Just want to say, what the.....

Leg_end said:
I would agree that it's definitely not that bitchy (of course there will always be the odd thread) and those who aren't currently competing aren't excluded BUT there are always more popular people, as there are in life, and so people outside of that 'popular' circle will always feel like an outsider (and sorry to say K but I would put you in the popular group ;)).

Interesting / popular poster = more replies
I fall in the other category and generally my posts get v few comments but I'll take it that I'm a bit boring :p and not so popular!! I keep posting and reading as CR has some great people in it and I enjoy learning more and seeing what other people are up to.
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^^^ she put it better than me :P
 
Saint_Knickerless said:
Then you are lucky, granted it is generally 'some' people who are not friendly, my first few experiences in here were not brillant, and a simple thread asking if i could use a saddle protecter for my back got some posters thongs in a right twist.....apparently i am not capable of riding medium if i find it painful to sitting trot....no that would be my nerve disorder and ..
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Ah but as FM said, just ignore those. I'm sure if you consider how many there are in SoapBox and NL and compare numbers to CR not all of those forum members post either. Don't worry about who isn't posting doesn't mean your not welcome.

I don't always get lots of replies, but I often get useful ones, I'm not worried about how many. I also just enjoy reading some of the useful stuff but make no comment as have no experience to offer in a particular subject.

Yes, I agree Baydale, Kerrilli etc get high volume replies but that's because for years they have been giving sound advice FOC and a lot of people respect them for it - so don't begrudge them that, bear in mind they wont worry if they don't get many posts. Try not to worry yourself.

As for PS, no need to get defensive on her behalf her and NM fight their own battles well and also have lots of admirers for their achievements with CS, Bruce and no doubt with Fig soon enough.
 
jesstinsel said:
I really don't compete much and only come in here to fawn over the people who do's lovely photos but when I did post asking for CC loads of people, really kindly, watched my very boring video and made really helpful suggestions.

I wish I did compete as there seem to be a lot more sane people in here than there are in NL and then I could just hangout in here instead!

If you think it's bad in here OP you should try the rest of the forum where us non competitive (through circumstances, not choice) people have to exist!
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Heehee, Jess if I can post in here with my broken pony, you certainly can! At least yours all have 4 legs that work :p
 
Christmassy_Clover said:
I have always found everyone here to be very helpful and very open and you couldn't possibly compete less than me! :D
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But we will again when we've mended the horses we broke. Measles needs us to provide updates for her website. What with us and the broken S_J she's having to rely on A to get all the results!
 
vallin said:
Heehee, Jess if I can post in here with my broken pony, you certainly can! At least yours all have 4 legs that work :p
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Debatable! I'm expecting Nits to go lame any day now that she's started work. And even if she stays sound that hock is so ugly it hardly counts as a working leg. More a mangled stump I think :rolleyes:
 
It would be disappointing if TFC started shunting ALL picture threads to PG. It's much nicer to see people's schooling/comp reports and questions with a little visual aid, and I never look in PG, can't be bothered sifting through all the "meet my new horse" "how is he looking" threads I'm afraid.
 
Saint_Knickerless said:
Yes i agree there is, and what is with all the trolls?!

BUT from my point of view, im not a PRO rider,i have my Delicia whom i compete unaffliated and affiliated dressage. I get some good success but sometimes i do not feel worthy to post in here....
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NEVER, EVER feel unworthy to post where you want to.

Every success you have, no matter how small, is important to YOU.
 
I've had some good advice in here, although sometimes I have felt a bit shunned.

I'm horseless at the minute but desperately seeking, so maybe get some reports up in the summer.
 
Jesus, Mary and Joseph! Sometimes I think I live in my own little world :D (people who know me would agree!)
Either I'm too thick to noticed (skinned or otherwise) or people take pity on my simple self, but I've never found myself at the end of unpleasantness. If I make a thread it's purely to vent as people in RL can physically harm me when I've driven them mad with talk of my horses. I don't really mind if I get a reply/view/my identity stolen (id be quite flattered).

I do enjoy a good troll mind, one that needs detective work. I felt a bit lost after the DunRoamin debacle, Sendero has filled a void in my life :D
 
i think that a forum is essentially just like real life surely? so yes there are the 'popular' people who get lots of views and replies- but generally i would say that is because they come across as nice people who have been happy to offer advice in the past- also i tend to read posts from people i 'know/recognise' first- sometimes i don't come on for long so only read/reply to those threads...

also there are clearly some people who don't get on- for example some people love the matchy matchy, some people hate it- thats fine- surely there is enough space for everybody?
i've had some very useful advice and nice comments in here when i've posted comp reports. i don't think i'm good enough to warrant any really critical posts- hell there is so much to criticise it would take too long ;) however....i fully accept that by posting stuff on here someone might say something that i don't like. i do admit that i get a bit annoyed when people ask for advice or whatever and then have a massive strop if they don't agree with what anyone has said- as FMC (i think...!) said earlier on in the thread you do need thick skin to participate in a forum :)

oh and in response to the OP...it'll get back to normal as soon as all the eventers are posting "crap day on paper" comp reports! :D (*disclaimer...i am taking the P out of MYSELF here- nobody else....nobody jump on me ;))
 
I used to post comp reports, stricly novice stuff ie prelim dressage and 2f6 XC/jumping as was buliding me and my mare up. But I would get one or no replies and about 300 looks so I have to say I do agree with the cliquey 'not got a following' comments.

Maybe if the people reporting got half the replies as looks then this place might be a wee bitty busier.

i posted about my mares SDFT injury in here BUT I am looking (hopefully) to get her back competiting and who better to ask are the 'competition riders' who may have gone through what I am going through and brought a horse back to competition afterwards :)

So yes there may be bull crap (to you) being posted but maybe if there were more replies to the actual comp reports then you would get more of the latter and less of the former :D
 
oh and in response to the OP...it'll get back to normal as soon as all the eventers are posting "crap day on paper" comp reports! (*disclaimer...i am taking the P out of MYSELF here- nobody else....nobody jump on me )
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. Speak for yourself, I plan on posting 'wonderful on paper' reports and failing that, I'll just pretend to be the person that won my section ;)
 
kirstyhen said:
. Speak for yourself, I plan on posting 'wonderful on paper' reports and failing that, I'll just pretend to be the person that won my section ;)
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i might just do what that wierdo did and pretend to be someone else...hmmm, wonder if anyone would get suspicious if i started posting about my advanced runs on my horse 'Buzz'...... its a much cheaper alternative than actually eventing (badly) myself! ;)
 
I love reading higher level stuff as I find it aspirational and inspirational. It saddens me that people like Peony, Table Dancer, ElleJS etc do not really post anymore as really enjoy their posts from a different perspective.
I am intrigued by Romax who I think needs to post more as looks like she has lovely horses.

The forum used to be a lot smaller so it was easier to keep up to date with peoples lives and the ups and downs than it is now. I do not think its clique as been here rather a while now and so just let things wash over me!
 
Re the call for "more honest cc" . . .really!?!? Can't see that going wrong. ;)

The fact is, I suspect when people don't reply it's because there is nothing easy and obvious to say. And most people have figured out (and not just from Internet forums) that when people ask you "How is this looking?" the safest answer is "Just fine," if they answer at all. Let's face it, it's along the lines of "Does this make me look fat?"

Not to metion that everyone knows it's often impossible to give decent advice over the internet. My observation is when people ask a question to which there is a relatively simple answer, they get replies. Personally, I would never reply to a request for a critique unless I was pretty sure what answer the poster is looking for. And even that can go horribly wrong!

If people post their opinions on a subject, I think that is open season, sorry. Yes, you are allowed an opinion. And I am allowed an opinion on your opinion. :)

I have to say though, it must have been a LONG time ago that CR was this loving, sensible, place of which you all speak. ;). My experience (of the past 5ish years . . .oh god . . .) is the wheel just keeps turning. People come, people go. The Silly Seasons come around in their turn. Surely that's part of the fun of it? As said, a thick skin is needed, no matter which clique you belong to. ;)
 
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Saint_Knickerless said:
Yes i agree there is, and what is with all the trolls?!

BUT from my point of view, im not a PRO rider,i have my Delicia whom i compete unaffliated and affiliated dressage. I get some good success but sometimes i do not feel worthy to post in here....
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I've said this before on each annual "winter grump" thread and I'll say it again! ;) I have been posting here for a good few years and have never felt it to be a place where you have to be a "certain" level to post. As someone else has said (sorry... lost track of who! :o ), if you can post updates/reports and keep them interesting, light hearted and not take yourself too seriously, there can be a lot of interaction, help and support on here.

I started off in here about 3 years ago having never competed. My first reports were probably of some unaff SJ at the dizzy heights of 75cm or an unaff prelim dressage test struggling to break the 50% barrier. :o But over the last few years I've kept plugging away and it's been really nice to share what we've been up to, get advice and have folk take an interest in my wee wonkey donkey! ;) :) She is certainly not well bred or expensive but I don't let that stop me posting in here. :p

As with RL, there are people that you feel more of an affinity and can relate to better than others- whether it's their posting style, sense of humour or simply what the do with their horses. Nothing wrong with that and those that are similar can enjoy commenting/sharing, I believe it best to just keep my gob shut and say nothing rather than be negative/b*tchy so there are certain topics/posters I steer clear of- but it doesn't make me/them wrong or bad (I hope!), just everyone's different and that's fine.

FinnMcCoul said:
Thick skin is needed and sense of humour :)
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Indeed! ;)

Now then, group hug anyone?!
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Another quick thought - there's quite often a geographical slant to threads too and sometimes people actually know each other in real life, both of which can make a particular post seem a bit exclusive.
I'm up for a group hug - my nearest and dearest all have stinking colds so I'm keeping my distance from the germy beasts.
 
heehee *hic* I never realised you signature was animated before! :D :D :D Though I do think the wine glass you be going down...imagine that, an infinite wine glass! :p

Also, d'you reckon if I put 'I'm thick skinned, I can take the CC, I know I need it!' on the bottom of each of my threads I'll get more replies? :p
 
carefreegirl said:
Blimey figjam. From your reports I thought you'd been competing longer than that. I'm up for a group hug, I'm flippin freezing !
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Aw, thank you, but nope! Hopalong is my first horse, got her Christmas 2006 and only competed for the first time in Dec 2008. It's all thanks to her being so honest and clever that we've gone from feeling sick about doing a "schooling night" 75cm round to feeling pretty comfortable about PN in the space of 18months. :) She's very special, I just wish she was a) younger and b) less prone to self harming! :rolleyes: ;)

Rosiefan- that's also a fair point about geographical "real life" friendships making folk more inclined to comment/reply, although I have to say that I only know a lot of the Scottish lot because of this place, so again, a positive! And they're not all weirdies...! :p But I'd like to think us Scots don't come across as cliquey. :)
 
Well, I'm not an 'oldy' on this forum, but reading some of the initial comments at the start of this thread has made it feel like coming home!! Glad there are posters out there who think the same as me, it's just easier not to voice it sometimes isn't it?

I rarely do reports on here, more of a lurker. But would like to think if I ever did decide to post about my boys and our outings that people would take the time to not only read it but also comment. However, I have a feeling the opposite would happen.
 
LEC said:
I love reading higher level stuff as I find it aspirational and inspirational. It saddens me that people like Peony, Table Dancer, ElleJS etc do not really post anymore as really enjoy their posts from a different perspective.
I am intrigued by Romax who I think needs to post more as looks like she has lovely horses.

The forum used to be a lot smaller so it was easier to keep up to date with peoples lives and the ups and downs than it is now. I do not think its clique as been here rather a while now and so just let things wash over me!
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Yep, agree.

And I liked the layout better when I could have it as most recently posted threads, rather than the most recently replied to. Can I change the settings?
 
It's a free forum and open to anyone despite their ability or inclination - is this what is bothersome? If you get some nutter passing themselves off as a competition rider then I don't think the rest of the forum should be on the receiving end of the vent.:rolleyes:
 
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