Late paying sharer - votes please

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My new sharer started Monday. Said she can't pay til next Tue cos 'car needed a service'. I don't need the money especially but i'm annoyed (my car needed a service too ironically).

What would u do?
 
Give her a chance! If she ends up being unreliable repeatedly then bring it up and maybe just say to her this time it's fine but would be great if you could set up a direct debit for the first of the month, or whatever :)
 
When was she due to pay?

I would probably warn her that this is the 1st and last time late payment will be accepted and a repeat will result in immediate termination of the share.
 
Give her the benefit of the doubt and chill out? Are there any other problems so far? If she is brilliant for the horse but just a bit skint right now then I would just wait.

I find that cash payments in sharer situations very, rarely happen on a particular day all the time.


Jeepers - you guys would scare me :) I do understand the principles behind what you are saying but I guess I give people the benefit of the doubt but if they do take the mick I do make that clear to them.
 
I'd probably be nice this time and ask them to set up a standing order for the 1st of each month to pay you so that they don't 'forget' in the future :)
 
Surely, if an agreement is made and a payment of money is requested it should be one of the first things the sharer should ensure, that they have enough money to keep their side of the bargain. If no money was requested fair do's. I have been messed around so many times by tyre kickers who want to try before they buy, so to speak, use my horse for a few weeks and then decide its not for them ... and don't bother paying. I have given endless people the benefit of the doubt and where has it gotten me? Absolutely, blinkin' nowhere.
 
Thanks.

I guess my patience is wearing thin with sharers generally, I usually bend over backwards but not anymore, certainly not for the very reasonable £50 monthly contribution I'm asking for!

In answer to when she was supposed to pay? It was all agreed on 23 Sept & Agreement signed etc last week.

Yes she does seem good with my horse & him with her so lets see what happens....
 
Asking her to set up a standing order is a good idea. I personally would have said "thats ok if you cant pay until next week, i am quite happy to start the share from next week - its no problem!". that approach creates the impression of being accomodating whilst saying that the payment goes with the share! The tricky thing is that if you are not careful in the early stages you can give the impression that you are too relaxed about things like this and people think its ok to "flex" things whenever it suits. tell her you have a seperate bank account for your horsey expenses and there is no overdraft on it so you need to know exactly when the money goes in so you can plan when to pay your bills, therefore it is much easier for you if she pays by standing order in future.
 
maresmaid said:
Asking her to set up a standing order is a good idea. I personally would have said "thats ok if you cant pay until next week, i am quite happy to start the share from next week - its no problem!". that approach creates the impression of being accomodating whilst saying that the payment goes with the share! The tricky thing is that if you are not careful in the early stages you can give the impression that you are too relaxed about things like this and people think its ok to "flex" things whenever it suits. tell her you have a seperate bank account for your horsey expenses and there is no overdraft on it so you need to know exactly when the money goes in so you can plan when to pay your bills, therefore it is much easier for you if she pays by standing order in future.
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Totally agree. I had similar with my horse and ended up being out of pocket when she gave up. :rolleyes:
 
tell her this one off is ok. but it has to be on time from then on.
set up a standing order so you know it will get paid on time.

Or if it has really annoyed you and you think she will be a problem tell her to get lost!
 
Give her another chance and, I agree, say that the share doesn't start until next week. Good sharers are hard to find and going into winter, you might not find another.

I had a sharer once who used to text that she was going on holiday and so both wouldn't pay while she wasn't there to ride him, and could I do the horse on her days for the period when she was away. My fault for not having a firm agreement from the outset that she had to pay and organise cover for holidays. Make sure you have an agreement that she is taking on the responsibility, not just paying for rides.
 
Give her a chance. If she wasn't expecting to find a share quickly she may not of budgeted. The time it would take to find someone else you would probably be better off waiting for the money off her.
 
How would your vet, your farrier, your feed supplier react if you asked them for credit? No matter how good the reason. Your horse's bills don't go away. Neither should you.

I do understand the sympathetic approach but at the end of the day you have to pay for the horse. When the relationship is established and you like and want to keep her is the time to be sympathetic. Sorry - but after a lot of expereince of various sharers for my daughter's ponies I can get a bit tough.
 
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