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Still wittering on
@Kirstineridesagain yikes! That;s appalling. But tbhI think you are well out of it, despite your daughter's disappointment. Why would you subject her to that level of toxic behaviour again? For the sake of our sanity, sometimes we need to recognise that someone/somewhere is Very Bad News and walk away.
In the past I have stuck with a trainer like that who was also my YO. she was AWFUL! Got the hump if you ever had a lesson anywhere else - even in a different discipline or somewhere like a XC clinic which she could not offer. She'd insist I put in a strong bit I hated, and have a go at me if I changed it back after the lesson. She'd be hostile/rude about other trainers/riders/horses. Urgh she was horrid.
I was a muppet to stay for so long, but I lacked the confidence to trust my own judgement and ditch her. Though in the end I did, and what a relief it was to get away. I did have to leave the yard too, after stopping lessons, or the grief I got would have been unbearable. But it was 100% worth it. I stayed polite, but she also blocked me on social media and blanks me at competitions.
I have become a much better advcocate for myself and my horses since then.
Sometimes a complaint gives you very good information about the level of professionalism a person does -or doesn't - have. So even if the complaint triggers a negative reaction - well that's useful to know too. There are good, kind, competent, horse centred, supportive and professional people out there. We don't need to waste our time and money on people who aren't. I have become so much more choosy about the people I want around me and my horses.
In the past I have stuck with a trainer like that who was also my YO. she was AWFUL! Got the hump if you ever had a lesson anywhere else - even in a different discipline or somewhere like a XC clinic which she could not offer. She'd insist I put in a strong bit I hated, and have a go at me if I changed it back after the lesson. She'd be hostile/rude about other trainers/riders/horses. Urgh she was horrid.
I was a muppet to stay for so long, but I lacked the confidence to trust my own judgement and ditch her. Though in the end I did, and what a relief it was to get away. I did have to leave the yard too, after stopping lessons, or the grief I got would have been unbearable. But it was 100% worth it. I stayed polite, but she also blocked me on social media and blanks me at competitions.
I have become a much better advcocate for myself and my horses since then.
Sometimes a complaint gives you very good information about the level of professionalism a person does -or doesn't - have. So even if the complaint triggers a negative reaction - well that's useful to know too. There are good, kind, competent, horse centred, supportive and professional people out there. We don't need to waste our time and money on people who aren't. I have become so much more choosy about the people I want around me and my horses.
