be allowed to own the poor things.
 
These things happen in life - and this time it has happened to you.

The trick is not to let it bother you - if you decide its not important, it isn't! It really is your decision.
 
Oh dear! Just be glad she is now gone. The paddock is all yours.

Dont sink to her level. Just get on and enjoy your move.

If you do come across her tell her the old yard were glad to see the back of her and you love it there so thank her for vacating(well I would quietly anyway)!! And theres me telling you not to sink to her level.....
 
I wouldn't worry too much, she sounds like a charmer and knowing what the horseworld is like, absolutely everyone locally will know it soon enough. She'll get herself a reputation and a half behaving like that!
 
YOu obviously have a good rep and work hard, people will see that and the yard owner must love you. I have been on the end of some wicked lies, live in a small valley where everyone knows everyone. The people who know you know the truth, its the people who don't know you that love the gossip and scandle, it really hurts, she's gone and the people who listened to her aren't the sort of people you want in your life anyway. Your better off not knowing them. It sometimes takes a little time for everyone to see what she is, but they will get there. Some people listened to my neighbours lies about me and thought she was the bees knees, there was a reason she hated me, (she has just moved away after being (i want to say shamed, but she isn't) out of the area.) She has starved horses to death every year and got away with it, but this year she starved 3 to death, right next to me and the main road, RSPCA, police, county council, Vets, nothing, she got away with it again. RSPCA came back with, "horses do die you know" But the locals then saw her for what she was.
Rant away, get it out, it feels good. xxx
 
Just ignore the tales.
Your true friends will know the truth and the people on your new yard sound understanding and they are sticking up for you so put it behind you.

Settle in to your new yard and forget about her!


Ohh you have a beagle, me too!
 
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I so feel for you!! I now stable my horse with a friend who has a ISH and 2 shetlands. I moved there a couple of years ago and it was the best thing I could have done! Previously I had been with someone and their horses for around 6 years, so presumed her to be a good friend! Oh, how wrong I was! Due to circumstances, I decided back then, that I had to move my horse closer to home etc, I told this person and oh my, one minute I was a friend and the next I was the worst person in the world!!! :mad: She also told anyone that would listen what a horrible person I was, (including posting things on a well known social network site), thankfully alot of the people she spoke to knew me as well, so didn't take much notice of her :p You know that what she has been saying is not true, which is the main thing. Try to forget about it and enjoy your horse and new yard. Good luck.
 
Um, I think i may well regret saying this but here goes.
You say you fixed the fence 2 weeks before your move. So were you paying livery or preparing it for your horse? Surely if you were not a livery at that time, and she was, you cant stop here putting her pony in there? I do apologize if I have understood that wrong.
 
benson21 said:
Um, I think i may well regret saying this but here goes.
You say you fixed the fence 2 weeks before your move. So were you paying livery or preparing it for your horse? Surely if you were not a livery at that time, and she was, you cant stop here putting her pony in there? I do apologize if I have understood that wrong.
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Hi Benson - the field was allocated to me and I spent the money and time putting the fence up. I also had arranged for it to be sprayed and forked out the £40 for the spray. She had he OWN paddock and stables so there was absolutely no need for her to use the paddock I had fenced. The problem was (I think) is that she had ignored the advice of the other liveries and not managed her grazing properly so there was no grass in her field. She lied to me and just generally was nasty and stand off ish when I confronted her. I was civil but firm as I was already aware of what a little madam she was as she had already shown a total disregard for the others, their horses and their belongings. She is just vile and she will learn the hard way - I just needed to rant and vent.
 
Thank her for ensuring that your fencing is secure/safe for horses and wish her well and good luck for the future :) (if you wish you may like to consider charging her rent for using your field - unlikely that she'll pay though :o )

Hopefully, if things go your way, you'll never have to see her again :D
 
AndiK said:
Hi Benson - the field was allocated to me and I spent the money and time putting the fence up. I also had arranged for it to be sprayed and forked out the £40 for the spray. .
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Ok I get that. But were you paying livery? Did you have permission from the Y/O to work on a paddock that, as I can see it, you had no right to be in because you were not a paying livery until 2 weeks later?
Sorry, I am not meaning to be arguementative, just looking at it from the other side!
 
Why are there so many horsey people out there who think they're a cut above, something special! I'v been on a few yards and they're all the same! Loads of really nice down to earth people but the odd few who were just well, plain cows! I now have my horses at home and all they could say to me was won't you get lonely!! Er no!!!!
 
If she's such a little madam that nobody likes, then the few people that will believe her and side with her are people that you don't want or need to know. The little spoilt girl who cries wolf is very rarely believed: as long as you and your horses are happy, what odds that one wee girl is mouthing off and lying? You and a whole yard full of people could correct them calmly if you ever come into contact.
 
benson21 said:
Ok I get that. But were you paying livery? Did you have permission from the Y/O to work on a paddock that, as I can see it, you had no right to be in because you were not a paying livery until 2 weeks later?
Sorry, I am not meaning to be arguementative, just looking at it from the other side!
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YO was just as annoyed at what happened as I was as YO had said that the paddock was for my horse. He had asked me to fence the paddock and spray but not to worry about rent until I moved there. He had also said not to worry about anyone using the paddock as all the other liveries were aware of what was happening....

Dont see it as you being augmentative :o It makes sense to have both sides :o
 
pastie2 said:
OK, you have ranted and vented, now grow up and get on with your new yard.
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How very unpleasant to post in such a nasty and inflammatory manner - I take it then that you wouldn't have issue if you had done the fencing, spray the field etc. with YO's consent and somebody took it upon themselves to stick their nag on it before you even had a chance to get your nag on it?

Hmmmm....but you sound so pleasant and understanding I expect you would have just smiled politely and let the situation continue at the other person's whim?
 
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