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To those who read my previous topic about having to find a new home for my youngster as I have split with my partner and am now not able to keep him as I will need to move out etc. A couple of you advised that I should contact his breeder, so I did today - via email as he had ignored my previous messages on Facebook as soon as I began asking for advice on bonding with him a while ago.

I wrote him an email this afternoon and was completely honest and just lay it all out there, explained the situation, hoped he would be willing to consider anything even perhaps an exchange for one of his little ponies to keep mine company.. Something to encourage a reply from him. I reiterated that I hadn't bonded that well with him either and that I felt we weren't clicking although he's lovely, never nasty, just not particularly interested in me. I explained he was doing well, had been gelded, stables well and is developing nicely. We spent a fair bit of time with the breeder and he seemed very friendly, genuine and I'd heard good things so to my complete and utter surprise, I received an email back this evening saying...

"Dear Lauren,

The outstanding balance of £200 for the keep of Ruben has not been paid. Seems like Karma to me.

Regards,
**Breeder's name**"

1.) OUCH. The shock reduced me to tears. Silly I know!
2.) We settled everything in cash on the day he dropped him off. I also gave him fuel money and enough to cover a McDonald's on his way home. I had no idea there was anything else to be paid.
3.) He knew where I lived, he had my email address and telephone number - Why did he never chase this up with me? If he explained what it was for, I would be happy to pay it, I'm not a bad person or out to decieve anybody. We even had further correspondence about his passport etc and he never mentioned this to me.
4.) Feeling pretty sad and disappointed, this doesn't sound like the man I met.

The only thing I can think of that this is for is that when he brought him down from the hills, he kept him at his house where he would have had to feed him haylage. He had mentioned a type of "livery" thing for him to be kept here until I was ready as I had asked for him to be kept till March. In the end he came in January so I wasn't aware any "keep" was due. There was no other interest in him anyway and as if it cost him £200 on haylage for a few weeks whilst he was being weaned.

Anyway... I don't really want to read and run at his email as it'll look like he's mentioned money and then I decide not to reply at the mention of £££ BUT after his response, I don't want his help anymore either. I'd of been happy to pay it.. but the childish side of me now just wants to tell him where to stick it.

I thought I'd look to you folks on here for a more sensible suggestion of what I should say.. or whether you would just leave it.

Thank you... :o
 
Ooh, sorry I don't know what to say, I didn't want to read and run; reading between the lines, the "succinct" email from the breeder was the last straw, I expect you are already feeling vulnerable due to your break up - sorry you are having a poop time and I hope you get some good advice that suits you all x
 
I'd be upset too!

If there was an outstanding balance, why on earth have you not been contacted about this beforehand?

My worry with following Echo Bravo's advice is that you could then be forking over £200 that you don't owe. Perhaps send him some kind of email asking for an itemized bill so you know *exactly* what the £200 might be for and can check that against your own records.
 
Sorry but I think he has been incredibly rude! You were only asking for a bit of help, in genuine circumstances. As if you aren't going through it enough, what a moron. Why hasn't he requested the money previously, as you say, and to suggest the position you're now in is a result of , "karma" from an unknown mystery balance is just downright nasty. Sorry, cant write what i'd like to reply to that, needless to say the air would be blue if it was read out loud.
So sorry, hope you start back up the hill soon, ditches are easy to fall into but only so deep.
 
What a charming reply! I actually can't think what I'd reply, I certainly wouldn't mind sending something equally rude back!
 
I'd email back saying you weren't aware of an outstanding bill, and furthermore tell him not to worry as you were just looking for the best way to secure your horse's future and from his email clearly he isn't the right person to be talking to anyway. He has all of your details and has never contacted regarding an outstanding amount before, followed by a mean spirited email... sounds like a bit of a pillock to me!
Ps. Sorry you're having a rough time of it, at least things can only get better?! :)
 
I would email back and say;
Your sorry you didn't realise you still owed x amount. Your wondering how long this debt has been left unpaid and a bit puzzled why x has been in contact about debt sooner. Please could you send a breakdown in an invoice of costs, what's been paid and what's left to pay and what for.

I think he is bluffing so turn the tables back on him it may shut him up
 
Hmmm weird email...... Lots of chance to contact you over it... Yet as soon as you email for help it pops up out of the blue!

1. If you have kept your correspondence with him go back through it all and see if he has mentioned it at all, and the amount he wanted paying then.

2. Do a little more digging.... When exactly was this 'keep' and what are you paying for? A yearling can not eat £200 of haylage in 2 weeks!!! Unless it's gold leafed?

3. That was an incredibly rude thing to put at the end of the email and highly unprofessional!
 
I have now idea how some men manage as their communication skills are next to zero. I once had some work done on a lorry, they did a wonderful job and I kept asking for the bill several times and still never got a bill. In the end I went over and saw his wife and handed over some cash and said if its any more ring me, never heard a thing so I have no idea if it was enough.
If you paid any money for anything last season he was lucky, I would shrug your shoulders and put it down to experience.
 
Would love to know the stud where they are keeping youngsters with the breed ing you describe in your first thread so high up in the hills they have to be ' brought down'
I am not meaning to be nasty but why on earth in your situation where one horse has had to return to the people who had be loaning it would you want to swop the yearling for another equine of any size .
I would email the stud and say I never recieved any account from you at the time and therefore do not consider you owe anything .
 
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