Knew this was going to happen :(

Emilieu said:
Alfiesmum that sounds truly terrifying :(
She has replied saying they have enough on their plate and that this has been a real kick in the teeth. I have to speak to her husband tonight. I will explain and see what he says - I have no classes tomorrow afternoon so if need be can leave early and hack him over to the new yard. Not ideal but nothing in the whole situation is ideal.

I know that I am entitled to the deposit back in my heart. But I really hate confrontation and can't face arguing about it with them. No contract and no records means that I haven't a leg to stand on so happy just to let it go and will be a bit smarter in the future when it comes to having everything recorded.
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I normally only lurk on threads such as this, but for once I have to comment.

Can I just say that regardless of what happens, and what you do, please try your best not to attend the yard without a friend/partner/husband etc... both for moral support (and perhaps that extra voice of reason, should you get nervous etc..) and also physical support (as your quote above about "having to speak to her husband" sounds a little like a veiled threat) and not to mention a witness, should things go.....wrong.

Good luck :(
 
It never ceases to amaze me how some YO's act so un-professionally tbh and its just so short sighted. Why take someone leaving so personally. Don't they know the horseworld is very small and word will get around as to how unreasonable she is being.

If YO's said goodbye to good and valuable liveries in a gracious way they may get the business back at some point or recommendations etc etc.

Its very bad business practice to alienate customers.
 
ElleSkywalker said:
Could you not call new yard & see if they can collect your horse for you? If New YO has a box/trailer maybe you could pay them after you get paid?

Big hugs x
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Thank you for the hugs :) really feel like i need them!
I would feel terrible asking for a favour when I haven't even arrived - I can take tomorrow afternoon off and hack him - the roads are busy but he is good in traffic and it should only take an hour or so.

At least have saved the money I was going to spend on a nice bunch of flowers and card!
 
Emilieu said:
I would feel terrible asking for a favour when I haven't even arrived
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Any YO worth their salt would be happy to at least talk it through. On a good yard the horse will come first.
Explain your situation and if they have any local recommendations for immediate moving and if not please can they allow you the stable a few days earlier and you will hack over.
Good luck :)

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I didn't want to read and not post, I cant believe the behaviour of some yo's it's disgraceful. I second the comment about making sure you don't go on your own, take a parent,bf, friend or neighbour with you the 'talk to my husband' veiled threat would worry me a bit. What area are you in op, maybe someone on here is near and can help you transport your boy?
 
OP do bear in mind that you don't *have* to talk to the husband, much as YO may want you to. You're paid upto Saturday, all you have to do until you leave is take care of your horse. Preferably at a time when YO and husband are not around!
 
I'm in East Kilbride.
Its a busy wee yard so its unlikely that I will end up there on my own. I know her husband well and honestly don't believe he would ever do my any harm - he might yell at me but I can deal with that. Unfortunately it is a working farm and they live onsite so I will not be able to avoid them.
I thought I would just explain that people had asked me about the new yard and that I had answered their questions. I will offer to move tomorrow afternoon and explain that moving today is clearly not an opinion. If they want me to do that I will get afternoon off and hack him to the new yard - I'm sure I can have the stable early. I will take home my tack etc and do an extra check on my boy tonight.
When they tell me what I owe in shavings and hayledge I will ask them to take it off the month's deposit - they can keep the rest.
Thanks everyone for the advice and suggestions - I feel much calmer now x
 
I am really surprised this is happening up there....I thought all the loony yard owners were down here in the South, lol!
Really wishing you luck tonight and do take someone with you for support. Just think of the happy times you will have at the new yard, take care x
 
You have not done anything wrong. Hold your ground you have paid your rent until Saturday. Collect everything you do not need for the move and tell the YO you will be going as arranged

As for the deposit. You are owed that so should get it back.

Also inform your YO that if anything is amiss you will be taking legal advice( just a threat) Do not be afraid youha e the law on your side
 
Keep ur head held high & give that YO the middle finger. **** to make u feel like that....plus, if people want to leave its their fault & YO needs to up their game ;)
 
I really don't understand how these people still have businesses. Good luck tonight and, as already suggested, take someone with you - will help you not to feel intimidated and you'll have a witness to whatever occurs/is said.

The YO at my last place had a propensity for this kind of behaviour so it galled me to do things properly when I left, particularly as my final decision to go was the result of her lying to me about my ponies care when everyone was struggling to get to yard in deep snow. Despite the fact that, like you, I had no transport save for legs (impossible in a foot of snow), when I handed her my months livery and said I would be gone by the end of that period, she told me to "get off the yard as soon as possible". And when I managed to hitch the boy a short notice lift, i.e. a couple of hours, she and partner and YM had the cheek to complain that I hadn't told them before pony left the yard and to behave intimidatingly when I went back for my belongings. I only wish I'd thought to cancel the cheque I'd given them because my goodwill certainly wasn't appreciated.
 
Gosh what a **** your YO is no wonder your leaving..!

I told my YO last night I was leaving as moving to a yard closer to home and she gave me a big hug and said awww we will miss you and your horse and your welcome back anytime

That's exactly how ALL YO should react..!!! Is a business people can come and go as they please and not feel intimidated to stay on yards etc.
 
Sorry to hear this. There are loony yo's the world over. I've had one give me less than 12 hours notice to go and the worst thing was I didn't have anywhere to go!:eek: I can imagine what state you were in if it's anything like the state I was in.
What had I done? To cut a long story short - Bought hay and fed it to all 8 horses (including her 4). Why? No food at all left on the yard no hay, nothing and the horses had had nothing to eat since the night even after she promised us they would be :eek: Apparently making sure my own horses were fed was not allowed and the horses had to starve till she got some food to feed them (which was 24 hours later still). WTF? After I'd calmed down (red killing haze :mad:) I realised I needed to go. Couldn't stop somewhere that did this. Luckily I was on the waiting list for a fantastic yard and when I explained the problem to them they let my use their isolation boxes short term until they had a proper place for me. Was off that yard in less than 5 hours!

Hope you got sorted out tonight and everything is settled for you now.
 
Ludoctro I am majorly jealous! That would have made my life a lot less stressful!
Well i'm home from the yard. Arrived (in tears) no sign of YO or husband but yard fairly busy as is usual at that time. Started packing stuff into car hoping they would come out so I could discuss waiting until tomorrow or preferably Thursday to move. Started to get nervous as it was getting later and later so eventually texted to ask if I should come in or if her husband would come out to discuss it with me. Reply read: he's in the shower. He says its fine if you didn't say what he was told you said. It's fine.
So if it really wasn't that big of a deal why not ask me in the first place instead of giving me my marching orders? Am so confused, tired, frustrated and worried. At the moment plan is to leave as scheduled on Saturday but don't see the next few days being very enjoyable :( thanks again for everyone's advice, support and especially the hugs! What a horrid horrid day.
Also wanted to add that my yo was a tower of strength to me when I lost milieu, feel as if I have portrayed her as all bad today when I guess there were a lot of people saying a lot of things in the background.
Going to drown self in a glass of wine now :( x
 
Oh mm how horrid - can't think how you managed, I went to absolute pieces. Had visions of me hacking him about in the dark wearing my heels because I ran out of work and forgot my horse stuff to change into! Don't blame you for the red killing haze. Just looking forward to Saturday now x
 
Sorry that everything has kicked off - some Y/O's seem to take it so personally when people leave - I've never understood that - after all, it's first and foremost a business relationship.

I'm still on very good terms with my previous yard owner and I know people who have left my current yard who are all still on very good terms with Y/O and would be welcome back.

Ultimately, not only has she lost your business but I doubt after all this you would ever recommend her yard to anyone else!
 
Poor you. You deserve that wine! Fancy not bothering to tell you that it was ok leaving you in limbo like that.. She may have been wonderful in the past, but she is being a thoughless cow now. Hope you're ok. Two days will fly by..x
 
I just don't get why some yo are like this? Surely they must realise that a big part of the horse world works through word of mouth and they aren't going to do themselves any favours behaving this way? Luckily I've never had anything like this, but I totally understand what you mean about the atmosphere on a yard when you say you're going! That can be really unpleasant.

I'd stick with your original plan and move Saturday when it's all organised for and ignore them in the meantime other than a polite hello and goodbye if need be. I hope they don't make your last few days too stressful and good luck with your move.
 
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